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On Tue, 25 Jun 2024 20:50:46 -0700, Rudy Canoza, forever the mental and 
physical midget, who was *NEVER* a three sport letterman, like me, and who was 
*NEVER* a bouncer, like me, and who was *NEVER* an assistant golf pro, like me, 
and who was *NEVER* a lifeguard, like me, and who *NEVER* dunked a basketball, 
like me, and has *NEVER* laid as many women as me, says... 

> >> (Hysterically) YOU ARE NOT CONVICTED UNTIL THE JUDGE ENTERS THAT JUDGMENT OF
> >> GUILT.
> 
> Posting in all caps is hysterical shrieking. This is settled.

So, stop posting in all caps, you hysterical little girl.
 
> > Where is the New York State law that says that?
> 
> There isn't one.

Thanks.

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The Narcissistic Semantics-Driven Idiot, Rudy

A friend of mine was telling me recently how she'd been arguing with her 
husband. This guy is an alcoholic, jobless, abusive narcissist and everyone 
knows she'd be better off without him.

She told me that she found it pointless to tell him anything that was upsetting 
her because they'd stray from the point and just end up talking about her using 
"the wrong words."

"He always says use the right words... use the right words! So it's just not 
worth it." It was worth it because he was being a dick, but I can see where 
she's coming from. An argument with a narcissist is always going to be long, 
exhausting, and ultimately pointless. You're never going to get them to see 
your side of things because half the time you stray so far from the point that 
you can't remember what started the fight.

And it always seems to come down to semantics, what you said vs what you meant.
Semantics

You know what you meant, they know what you meant, and you know they know what 
you meant. Yet here you are, arguing about what you meant. It's infuriating and 
exhausting, people use the wrong words occasionally. Or maybe there's a more 
appropriate word they could have used. Maybe they were exaggerating, something 
everyone does, particularly during an argument. Most people brush it off as 
what it was, a mistake or an exaggeration, but not a narcissist. They've got to 
prove their vast linguistic knowledge by picking you up on every little thing 
you said. It's their way of feeling smug and superior whilst attempting to make 
you look silly.

It's also a way of guiding the argument in a different direction, away from 
their behavior, onto your choice of words. This helps them avoid responsibility 
for what they did because they knew you'll eventually get tired of arguing 
about nonsense and give up. Then they've won three times, they got away with 
it, they've stopped the argument and they've broken your spirit that little bit 
more.

Narcissists operate in much the same way as an internet troll who corrects 
grammar and spelling. They know you're making good points and everything you're 
saying is true, so they've got nothing else to work with. So they pick on your 
choice of words, it's juvenile and transparent, but it's so frustrating that it 
often works.

It's misdirection in one of its most sinister forms. They're drawing your 
attention away from what they did and getting you to focus on something else.