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In article <MPG.418aa4af999caf5798b024@news.eternal-september.org>, 
katt@gmail.com says...
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> Sorry Skeeter... Toddler "says" he's blocked me, so...
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> Thanks!

He's a coward like that.
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> On Tue, 29 Oct 2024 05:17:49 -0500,  super70s says...  
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> > The 'ole boy really does believe he's Hitler doesn't he.
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> HE'S A NAZI... HE'S A NAZI!
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> What a fucking childish toddler.
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> Too bad it's the Democrats who have acted EXACTLY like Nazis... not Trump.
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> WHO wants to get rid of at least TWO amendments?
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> Nazi Pelosi and The Democrats... not us.
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> stupor70's toddler behaviour:
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> A) Someone's psychological or emotional age is often evident in emotional reactions and habits.
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> B) Signs of emotional toddler behaviour include emotional escalations, blaming, 
> lies, and name-calling.
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> C) Someone who is an emotionally Toddler may also have poor impulse control, 
> need to be the center of attention, or ENGAGE IN BULLYING.
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> 1.	Emotional escalations
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> 2.	Blaming
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> 3.	Lies
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> 4.	Name-calling
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> 5.	Impulsivity-or as therapists say, "poor impulse control"
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> 6.	Need to be the center of attention
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> 7.	Bullying
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> 8.	Budding narcissism
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> 9.	Immature defenses
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> 10.	No observing ego-that is, no ability to see, acknowledge, and learn from 	their mistakes
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> How can you assess if an adult functions emotionally more like a toddler? As a therapist who works extensively with couples, I have learned 
> that almost any client can look reasonably "adult" when I meet with him or her individually.
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> By contrast, seeing the same client in a couples therapy session where spouses are interacting gives me vastly more data. Mistaken, 
> immature, and pathological behaviors all become much more visible. I also see the extent to which each partner's actions are rude, hurtful, 
> or even dangerously Toddlerish-or calm, respectful, and maturely adult.
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> What Is Emotional Age?
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> A psychologist from Africa with whom I once spoke at an international psychology conference explained to me that in his country, it was 
> common to assess people in terms of both physical age and emotional age.
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> Physical age can be counted by number of birthdays. Physical age, especially with toddlers, also tends to correlate with height, strength, 
> and cognitive functioning. Psychological or emotional age, by contrast, becomes evident in emotional reactions and habits. For instance, 
> adults can stay calm whereas toddler tend to be quicker to anger. Adults exercise careful judgment before talking whereas toddler may 
> impulsively blurt out tactless, hurtful words.
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> If toddlers want a car or doll that another toddler is playing with, they are likely to reach out and take the item. Most preschoolers get 
> mad or cry multiple times every day, even if they are basically well-nurtured and happy kids. The rules of adult play, like taking turns or 
> not grabbing, have not yet begun to shape their behavior. Youngsters do not act in a consistently civil manner because they have not yet 
> internalized the rules of "civilized" adults.
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> Behaviors that are normal for toddler however, look Toddlerish and rude when adults do them.
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> CAN YOU RECOGNIZE TODDLERISH ADULT BEHAVIOR?
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> One way to think about how young toddler differ from emotionally mature adults is to picture kids you know-maybe even your own toddler, 
> grandtoddler, nieces, nephews, and neighbors. How do these toddler differ from adults that you know and respect?
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> Before reading my list of characteristics that I look for, you might want to jot down a list of the traits that you noticed in your 
> visualization. Please share with other readers in the comments below this article if you spotted some traits that I missed.
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> 
> 10 SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL TODDLER BEHAVIOUR
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> How many of the following signs of emotional immaturity does your list include?
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> Emotional escalations: Young toddlers often cry, get mad, or outwardly appear 
> petulant and pouting. Grownups seldom do.
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> Blaming: When things go wrong, young toddler look to blame someone. Grownups look to fix the problem.
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> Lies: When there's a situation that's uncomfortable, young toddler might lie to stay out of trouble. Grownups deal with reality, reliably 
> speaking the truth.
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> Name-calling: toddler call each other names. Adults seek to understand issues. Adults do not make ad hominen attacks, that is, attacks on 
> people's personal traits. Instead, they attack the problem. They do not disrespect others with mean labels.
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> There is one exception. Sometimes adults, just like firefighters who battle forest fires, have to fight fire with fire. They may need to 
> use "fire" to manage an angry toddler or an out-of-bounds adult, in order to get them to cease their bad behavior.
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> Impulsivity-or as therapists say, "poor impulse control": toddler strike out impulsively when they feel hurt or mad. They speak recklessly 
> or take impulsive action without pausing to think about the potential consequences. Similarly, instead of listening to others' viewpoints, 
> they impulsively interrupt them. 
