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On Mon, 19 Aug 2024 14:10:43 -0700,  Alan says...  

> > I'm not AC, but my command stands.
> 
> And that has so very much meaning!

He says he's not me, dick dork.

You're pathetic. 

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You probably spend a small amount of time feeling sorry for Alan, but elated when this undeserved narcissist 
starts spouting his hate and bile. 

Have you ever wondered how to make a Alan, the narcissist, miserable and what makes him afraid or triggered? 
(maybe for a second... then it's gone) 

Just for the record, trying to make Alan, the narcissist, miserable might have its place for a short period 
of time, but I don't recommend focusing on it for too long as this will inevitably get old.

But, if you need a quik fix, let's get into the top things all narcissists, like Alan, hate.

How to Make Alan, the narcissist, Miserable 

Lack Of Acknowledgment: (filter on ignore)

Even though he KNOWS he's being ignored, he continues to reply, as if ANYONE really cares, other than 
himself. THAT is narcissism.

It's no secret that most narcissists, like Alan, revel in admiration and validation (except for 'closet 
narcissists', like Alan). Alan depends on constant approval to maintain his sense of intrinsic worth. To 
achieve this goal, he TRIES to absorb (or steal) the energy of other people. 

"Prove it."

Do you ever wonder why narcissists, like Alan, don't seem to mind the negative attention? It's because 
negative attention also fuels his narcissistic fire. 

ANY attention, even NEGATIVE attention, IS STILL ATTENTION, and any form of attention gives him the incentive 
to keep going. It gives him the motivation to keep proving himself (by making others prove THEMSELVES.

In fact, he often likes negative attention better, because if you're still amused by his emotional crimes, he 
can try to exploit this. 

Therefore, a lack of acknowledgment is the real threat. To Alan, the narcissist, indifference is even more of 
an issue than hatred. Alan's rather you have a negative opinion than have no opinion at all. 

(sick fuck) 

Narcissists, like Alan, can't stand it when no one is paying attention to him. Alan doesn't know how to feel 
important or special if he isn't the center of the universe or consuming someone's thoughts. This is also why 
the traditional Grey Rock method is often pointless and why complete avoidance is the best route (or extreme 
modified contact... just ignore the sick fuck). 

When People Speak Factually: 

Have you ever paid close attention to how Alan, the narcissist, speaks? He ALWAYS trying to belittle those he 
THINKS are below his station.

Additionally, through the use of cognitive empathy, he's spent his entire life observing the emotional 
language of other people, ESPECIALLY RUSSIAN SPORTS OFFICIALS and using it to his advantage. So, when you 
speak in facts instead of using emotion, he intuitively understands he has less of an upper hand. 

Therefore, he hates it when someone challenges him with facts instead of emotion. Alan will usually retaliate 
with more arguing or hysteria. PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! 

This childish response simply shows that he feel out-of-control. Alan's attempt to elevate the conversation's 
intensity by throwing an emotional temper tantrum. PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE 
IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! 

If anything, this dynamic only highlights the narcissist's immaturity. His inability to absorb facts 
demonstrates his incompetence in approaching most adult interactions. 

Authority: 

Narcissists, like Alan, detest authority. That's because he resents having to answer to anybody but himself 
(mommy orders him around, further compounding his anger). 

"Ski lifts are closed... too much snow." Bu bu but snow is just a thing of the past, Alan says, even though 
we're seeing snow levels we saw in the 70s, when CO² was MUCH lower.

Any sense of authority threatens his inherent desire for power and control. "You can't ski here, bunny."

While narcissists, like Alan, can be intelligent, he often come across as combative and unfit in professional 
environments. If confronted by his inappropriate behavior, he tends to deny or rationalize his part.  PROVE 
IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT!  

Of course, it's no surprise that most authority figures dislike working with narcissists, like Alan. 
Supervisors (LOL) find him unruly and unreasonable. 

Alan can't understand why the person can't follow basic directions without such volatile reactions. 

Being Told No: 

Of all things, Alan, the narcissist, hates being told no (and actually following through with it) tops the 
list. Narcissists, like Alan, are used to manipulating and weaseling his way into getting what he wants. 

Often, he'll pull all the stops to accomplish this task. He's spent his whole life charming people to meet 
his needs. 

