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On Fri, 8 Nov 2024 19:23:44 -0800, Rudy Canoza, forever the mental and physical midget, who was *NEVER* a three sport letterman, like me, 
and who was *NEVER* a bouncer, like me, and who was *NEVER* an assistant golf pro, like me, and who was *NEVER* a lifeguard, like me, and 
who *NEVER* dunked a basketball, like me, and has *NEVER* laid as many women as me, says... 

> What is your illness? Let's hear it.

We know yours, psycho.

TDS, delusions, psychopath, chronic and habitual lying, homosexuality AND homophobia, anger, getting attention deficit, childishness, 
misanthropy, narcissism, racism... 

We know ALL of them. (see below)

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Trump WINS!

Donald Trump is the 47th U.S. president, defeating Vice President Kamala Harris.

Republican Donald Trump was elected President of the United States in the 2024 election, defeating Vice President Kamala Harris. 

Trump, 78, will begin his second term early next year after losing his first reelection bid to President Joe Biden back in 2020. 

Donald Trump will be inaugurated as the U.S. President on Monday, January 20, 2025, on the West Front of the U.S. Capitol in Washington, 
D.C. 

Second Trump Administration

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"Trump Derangement Syndrome" Is a Real Mental Condition

All you need to know about "Trump Derangement Syndrome," or TDS.

"Trump Derangement Syndrome (TDS) is a mental condition in which a person has been driven effectively insane due to their dislike of Donald 
Trump, to the point at which they will abandon all logic and reason."

Justin Raimondo, the editorial director of Antiwar.com, wrote a piece in the Los Angeles Times in 2016 that broke TDS down into three 
distinct phases or stages:

"In the first stage of the disease, victims lose all sense of proportion. The president-elect's every tweet provokes a firestorm, as if 140 
characters were all it took to change the world."

"The mid-level stages of TDS have a profound effect on the victim's vocabulary: Sufferers speak a distinctive language consisting solely of 
hyperbole."

"As TDS progresses, the afflicted lose the ability to distinguish fantasy from reality."

The Point here is simple: TDS is, in the eyes of its adherents, the knee-jerk opposition from liberals to anything and everything Trump 
does. If Trump announced he was donating every dollar he's ever made, TDS sufferers would suggest he was up to something nefarious, 
according to the logic of TDS. There's nothing - not. one. thing. - that Trump could do or say that would be received positively by TDSers.

The history of Trump Derangement Syndrome actually goes back to the early 2000s - a time when the idea of Trump as president was a punch 
line for late-night comics and nothing more.

Wikipedia traces its roots to "Bush Derangement Syndrome" - a term first coined by the late conservative columnist Charles Krauthammer back 
in 2003. The condition, as Krauthammer defined it, was "the acute onset of paranoia in otherwise normal people in reaction to the policies, 
the presidency - nay - the very existence of George W. Bush."

Added Krauthammer:

"Some clinicians consider this delusion - that Americans can only get their news from one part of the political spectrum - the gravest of 
all. They report that no matter how many times sufferers in padded cells are presented with flash cards with the symbols ABC, NBC, CBS, 
CNN, MSNBC, NPR, PBS, Time, Newsweek, New York Times, Washington Post, L.A. Times - they remain unresponsive, some in a terrifying near-
catatonic torpor."

(If you don't realize the idea of TDS or BDS is - in no small part - meant in a tongue-in-cheek manner then, well, you may well have it.)

Trump allies believe that TDS is worse than ODS or BDS - by a lot. Wrote conservative pundit Bernie Goldberg on Real Clear Politics in 
early 2017:

"Before the election, the victims of TDS routinely compared Donald Trump to Hitler. Guess what. They're still doing it. Articles in 
respectable publications written by professors at elite universities are warning us to be on guard, that a Trump presidency could imperil 
democracy-as-we-know-it and may very well spell doom for American civilization.

"On election night, as it became obvious that their worst nightmare was about to come true, some libs fainted. Some vomited. Many more 
threatened to leave the country, but I'm pretty sure none actually did. As Donald Trump might say in a tweet: so sad!"

The truth is that TDS is just the preferred nomenclature of Trump defenders who view those who oppose him and his policies as nothing more 
than the blind hatred of those who preach tolerance and free speech. Viewed more broadly, the rise of presidential derangement syndromes is 
a function of increased polarization - not to mention our national self-sorting - at work in the country today.

We no longer live around, work around or pal around with people who think any differently than us. We watch cable news that affirms what we 
already think. We read ideological "news" sites that tell us how good our side is and how bad the other one is. And on and on and on.

Is it any wonder then that we are increasingly willing to lump those who disagree with us into the "deranged" category? To say that those 
who don't share our views are mentally deficient in some way?

What does it say about a President - and about a country - when the standard response to those with whom you disagree is that they must be 
crazy? Nothing good, for sure. 

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Many clinicians, political commentators, and members of the public have speculated upon the mental health of President Donald Trump. 
Indeed, over 70,000 people self-identifying as "mental health professionals" have signed a petition declaring that "Trump is mentally ill 
and must be removed." In sociological terms, the "medical gaze" has been hitherto focused on President Trump, and to a lesser extent his 
ardent supporters.

However, in recent months, many have been questioning the direction of this "medical gaze." In fact, more and more people are suggesting 
that this "medical gaze" should be reversed and refocused on President Trump's most embittered and partisan opponents. Some have even 
suggested that these opponents are experiencing a specific mental condition-a condition which has been labelled "Trump Derangement 
Syndrome" (TDS).
What does DSM-5 say about "Trump Derangement Syndrome"?

Mental illnesses are officially classified in a dense and dry book published by the American Psychiatric Association (APA) known as the 
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5). This book contains 947 pages and lists hundreds of mental 
disorders; TDS is nowhere to be seen. Similarly, a review of scholarly databases such as MEDLINE and Google Scholar reveal no academic 
papers on this alleged syndrome. Officially at least, TDS is not a real, diagnosable, or treatable mental disorder.

That said, medical anthropologists and critical sociologists have convincingly argued that DSM-5 is a flawed document. Indeed, social 
scientists have long recognized that there are numerous "folk categories" of mental disorders that are considered real conditions by the 
general public, even though they are not recognized as such in the DSM. These include categories such as "burnout" or "nervous breakdown."