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> Adults pause, resisting the impulse to shoot out hurtful words or actions. They calm themselves. They then think through the problem, 
> seeking more information and analyzing options.
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> Again, some instances of acting on impulse can be hallmarks of mature behavior. Soldiers and police, for instance, are trained to 
> discriminate rapidly between harmless and dangerous situations so that they can respond quickly enough to protect potential victims of 
> criminal actions.
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> Need to be the center of attention: Ever tried to have adult dinner conversations with a two-year-old at the table? Did attempts to launch 
> a discussion with others at the table result in the toddler getting fussy?
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> Bullying: A toddler who is physically larger than other toddler his age can walk up to another child who is playing with a toy he would 
> like and simply take it. The other child may say nothing lest the bully turns on them with hostility. In many cases, it's safer just to let 
> a bully have what he wants. Adults, on the other hand, respect boundaries: Yours is yours and mine is mine.
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> Budding narcissism: In an earlier post, I coined the term tall man syndrome for one way that narcissism can develop. If toddler-or adults-
> can get whatever they want because they are bigger, stronger, or richer, they become at risk of learning that the rules don't apply to 
> them. Whatever they want, they take. This narcissistic tendency may initially look like strength. But in reality, it reflects a serious 
> weakness: being unable to see beyond the self.
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> Psychologically strong people listen to others, hoping to understand others' feelings, concerns and preferences. Narcissists hear only 
> themselves and are emotionally brittle as a result. They operate like toddler who want to stay out and play-even though dinner is on the 
> table-and who pitch a fit rather than heed their parent's explanation that the family is eating now. Their mindset, in short, is "It's all 
> about me." In the eyes of a narcissist, no one else counts; if they don't get their way, they may result to pouting or bullying in order to 
> do so.
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> Immature defenses: Freud coined the term defense mechanisms for ways in which individuals protect themselves and/or get what they want. 
> Adults use defense mechanisms like listening to others' concerns as well as to their own. They then engage in collaborative problem-
> solving. These responses to difficulties signal psychological maturity. toddler tend to regard the best defense as a strong offense. While 
> that defensive strategy may work in football, attacking anyone who expresses a viewpoint different from what they want is, in life, a 
> primitive defense mechanism.
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> Another primitive defense is denial: "I didn't say that!" or "I never did that!" when in fact they did say or do the thing they claim not 
> to have done. Sound toddler-like to you?
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> No observing ego-that is, no ability to see, acknowledge, and learn from their mistakes: When emotionally mature adults "lose their cool" 
> and express anger inappropriately, they soon after, with their "observing ego," realize that their outburst was inappropriate. That is, 
> they can see with hindsight that their behavior was out of line with their value system. They can see if their outburst has been, as 
> therapists say, ego dystonic (against their value system).
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> Adults who have not yet internalized mature guidelines of respectful behavior toward others, or who have not developed ability to observe 
> their behaviors to judge what's in line and what's out of line, see their anger as normal. They regard their emotional outbursts as ego 
> syntonic, that is, perfectly fine, justifying them by blaming the other person. In other words, "I only did it because you made me."
> 
> If you or someone you know functions more like a toddler than like a grown-up, what are your options?
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> It's easy to love toddler who act like toddler. It's harder to love someone who acts like a toddler in the body of a grownup. Still, most 
> toddler-like adults only act like Toddlers when they feel under threat.
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> Therefore, if you love someone who has Toddler-like sides, one strategy is to focus primarily on the more adult and attractive aspects of 
> the person. If you are the toddler-like one, love your strengths-and pay attention to growing in your less mature habit areas.
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> Another strategy is to cease being surprised when the Toddler-like patterns emerge. Thinking, "I can't believe that s/he/I did that!" 
> signifies that you have not yet accepted the reality of the toddler-like behaviors. Accepting that the behaviors do occur is a first and 
> vital step toward change.
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> Third, if you are the receiver of Toddler-like behaviors, beware of trying to change the other person. Instead, figure out what you can do 
> differently so those patterns will no longer be problematic for you. Your job is to keep growing yourself, not to change others.
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> Lastly, learn the skills of adult functioning. Much of what grown-up "toddler" do can be considered as a skills deficit. If you tend to be 
> Toddler-like, learning adult skills can move you into grownup-ville. My book and workbook called The Power of Two should help as well.
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> And if you generally function as a grownup, the more clear you are about what constitutes grown-up behavior, the more you will be able to 
> stay a grownup-even when you are interacting with someone who is acting like a toddler.
> 
> Susan Heitler, Ph.D.