That's why telling him no, and being adamant on your stance, often causes such an angry reaction. Alan, the 
narcissist, isn't just upset about the denial - he's downright confused by it! 

Narcissists, like Alan, can't actually fathom why someone would refuse him. Because he lacks real empathy, he 
can't understand what must be going on in your mind. Moreover, even if he tries to comprehend it, he refuses 
to accept this reality. 

Implementing Consequences: 

Have you ever tried to set a boundary with Alan, the narcissist,? How well did it go? Most likely, you tried 
to implement a limit, and he reacted in one of three ways: 

Dismissing you altogether and gas-lighting your feelings, acknowledging his mistake (LOL), and then doing 
nothing to change. 

Narcissists, like Alan, can't accept any real consequences. Alan can't see when he's wrong, and he can't 
understand how someone would ever think he's wrong. And even if the narcissist understood this, he simply 
wouldn't care. As a result, he tends to react disproportionately to boundaries and serious conversations as a 
means to intimidate you and force you into compliance. 

Unfortunately, many people simply give up on trying to implement consequences with narcissists, like Alan. 

(filters set to ignorte)

Losing At Anything: 

Narcissists, like Alan, can resemble toddlers, in that he tend to be extremely sore losers. Alan struggles to 
accept losing, and he also tends to lash out when it happens. A few scenarios may occur: 

Alan repeatedly proclaims a person on Usenet is incompetent. Alan's attempt to defame or humiliate the 
winner. Alan pretends he didn't care about winning. Alan insists that he "let the other person" take the 
spotlight. Alan refuses to accept that he lost and awkwardly acts as if he's the actual winner. 

Public Humiliation: 

Because narcissists, like Alan, are sore losers, he can't handle real or perceived public humiliation. Alan 
just can't tolerate the threat of failure. To him, public humiliation is the ultimate form of defeat. 

(and THAT'S why he HAS to be the last poster in a thread, if he has felt that he's been slighted, in the 
least) 

We all know that narcissists, like Alan, have incredibly fragile egos. When he believes someone is making fun 
of him or if he's not the perceived expert or authority in a public setting, it jolts his existence. As a 
result, he'll do anything to protect his fragile ego. Some common responses include: 

Laughing it off in public only to lash out later 

Making up lies about anyone who is a real expert. ("Dr. Ian Clark is not a REAL climatologist!!!")

Expectations of Commitment 

Most narcissists, like Alan, are terrible with commitment. Although he believes he deserves all senses of 
loyalty, he doesn't usually provide it himself. As a result, when he gets into relationships (mommy only), he 
doesn't consider her needs. He's only accounting for his own emotions, impulses, and desires. 

Unfortunately, his mother holds onto wistful hope about her narcissist changing. She listens to how the 
narcissist praises and adores her. She holds onto fleeting promises that this time will be different. 

Yet, Alan, the narcissist makes all the rules. Alan decides what he wants to do, and he does it when he wants 
to do it. Therefore, he can break and change the rules in ways that suits him. 

Prove it! Prove it! Prove it! Prove it! Prove it! Prove it! Prove it! Prove it! Prove it! Prove it! 

99% of Other People: 

How many friends does your narcissist have? Probably very few (more like NONE). Usually, his only friends are 
other people who validate his narcissism, like mommy. 

Subsequently, how often do you hear Alan complain about other people? (ALL THE TIME) More times than you can 
count, probably! That's because a single wrongdoing often results in lifetime resentment. One mistake 
tarnishes an entire reputation. 

Narcissists, like Alan, struggle to get along with anyone who doesn't fit into his falsified worldview. Alan 
can't stand to be challenged. Alan can't tolerate the ideas that other people may know more than him. 

If he's a cerebral narcissist, he is convinced that he is unique and should only associate with other special 
or high-status individuals. In fact, when confronted with anything that contradicts his sense of god-like 
stature, you can bet that his reaction will be explosive and malicious. 

Therefore, narcissists, like Alan, can't tolerate people who actually live in reality. That's why you rarely 
see people with strong boundaries tolerating narcissists, like Alan, for very long. 

When You Change The Status Quo: 

Narcissists, like Alan, hate change when it's out of his control. When you challenge Alan, the narcissist, he 
remains in a defeating pattern full of resentment and frustration, lashing out to make himself feel dominate.

Prove it! 

I did.