As such, lack of official recognition does not mean that TDS is not a real mental condition.


Lay Understandings of "Trump Derangement Syndrome"

There is no shared lay understanding of TDS, mainly because it is a folk category rather than a professional category. As such, there is 
currently much armchair speculation about the nature and existence of TDS, without consensus.

The name itself explicitly suggests a "syndrome," which the Oxford English Dictionary defines as "a characteristic combination of opinions, 
emotions, or behavior." Several commentators have run with this, putting forth suggestions about opinions, emotions and behaviors 
characterizing TDS.

Shared amongst these is a notion that the everyday activities of President Trump trigger some people into distorted opinions, extreme 
emotions and hysterical behaviors. Well-known writer Bernard Goldberg gives supposed behavioral examples of TDS among Trump's political 
opponents, including fainting, vomiting, students retreating to "safe spaces" and others demanding "therapy dogs." Political commentator 
Justin Raimondo focuses on opinions, language and cognition, writing in the LA Times that "sufferers speak a distinctive language 
consisting of hyperbole [leading to] a constant state of hysteria... the afflicted lose touch with reality."

Such forms of highly emotional reaction could be something akin to the fainting and screaming characterizing American Beatlemania in the 
1960s. Unlike the Beatles, however, the extreme emotional reaction alleged to characterize TDS is not based on adoration and admiration, 
but on fear and loathing.

Contrariwise, many others ridicule the notion that TDS is anything but a malicious slur term used to discredit and delegitimize criticism 
of President Trump. For example, CNN's Chris Cillizza may speak for many when he stated: "The truth is that TDS is just the preferred 
nomenclature of Trump defenders who view those who oppose him and his policies as nothing more than blind hatred." Likewise, Adam Gopnik 
writes that "our problem is not TDS; our problem is Deranged Trump Self-Delusion."

In other words, there are polarized opinions about the nature, reality and existence of TDS.


Conclusion

The wider public may be unaware that psychiatrists and social scientists spend considerable time and energy behind closed doors pondering 
over the existence and reality of mental conditions. This has led the APA to revise the DSM five times since 1952, considerably expanding 
the list of official mental disorders with each revision. As far as I am aware, few psychiatrists are currently arguing that DSM-6 should 
contain TDS as a mental disorder.

That said, in its official definition of mental disorder, the DSM-5 states that "a mental disorder is a syndrome characterized by 
clinically significant disturbance in an individual's cognition, emotion regulation, or behavior... mental disorders are usually associated 
with significant distress in social, occupational, or other important activities."

Many have argued that some people have been seriously disturbed and distressed by the policies, speech, behavior, and tweets of President 
Trump, so much so that it has affected their cognitive, affective, and behavioral functioning. Such people may need mental health support. 
As such, further research is necessary to investigate the extreme reactions toward President Trump, in the same way that researchers 
investigate other extreme social phenomena, such as Beatlemania or the like. This will shed light on the reality of this emerging folk 
category that has been labelled by many as "Trump Derangement Syndrome." 

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Rudy's Delusion of Grandeur

Rudy's delusions of grandeur, are the false beliefs in his own superiority, greatness, or intelligence. Rudy experiences delusions of 
grandeur, not just because he has low self-esteem; instead, Rudy believes in his own greatness and importance even in the face of 
overwhelming evidence to the contrary.

Yes.

Rudy might, for example, believe he is destined to be the leader of the Usenet world, despite having no leadership experience and 
DIFFICULTIES IN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS.

Rudy's delusions of grandeur are characterized by their persistence. They are not just moments of fantasy or hopes for the future.


Symptoms of Rudy's Delusions of Grandeur

Delusions of grandeur vary greatly in their content, but they are similar to one another in that they involve the persistent believe in 
one's own grandiosity. Common examples of delusions of grandeur include:

Belief that one has a special relationship with a supernatural entity. Cult leaders, for example, might believe they can communicate with a 
god or that they are a manifestation of a god on earth.

Belief that one has a special relationship with a famous person or authority figure, such as the president.

Belief that one has a unique destiny. These destinies often involve power, fame, fortune, or supernatural concepts.

Causes of Delusion of Grandeur

Delusions of grandeur are ASSOCIATED WITH NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER (NPD), which is a mental health diagnosis listed in the 
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM).

A NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY may cause Rudy to greatly overestimate his own importance and belief in his own uniqueness. THESE DELUSIONS CAN 
ALSO BE SYMPTOMATIC OF SCHIZOPHRENIA.

Rudy's battle with schizophrenia causes him to experience delusions in which he believe he is a hugely powerful person and has a great gift 
to give to the world.

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

According to Rudy... that would be himself.

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THIS is why Rudy is Rudy:

When Dad Isn't There

Research has found that when a father is not present it is likely:

	The infant was born pre-term or low birth weight or with dwarfism. 

	Many of these families will be low-income households.

	Children may struggle with regulating emotions which can lead to an increase in aggressive behavior and difficulty 	with social 
skills. Ding! Ding! Ding! Ding! Ding! 

	A child will become involved in risky behavior.

	Sons have the potential to struggle with gender identity and role confusion.

	Even if the biological father role is filled by another, some of these figures become temporary or have the potential 	of being 
abusive.

	Children will be left with feelings of blame or emptiness as to why their father left.

Where Did He Go?

What is the reason these fathers are not staying around? Though simply having children can suggest being a father, for many men there is 
more a father wants to provide for their family. Unemployment and lack of education can be contributing factors as to why fathers leave.5 
When men feel they are not meeting the social demands that define fathers, the idea of achieving other fatherly roles decreases and it may 
seem easier to leave. Other reasons for father absence can include imprisonment, infidelity, and abuse.

How to Help Children of Absent Fathers

Though the negative consequences of father absence can be disheartening, there is still hope for these children.

Include positive extended male family figures in the child's life. Children can form strong relationships as they have a safe, stable male 
figure to rely upon as they grow up. This could come from a grandparent, uncle, or another positive male family member. When these men are 
present for monumental moments in life, as well as day-to-day interactions, a void can be filled, and the child's confidence can grow.4 
Including extended family can also provide another resource for the mother to help reduce stress overload and feelings of loneliness.

