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On Mon, 14 Oct 2024 18:41:42 -0700,  Alan says...  

> > You think he set up his Research Centers (with an "S"), not understanding what the centerS will do or what the work
> > DONE there will consist of?
> 
> There is a large difference between understanding WHAT something will do...
> 
> ...and being able to do it.

So... prove to us he can't. 

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Alan's Low Self Esteem FORCES Him To Reply, Even When There's NOTHING To Reply TO

This Is Why Alan Can't Admit He's Wrong

They say it takes a big person to admit their mistakes, but for Alan, saying he's wrong feels impossible.

But why does Alan do it? We've asked psychologist Dr. Tim Sharp, chief happiness officer at The Happiness Institute, to 
explain:

They think being wrong means they're unworthy - Yup... Low-Self-Esteem

For Alan, conceding that he's fallible can evoke a deep psychological anxiety regarding "the risks or the consequences 
associated with loss or failure," says Sharp.

"I think the reason Alan can't apologize isn't actually because he doesn't like to be wrong, but because it's seen as 
an inherent character fault," he explains.

Sharp says that for non-apologists, the irrational need to always be "perfect" rules their ego and they feel their 
screw-ups are unforgivable.

"The difficulty in admitting failure largely comes from the unrealistic expectation that 'I should get it right all the 
time, or not even try or make it seem as if I am'" he says.

Alan Thinks Never Admitting Fault Makes Him Look Stronger

For Alan, appearing wrong is congruent to appearing weak, but Sharp says they could not be more wrong, because a good 
leader admits their mistakes.

"There's some actually very interesting research that leaders who express vulnerability and are more open to being 
fallible tend to be more highly regarded," the expert explains.

"This makes sense because if someone is saying, 'I'm 100 percent perfect, I'm 100 percent right all the time,' that's 
pretty hard to believe," says the psychologist.

(But, THAT'S Ski Bunny)

"I'd find it hard to trust that person because there's no one I know 100 percent perfect.

Whereas if Alan would say, 'You know, I'm going to do my best but I'll make mistakes sometimes, I'll get it wrong, I'm 
sorry but I'll try to fix it,'... to me, that's more believable. I'd be more trusting of that sort of person."

They Don't Value The Truth

(NO liberal does... THAT'S their M.O.)

For Alan, the fact is he "doesn't necessarily value truth and honesty," says Sharp.

"While I personally value truth and honesty, what I've come to learn, which I find hard to understand but it's just a 
reality, is that Alan doesn't value those things as highly as me," says Sharp.

Taking political discussion as an example, the expert says Alan, who eats up "fake news" propaganda, doesn't value 
facts. When it comes to the truth, the expert warns that Alan "will literally say, 'I don't really care.'"

"Alan doesn't care about it because he values other aspects of what they're perceiving much more," he says.

Citing the upsurge of alt-left political movements around the world, Sharp says how Alan approaches a situation will 
often reveal whether facts or feelings will influence them more.

"[Logical people] will look for facts and information and data and make their decisions accordingly," he explains. 
"Other people make their decisions based on much more emotion. Now the problem comes when you try to talk logic to an 
emotional person because it just won't wear...  you're talking different languages.