If there is no male family member available or near to help, try finding a mentor in the community. When a child is able to spend time with 
a successful individual in their community, different doors of potential are opened to them to see ways that they can become successful.8 
Examples of mentors could be coaches, teachers, after school staff, ecclesiastical leaders, etc.

Find support groups in the local area. Just like children can find mentors, single mothers can find others working through these 
difficulties. There truly is strength in numbers. Brainstorm, network, and help each other. Though the past may not change, the future 
trajectory can be a positive one. Make time for you.

Growing up without a father brings risks, but that does not determine you or your child's future. Fatherless families can become resilient 
in their circumstance. Let those who your child will be interacting with know of their struggles. Teachers, caretakers, and other community 
figures can help alleviate the difficulties your child may face. But they cannot help if they are not aware. Remember, there is hope for 
brighter tomorrows. There are fathers who chose to stay in their child's life after growing up without their father. You do not have to let 
the absentee determine what your family will become. For stories of hope please visit the references below.

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Gay Narcissistic Personality Disorder And Gay Rudy

Gay Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition often erroneously mistaken for overconfidence or conceitedness.

"Professor Canoza"

Sufferers will often monopolize conversations, BELITTLE OTHERS, freely express their sense of SUPERIORITY and ENTITLEMENT and BECOME 
DEPRESSED, ANGRY and ABUSIVE in the face of perceived criticism which raises feelings of insecurity and shame.

There is a theory that gay men, like Rudy, may be particularly susceptible to narcissistic personality disorder(BINGO!), as a result of 
subconscious feelings of intense inadequacy, for which narcissism is an over-compensation. 

Counseling for gay men can offer the opportunity to discuss and resolve these issues. Unresolved, the symptoms of narcissistic personality 
disorder can have serious consequences, in terms of failure to form meaningful relationships, build friendships, develop careers and... 

...GETTING BANNED FROM ALL USENET SERVERS.

Common indicators

Criteria for diagnosing narcissistic personality disorder are generally considered to be an exaggerated sense of self-importance, feeling 
superior and expecting to be considered superior by others, exaggerating achievements, fantasizing about spectacular successes, demanding 
constant admiration and compliance, taking advantage of others while struggling to recognize their needs and feelings, believing they are 
envied by others and generally behaving arrogantly. Psychotherapy and counseling for gay men, like Rudy, can help open the process of 
exploring issues that underlie these responses.

When to seek help

Often people experiencing narcissistic personality disorder put off seeking clinical intervention. Their erroneous self-perception as 
powerful and perfect isolates them from others including medical professionals, and they generally only seek treatment when they experience 
associated symptoms of depression, as a result of perceived slights or rejections with which they struggle to cope.

Early medical intervention

If you recognize personality traits that are common to narcissistic personality disorder, or you're experiencing depression, anxiety or a 
disabling sadness, you should consider contacting your own doctor to discuss these feelings and related concerns, or contacting an 
experienced counselor or psychiatrist in London who may be able to offer insight, perspective and the counseling that allows you to 
confront this life-limiting condition. Getting appropriate treatment could make your life more rewarding and enjoyable.

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Rudy, the Compulsive Liar

A compulsive liar excesively lies to fabricate reality. Compulsive liars are those who lie over and over again. The dishonest behavior is 
second nature to them, and they may not even realize they're lying half the time (despite displaying the classic signs of a liar). While 
compulsively lying isn't classified as a disorder, it can be a sign of other mental health disorders, such as antisocial personality 
disorder.

Reasoning: Compulsive liars often make up stories and white lies because they fear criticism. For them, lying is a defense mechanism to 
protect them from reality.

How to Deal: Don't engage in a compulsive liar's lies. Instead, state simply, "That's not true," and walk away.
The terms "compulsive" and "habitual" are often used interchangeably.



Rudy, the Pathological Liar

A pathological liar is persistently dishonest for no reason. These liars tell small lies compulsively and habitually-it comes naturally to 
them. More often than not, their reality becomes tangled with their lies, mixing fact and fiction. Perhaps they exaggerate a story or don't 
tell the truth about what they had for breakfast. A pathological liar can have such a strong belief in their lies that they believe them to 
be true.

Reasoning: Pathological liars tend to have low self-esteem and will often lie to boost their ego, seek sympathy, or cure boredom.

How to Deal: Stop engaging in the conversation if you notice that they're lying. Pathological liars want you to believe what they believe, 
and if you don't indulge in the lie, they'll likely move on.

Like compulsive liars, pathological lying may be a sign of a personality or mental-health disorder; however, it's more difficult to spot a 
pathological liar.



Rudy, the Sociopathic Liar

A sociopathic liar lies on a routine basis to cause chaos. Their lying doesn't start or end on occasion; it's constant. Unlike other types 
of liars, a sociopath lies simply because they want to. There's no rhyme or reason to it, and they rarely feel remorse for their actions.

Reasoning: Sociopathic liars lie to gratify their own needs. They want what they want and won't hesitate to burn a few bridges to get it.

How to Deal: Be honest with a sociopathic liar to derail their schemes. Call out their blatant lie with facts you know to be true with 
something like, "Really? See, I heard something different."

Sociopathic and psychopathic lying are generally the same thing, with the only difference being the personality disorder associated with 
their dishonesty.



Rudy, the Narcissistic Liar

A narcissistic liar seeks attention but denies responsibility. These types of liars use gaslighting to fuel their lies. They may appear to 
be a "people person," but their social connections often stem from exaggerations and lies. A narcissist's lies may seem childish, as their 
lies are a people-pleasing game.

Reasoning: Narcissistic liars twist the truth to hide themselves. Deep down, they're insecure and will do whatever it takes not to be 
vulnerable.

How to Deal: Don't engage in a narcissistic liar's drama. Instead, take what they say with a grain of salt and analyze the facts. If what 
they say contradicts what you know, it's probably a lie.
Narcissistic liars are a type of compulsive liar; however, they appear to be a hero or victim when fabricating their reality.



Rudy, the Intentional Liar

An intentional liar lies for enjoyment. These types of liars love the drama lying creates. They think lying is fun-an entertaining game 
they can play whenever they like. More often than not, their white lies, fibs, and exaggerations are mean-spirited and intended to stir the 
pot or push someone's buttons.
Reasoning: Intentional liars are deceptive for attention. They're likely insecure and lie to boost their ego and appear powerful.

How to Deal: Avoid engaging in lies and gossip with an intentional liar. The more you react to their lies, the more lies they'll create.

Unlike pathological liars, intentional liars are fully aware of the dishonest web they weave.



Rudy, the Careless Liar

A careless liar doesn't care about the implications of lying. This type of liar is often sloppy or careless when it comes to bending the 
truth. They likely won't try to hide it or put much thought into forming the "perfect lie." Instead, they'll spew whatever comes to mind, 
often leading to further lies or conversational hiccups.

Reasoning: Careless liars typically lie on the spot to cover up a mistake, fear, or insecurity. The lie hastily comes out to protect 
themselves from facing the truth.

How to Deal: Call a careless liar out on their lie to halt them in their tracks. They know they're lying, and confronting them and 
genuinely asking how they're doing may help them admit it.
A careless liar's lies are usually easy to spot because they don't formulate a clever story or tale beforehand.



Rudy, the Impressive Liar

An impressive liar aims to be the best. This type of liar wants to be the most impressive of the group. They'll exaggerate stories and tell 
white lies to look like the hero. For instance, the classic "I caught a fish this big" tale is often told by an impressive liar.

Reasoning: Impressive liars want to feel self-assured and liked by others and often lie to hide insecurities or embarrassment.

How to Deal: Let an impressive liar's lie roll off you. If something sounds too good to be true, say, "Yeah, sure," and walk away or change 
the topic.

An impressive liar doesn't lie to be malicious or mean-spirited. They lie to fabricate the truth to match their wild version of reality.



Rudy, the Encouraging Liar

An Encouraging liar lies to welcome conflict. Encouraging liars lie to scheme, manipulate, or intentionally harm; they lie to keep the 
argument going. Conflict is their best case scenario, and these liars often dance around the truth to court confrontation.

Reasoning: Encouraging liars are likely dishonest to further confrontation.

How to Deal: Don't let an Encouraging liar drag you away from an important conversation.

Encouraging liars usually lie every day; however, the more they lie, the easier it'll become and the more often they'll do it.

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When The Narcissist Fails

A Cautionary Examination of How Narcissists React To Failure


Key points

Any public embarrassment of a narcisist can cause them to unleash further anger, rage, attacks, unethical comportment, and incivility.

Even in light of factual evidence to the contrary, a narcissist who fails will lie more profusely and adamantly.

As a narcissist faces failure, arrest, indictment, or dismissal, they will endlessly air their grievances.

Not without cause, malignant narcissism is one of the most searched-for topics on the internet in part because seemingly there are so many 
people that appear to have those toxic traits that negatively impact us. These individuals are notorious because they destabilize our 
lives, make us feel insecure, undervalued, disparaged, or inconsequential, and as I noted in my book, Dangerous Personalities, they can 
victimize us emotionally, physically, and even financially. They come into our lives as family members, friends, lovers, spouses, 
colleagues at work, bosses, or worst as national leaders. Once they enter our orbit, no matter how distant, toxicity is what they have in 
common and they always leave a debris field of human suffering behind them.

By now, we recognize how dangerous these individuals are, precisely because their pathology drives so much of their sordid behavior, 
especially toward others. Their common traits such as a hyper-inflated sense of entitlement, grandiose feelings of superiority or 
uniqueness, delusions of infallibility, incessant disregard for the truth, perennial conniving and scheming to take advantage of others, 
feeling that rules and laws don't apply to them, and of course the need to debase others, coupled with callousness, not only wears on us, 
it can have devastating consequences.

The one area that is rarely talked about when it comes to malignant narcissists is what happens when they fail. Failure in private, at 
work, or as leaders for the narcissist can be quite disquieting if not traumatic for the rest of us. As Stuart Yudofsky notes in Fatal 
Flaws, these individuals are so severely "flawed of character," that they handle failure much differently than you and I because they are 
not introspective or capable of reform, and are lacking in empathy for others.

We often see narcissists in glowing terms as successful leaders of industry, or as heads of state, and yet, more often than not, their 
malignancy will likely, in time, ensure their own downfall, failure, or even arrest. Be it because they cheat on taxes, because they 
embezzle money, they circumvent rules and laws, they cheat business partners, they devalue and torment their family or domestic partner to 
the point of divorce, or in the case of cults (thinking of Jim Jones and Charles Manson here) or as national leaders, they can lead their 
followers or their nation into actions that are destructive. And so, when calamity strikes or failure of some sort is inevitable, how the 
narcissist reacts and what we, as potential victims of their actions can expect to see, is what this article is about.

As with many personality disorders, those who are severely flawed of character, but especially the narcissist, when they face public 
disgrace, when they are outed as criminals or for their misbehavior, or when they fail in a very public way-that is when they become 
metastable, placing us as family, friends, co-workers, corporations, the public, or a nation in greatest danger. When things begin to sour 
for the narcissist, here is what we can expect:

They will falsely claim that everything is fine and that there is nothing wrong. They will try to first misdirect us or claim there is 
nothing to the allegations or circumstances.

If evidence is presented, they will seek to have it invalidated or claim that 
it is false, fake, or a product of vague conspiracies, but most certainly not 
true.

Any evidence presented, and those that present it will be attacked aggressively 
and vindictively. The better the evidence, the more aggressive the attack. 
Individuals who are doing the right thing by reporting criminal acts, unethical 
behavior, or failings are to be discredited, humiliated, hounded, and bullied-
not even their families are to be spared if need be. The narcissist will engage 
supporters or enablers to simultaneously attack those who offer proof or 
evidence, even if it embarrassingly exposes their poodle-like behavior as that 
of spineless sycophants.

Foolproof evidence will be portrayed as false and the result of pettiness, 
jealousies, bad actors, malicious individuals, negativity, haters, enemies, 
losers, conspirators, opposition, gain seekers, the faithless (usually seen in 
religious groups or cults), or as we are seeing now in American politics, "fake 
news" or "deep state" actors. There is always a large constellation of people 
to blame, the narcissist casts wide to see which vacuous claim resonates, 
especially with their supporters.

As they lash out with vindictiveness, the malignant narcissist will continue to 
talk about themselves in glowing terms; irrespective of their actual situation, 
as they are incapable of introspection, much less contriteness. They will 
trumpet their greatness, their achievements (real or imagined), their faux 
infallibility, and even portray themselves as worthy of being revered rather 
than reviled.

They will seek to find someone to blame for their troubles or downfall, 
preferably someone that cannot defend themselves. A scapegoat is always useful 
and when there is not a real one, one will be invented. If they are not promoted or fired, it is because a cabal at work was against them. 
If they 
cheat their business partners, it was because they deserved it. If the wife 
gets the kids in a divorce settlement, it is because of her dastardly attorney, 
not his abominable behavior. If they lose an election it is because of campaign 
managers, unappreciative voters, trickery, fraud, or some other kind of 
malfeasance on the part of a conspiracy (conspiracies are useful to the 
narcissist because they conveniently require no evidence). As they are not 
married to the truth, they will prattle countless baseless reasons that all 
point away, never at themselves.

As circumstances become dire, the narcissist will not take any responsibility-
ever. Anything that has gone wrong is the responsibility of others. They will 
blame spouses as undeserving of their greatness, ignorant colleagues who just 
don't measure up, the disloyal (Oh, they love to blame the disloyal), those who 
abide by rules and laws because ironically, they abide by rules and laws, or 
those that just clearly did not understand the very specialness of the 
narcissist. Everyone, and I mean everyone from people long gone, to the 
peripherally connected, to the earthly departed will be blamed for the failure 
or downfall of the narcissist. Once more it is never their fault.

In the process of casting blame, even the most loyal and stalwart will be 
discarded and denigrated if needed with reptilian indifference. For the 
malignant narcissist, there is only the "good" - those that provide blind, 
unwavering loyalty and who are useful, and everyone else who is an enemy, 
useless, and thus "bad." Whether you are in or out, good or bad, is not 
determined by history, by friendship, sacrifices, or how well you have 
performed in the past-it is determined by the capricious and selfish needs of 
the narcissist, and that can change in a moment.

Expect lies to increase and to be repeated exponentially. They will, even in 
light of factual evidence to the contrary, lie more profusely and adamantly. 
Lies are and always will be the number one tool of the malignant narcissist. 
The only difference now is that in facing failure or public ridicule, the lies 
must increase in frequency and audacity to the point of incredulity. The 
narcissist will expect supporters, the unethical, and enablers to lie for them 
or even create plausible alibies. That they imperil others by compelling them 
to lie is the collateral damage the malignant narcissist does as they thrash in 
despair when they are failing or caught.

And while lies will increase, so too will be the need to devalue others in 
order to further value themselves. They will attack everyone and anyone in the 
most vicious and vindictive ways. This is when we see their rage come through. 
Not just anger, but unbridled rage. They will say things that shock the 
conscience and they expect everyone to swallow what they say, much as their 
enablers do. The most decent of persons will be attacked, mocked, ridiculed, 
and turned into a human chew-toy as the narcissist unleashes untethered rage 
and hatred. They will dip down into a bottomless cauldron of antipathy and like 
an arterial spurt, will spew this toxic brew far and wide with metronomic 
regularity.

The malignant narcissist, lacking guilt or a conscience, is only concerned with 
respect and not being publicly shamed. Any kind of public embarrassment will 
cause them further anger, further rage, further attacks, further unethical 
comportment, and unprecedented incivility.

If the narcissist is going to be brought down, they will also seek to bring 
everyone else around them down to vindictively make them suffer. How the 
narcissist vilifies, lashes out, or destroys others (spouse, friends, business 
partners, workmates, the general public) is up to the morbid creativity and 
depravity of the malignant narcissist, the viable tools they have available, 
and of course how dire or desperate the situation. The internet and social 
media are certainly useful as lives can be ruined with a single tweet. But so 
are guns and rifles, poison, and even assassins for hire. And if they command a 
country, they can put the security organs or the military to work on their 
behalf.

In certain situations, as the end nears, the suffering of others is paramount 
to the malignant narcissist. It is their way of elevating themselves-sick as 
that sounds-by malevolently paying back society with even more suffering. As 
they lash out, they will show no concern or empathy because they have none. If 
others are suffering because of their actions, the narcissist simply does not 
care. Lacking a conscience or any kind of remorse, much like Robert Hare's 
psychopath, they sleep very well at night while everyone else is anxious, 
worried, stressed, physically or psychologically traumatizes all the while 
nervously and justifiably pondering what further malevolence will take place.

As they face failure, arrest, indictment, or dismissal, they will endlessly air 
their grievances. Narcissists are natural wound collectors and as such, they 
have been collecting and nurturing social slights and perceived wrongs just for 
this occasion. They will wallow in victimhood claiming they have been 
relentlessly and needlessly persecuted. They, of course, expect their 
attorneys, followers, or enablers to subserviently echo their flatulent claims.

So, what happens in the end? Difficult to predict. Each circumstance is 
different. Some will kick and flail and disappear for a while, intentionally or 
thanks to incarceration-biding their time until they can do it all over again. 
Others regroup, plan, scheme, and prepare another triumphant entry into the 
lives of the unsuspecting to victimize them when the opportunity arises. 
Others, unfortunately, will seek to do harm as they face a breakup, a divorce, 
are fired from a job, are outed for their crimes, or are removed from office. 
Others will hound, stalk, or just make life intolerable for those they deem responsible. Their past can often give us insight as to what 
they might do, but one can never be sure-humans are terribly complex and as with many afflicted with a personality disorder, sensitive to 
the smallest of unrecognized but catalytic triggers.

In the case of narcissistic cult leaders, the cult members often pay with their lives as they did in Jonestown Guyana when Jim Jones came 
under investigation. In interpersonal relationships, violence is always something to be concerned about as J. Reid Meloy reminds us in his 
book, Violent Attachments.

And of course, in politics, much harm can be done when power can be wielded-but the worst comes when a malignantly narcissistic leader or 
head of state, severely flawed of character, claims that only they can fix things, that only they can shape the future, that only they have 
the answers, and that only they have a grand vision for the future and so out of necessity they must stay on to save us.

When you hear that, it should give you pause. That is when we have to worry the most. If you don't believe me, let me tell you about one 
malignant narcissist of note. You may have heard of him-he was an Austrian corporal who painted postcards for a living. Full of himself and 
with no shortage of grandiose ideas, he decided on his own to run for office with one goal among various, which was to "Deutschland wieder 
großartig machen" - to make Germany great again.


 


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11 Things Rudy The Narcissist Can't Stand, Which Makes Him Miserable

Rudy is a person who refuses to acknowledge his own flaws and believes in his own infallibility. This state of mind is referred to as 
"narcissistic personality disorder" or simply "narcissism" in psychology.

A narcissist is someone who believes in his or her own superiority over others. It's not difficult to spot him among pals. He makes an 
effort to be the center of attention, and he succeeds because others are much more modest. The narcissist himself makes a lot of noise, 
speaks loudly, and gestures a lot. He routinely makes fun of his friends and has no qualms about gossiping about his colleagues who are 
currently absent.

A narcissist is someone who has pathological narcissism as well as low self-confidence. He thinks of himself as attractive, intellectual, 
and brilliant, but he continually seeks validation from others.

So, in today's topic, I'll take you on a fascinating tour through the top 11 things that narcissists, like Rudy, despise.



Number One: Insufficient Narcissistic Supply

When a narcissist's supply, that is, the attention that allows them to feel like they are truly significant and exist, runs short, an 
irritating emptiness and anxiety emerge from within them.

This is when Rudy posts on Usenet, articles that seem to be calling out people. Rudy has run out of his narcissistic supply, felling empty 
and all alone.

It's also self-evident. When a narcissist is high as a KITE with enough narcissistic supply to feed his or her unsafe and demanding ego, 
you'll notice how darkness and moodiness become obvious, and when he or she isn't being given supply, you'll see how darkness and moodiness 
become apparent.

"I can kill you with one hand. You know this." - Rudy

This is the most dangerous zone, wherein "the narcissist you know" can turn on you or must flee the scene in order to get much-needed 
supplies out in the world and escape the self-annihilating inner feelings of the flawed and exceedingly dangerous Inner Being.



Number Two: They Don't Believe They're In Charge

People must believe that narcissists are gifted, unique, and knowledgeable.

When someone with greater expertise and experience than them enters a Usenet group, they can suffer serious narcissistic harm. This 
includes EVERY single right-thinking Conservative.

They might try to take control and prevent the other person from speaking.

"You already squandered your reply.  You only get one." - Rudy Canoza

... or they might try to change the subject.

BINGO!

They will depart if this is not doable. Then, of course, deconstruct this person's trustworthiness.



Number 3: Are You Enjoying Yourself?

This serves as a powerful reminder to the narcissist that while he or she feels dead on the inside, you have the potential to access and 
experience his negative emotions.

If your happy feelings are about anything or someone other than the narcissist, this is a further insult to the narcissist.

He should be the center of your universe, according to the narcissist. And you have no right to be happy when the narcissist isn't.

He'll do everything he can to sabotage your positive feelings.

The mental defective AlleyPussyBitch aka Neutered Pussy, *NOT* a three letter athlete, was *NEVER* a bouncer, *NEVER* a golf pro, *NEVER* a 
lifeguard, NEVER* dunked a basketball, and has *NEVER* been laid, but just a pole-puffing no-fight squat-to-piss shrieking estrogen-oozing 
fairy" praised Rudy:



Number 4: You Are Prosperous

The narcissist, on the other hand, should be the one receiving all of the praise, honors, and attention.

If you earn any recognition, she or he is pathologically envious and jealous.

You'll very certainly be punished for depriving narcissists of something they desperately need to survive: valuable importance.



Number 5: Other People Are More Appealing Than They Are

Narcissists believe they are the most desirable person on the planet because of their false version of themselves.

Because of their horrible anxieties, they may purposely keep their lovers away from such a person.



Number 6: Having Constraints

Narcissists despise borders. They despise being told what to do and find it intolerable.

They prefer not to be held accountable to anyone. Being a normal person is a terrifying prospect for them.

Narcissists believe that they must be able to have whatever they want, whenever they want it... And no one has the right to tell them 
otherwise!



Number 7: Being Interrogated

The narcissist thinks he or she is above criticism.

You have no right to question the narcissist in any way. They believe that you are supposed to let them do anything they want, whenever 
they want, and without question.

If you ask a narcissist a question, which you should, you will be faced with tremendous defense mechanisms, wrath, or abandonment.

A narcissist will not accept it, much less meet with you to work things out.



Number 8: Being Exposed

When you cure yourself of any fear, anxiety, or guilt from persecution and bring the facts to the table plainly and calmly, it makes the 
narcissist extremely uncomfortable.

This is particularly true when you are attempting to draw other people's attention to the topic.

Unless you let the narcissist drag you into the shadows, he can't tamper with you.

A narcissist will fade as much as a vampire does when a great bright light is put on them once you stand true and tall and bring everything 
out into the bright light of exposure.



Number 9: You Refusing to Be Hoovered

You never give up and allow yourself to be a narcissist supply again if you know your value and keep it, no matter what the narcissist 
attempts to do - the narcissist will take it as a great insult.

Why aren't you succumbing to the seductions any longer?

Why do you believe you are entitled to something better or that you can survive without them?

All of these questions terrify and plague a narcissist, depriving them of their own significance.



Number ten: Ignorance

When a narcissist is neglected, he or she suffers a severe ego injury.

When you become "anti-fear" as a result of working on your Inner Self to eliminate emotional inner triggers, you're no longer interested in 
games, nonsense, or power struggles.

You'll separate them from their food and refuse to feed them anymore.

The narcissist runs out of gasoline without your fear, worry, and sadness to keep powering up and hurting you.

He or she feels helpless and resents the fact that you are no longer impacted. To receive a feed, the narcissist will and must take their 
hostility and manipulation to someone else.
You're Thriving, Number 11

The narcissist feels that you should have been affected for the rest of your life, and that you should have been thoroughly devastated and 
desecrated. It gives her or him a sense of importance!

What's so great about this group is that these ancient outcomes (personal irreversible damage), which were all too common for those who had 
been narcissistically abused, are now firmly in the past.

You have the ability to thrive.

You have a chance to succeed.

You might also strive to live a better life than you have in the past.

You may reclaim your health and achieve tremendous radiance and well-being, free of all narcissistic abuse symptoms.

You can restore your health to incredible radiation and luxury, completely free from all symptoms of narcissistic abuse.

This is what I do and I have the greatest happiness in helping you generate in your life.

You can also continue this amazing journey that I and others live every day, so you can know " how to help a narcissist ".

"I'm done with you because I choose me!"

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Rudy's Little Man's Disease: A disease of short males marked by aggressive antisocial behavior and constant overcompensation resulting in 
pompous mannerisms such as spitting, twitching, swearing, speaking loudly and tough talk. 

"I can kill you with one hand. You know this." - Rudy

The disease only affects teenagers or men who are less than 5" 6" tall.

"I'm about eight inches shorter than Trump." - Rudy

The severity of this disease is inversely proportional to the height of the sufferer. Other characteristics of this scourge are a very 
short penis, acne, low I.Q and bad etiquette.

Often these males are homophobic to the point of insanity because of latent sexual orientation issues.

**FAGGOT!**

"Fixed your lie, you you no-fight faggot." - Rudy

"Thanks for kicking my faggot ass." - Rudy

"'Self" is redundant, you toothless squat-to-piss no-fight faggot. - Rudy

"I've beaten *you* to a bloody pulp, you squat-to-piss *no-fight* faggot - every fucking time. You're a zero, as every, stale, squat-to-
piss *no-fight* faggot who incessantly bleats about "mommy's basement" *ALWAYS* is." - Rudy

"... you you no-fight faggot." - Rudy

"... you toothless squat-to-piss no-fight faggot" - Rudy

"Kicked your flabby faggot ass again. Yes." - Rudy

"You a Squat-to-Piss Faggot." - Rudy

"The disgusting gurgling, slurping sounds below are just the faggots Hartung, Sanitary Napkin and Bit of Nothingness enjoying a three-
way" - Rudy

"YOU lose, Nazi faggot." - Rudy

Little Man's Disease is an untreatable epidemic in this country. 

This is Rudy: https://i.imgur.com/x47K4Rh.mp4






 

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Rudy's Denial of Reality

Many people, like Rudy deny truths even when presented with irrefutable evidence.

There's an old (and corny) joke, which goes:

What is "denial?"

It's a river in Egypt."

There's another meaning of "denial" in psychoanalytic theory: A psychological defense we all use at times to reduce our anxiety when 
something feels particularly disturbing.

Finally, there is a particular type of "denial" we are witnessing nowadays: 

When seemingly intelligent and sane adults vehemently deny truths despite a body of irrefutable data.

(THAT'S our Rudy!)

This type of denial is akin to Stephen Colbert's "truthiness" in that these deniers adamantly refuse to accept verified facts because they 
get in the way of their own rigid ideas.

In psychiatry, the word "delusion" means a firm belief in some idea which is known to be false, and it can be a symptom of paranoia or 
psychosis. While the believers in untruths are mentally ill, they do strongly adhere to their false credos in spite of clear evidence to 
the contrary which is presented to them, especially if based on scientific findings.

These deniers are indeed "true believers" for whom there is only One Absolute Truth. 

The writings of their texts are taken literally or reinterpreted to suit their prejudice and hate.

This kind of closed-mindedness is prevalent in every country of the world. Call it zealotry, bigotry or fanaticism, these ultra-controlling 
beliefs are dangerous to our civic morale. Worse, they give a quasi-intellectual rationale for a momentum towards control, misanthropy, and 
hate.


 

Rudy and Toddler, The Insanely Jealous Narcissists 

Rudy and Toddler, the narcissists, usually have a deep need to be better than everyone else. This makes them likely to become jealous of 
anyone they perceives as better than them in any possible way. 

Surprisingly, you don't have to be better in a real sense for you to trigger 
their jealousy. 

As long as you have any advantage they don't have, that's enough to make them 
jealous. Sometimes jealousy can force Rudy and Toddler, the narcissists, to act in ways that defy normal human behaviour.

Jealousy is one of the emotions that make Rudy and Toddler, the narcissists, both hilarious and sad.

A Sense of Competition:

A sense of competition, real or perceived can trigger jealous narcissists, 
like Rudy and Toddler. 

Surpassing narcissists, like Rudy and Toddler, at anything that you are all involved in or succeeding at something they've failed at, can 
make them extremely jealous.

Rudy and Toddler Have Low Self-Esteem: 

Rudy and Toddler, the narcissists, may not be jealous of someone on Usenet, who is better looking, as long as they are confident in their 
looks.

LOL

But, they aren't, so they isn't confident in their ability to socialize. Rudy and Toddler are always jealous of their social and Usenet 
rivals, who make them look like the runt children they are.

Actually... Rudy and Toddler, the narcissists, makes themselves look like children. We do not need to help them in this realm.
 
Because Rudy and Toddler, the narcissists, have very low self-esteem behind the mask of ultra-confidence, they becomes very jealous of 
anyone who has genuine confidence... like those they pretend to be better than.
 
We Are Happier Than Rudy and Toddler:

When narcissists are depressed, they don't like to see someone happier and excited, especially if that person makes them look stupid... 
which is usually hourly.

This is because they know that a happy person is powerful. Powerful enough to make them feel like a worthless turd... that is, until that 
person makes a spelling or grammar mistake.

Rudy and Toddler's self-esteem is so low, that even though THEY fucked up so many times, grammatically and spelling-wise, they still have 
to show their imaginary superiority, by pointing out others' mistakes.

When you are happy, you became more confident, assertive and clear-minded. On the other hand, when a person is sad or depressed, they 
usually feel weak and vulnerable, like Rudy and Toddler, who lash out at those they sees as their superiors. 

When narcissists, like Rudy and Toddler are depressed, feelings of vulnerability that accompany depression make them see a happy person as 
a threat, especially when it's a person that they don't get along with, which is 99.9% of Usenet, since they're homophobic racists, who 
insult everyone, because Rudy and Toddler HATES everyone they thinks is their superior.

Rudy and Toddler Are Insecure:

Insecurities make a person doubt their ability to keep anyone interested.

If they are financially unsuccessful (well... YEAH!) and believes that their Usenet rivals are MORE successful (well... duh!), they may be 
very jealous of their success.

Rudy and Toddler, the narcissists, hates it when people around them are better in every possible way. They need to be above everybody else 
in order to feel superior, and have the ability to sleep.

For this reason, they becomes very jealous of anyone they see as superior than them, especially when there is a sense of competition.

We Are Stealing Their Attention:

RUDY AND TODDLER, THE NARCISSISTS NEEDS SO MUCH ATTENTION, hence the replies that offer NO refutations. They only reply to say, "play with 
me!"

Rudy and Toddler don't have the mental capacity to form their own opinions on subject matters that are above their head, so they simply 
reply in the negative, even if it's proven that the OP is correct in everything they say or quote. 

Because they think that they are better than common people, Rudy and Toddler believes that they deserves more attention than the average 
Usenet member.

Getting the attention that a narcissists believes THEY deserves, can cause a lot of jealousy.

Poor Rudy and Toddler.


 
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Why Rudy Gets So Angwy
 
Narcissists, like Rudy, are people who feed off the energy of others. They draw from people around them TO BOOST THEIR SELF-ESTEEM.

(perfect!)

As a result, they are extraordinarily self-centered. If you have a narcissist for a boss, it can be very difficult. Narcissists are 
reluctant to share credit with others.

One question about narcissists is whether they are also prone to aggressive and violent reactions toward others when their self-esteem is 
threatened. This issue was explored in a paper by Zlatan Krizan and Omesh Johar in the May 2015 issue of the Journal of Personality and 
Social Psychology.

The researchers point out that there are actually two subtypes of narcissism:

One is grandiose narcissism, which is characterized by people having a high opinion of themselves. Grandiose narcissists believe that other 
people are interested in them, and that they should be listened to by others. One of the most popular personality tests used to identify 
narcissists, the Narcissistic Personality Inventory, measures grandiose narcissism.

The second subtype is vulnerable narcissism, in which people are self-centered, but also defensive and resentful of others.

This new set of studies suggests that vulnerable narcissism leads to aggressive and violent reactions to other people, while grandiose 
narcissism does not.

In one study, participants were given several personality inventories, including one designed to test for grandiose narcissism and one 
designed to test for vulnerable narcissism. Participants filled out scales that measured their level of physical and verbal aggression, as 
well as anger and hostility toward others. The researchers also measured individuals' tendency to experience shame.

Vulnerable narcissists were much more prone than grandiose narcissists to experience shame, to find their self-esteem influenced by the 
beliefs of others, and to experience anger and rage toward others. Grandiose narcissists were more prone than vulnerable narcissists to 
feel entitled and to try to exploit others.

A second study looked at aggression in the laboratory. Participants were measured on scales of grandiose and vulnerable narcissism. 
Participants had been told that the study was focused on food preferences. They were told that they had been paired with a partner sitting 
in another room. First, that unseen partner was going to select a food for them to taste, and then they were going to select a food for the 
partner to taste.

The first phase of the study was designed to provoke a reaction in the participants. They were told that their partner selected a bitter 
drink for them to try. They were told that the partner could give them a mildly bitter drink or a harshly bitter drink, and could select 
how much of it the person had to try.

One group of participants was given three ounces of the harshly bitter drink. This was expected to make the participant feel like their 
partner did not like them. A second group of participants was given three ounces of the mildly bitter drink. This condition was a control. 
All participants were asked to drink what they were given, and all did so. The participants given the more bitter drink felt it was vile. 
Participants rated how annoyed they were at the other person as well as their anger toward that person and their trust of that person.

In the second phase of the study, participants selected a spicy sauce for a second person to drink. They could select amounts from two 
bottles, one of which was a very hot pepper sauce, while the other was mild. Participants got a small taste of the sauces so that they 
would know how unpleasant the hotter sauce was. The idea was that the more aggressive the participant felt toward their partner, the more 
hot sauce they would want that participant to drink.

Participants who had been given the bitter drink were more annoyed at their partner than those given the mild drink. As a result, people 
who were given the bitter drink were more likely to give hot sauce to the other person than those who were given the mild drink. The people 
high in vulnerable narcissism who received the bitter drink were most likely to give hot sauce to the other person. The vulnerable 
narcissists given the bitter drink were also most angry at, and least trusting of, the other person. Grandiose narcissism, however, did not 
predict aggression toward the other person or ratings of anger or trust.

These studies suggest that there are two distinct subtypes of narcissists:

Those whose narcissism reflects a feeling of self-importance tend to exploit other people, but they are not inclined to act aggressively or 
violently toward others.

Those whose narcissism reflects feelings of defensiveness and resentment feel shame when their self-esteem is threatened, and tend to react 
to those threats with anger and aggression.



 


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Why Does Narcissistic Rudy Need So Much Attention

Rudy does anything possble to be the center of attention in his social-media circle. Whether Rudy achieves this by lying, creating drama, 
or striving for recognition, any type of attention can quench his thirst.

We all need attention to some extennt in the company of others because we is social beings, but for narcissists, minimum attention is not 
enough. Rudy has a deeper hunger for it. Rudy feels satisfied only when Rudy is the center of attention.

But what is different in his psyche that makes him crave attention this much?

Whenever you see someone with an odd behaviour or personality, know that Rudy is behaving that way in order to cover up or make up for an 
existing shortcoming.

Like his height?

LOL

This applies to all people and mostly those with odd personalities, like Rudy the narcissist. A lying person will try to look as innocent 
as possible. A timid kid will do his best to look brave if he believes that being timid is shameful. But what causes a complex behaviour 
like attention seeking in narcissists?



1. Rudy Believes That He Deserves It

Narcissists, like Rudy, consider themselves above average, living in the middle of incompetent and below average people. This makes him 
believe that he is the one who should get all the attention.

Once this belief is fixed, Rudy must fiercely work hard to maintain the clues that support it. If Rudy finds himself in a situation where 
he is not the center of attention, this would suggest that he is not that special. This can badly hurt his fragile ego.

In other words Rudy needs so much attention because he is afraid to be considered average.

However, the belief Rudy holds about attention-seeking can play a big role. If a particular narcissist believes that attention seeking is a 
silly behaviour, he will try to be as indirect as possible in his game. 
GIVING UP ATTENTION IS NOT AN OPTION.



2. It Is A Source of Narcissistic Supply

Narcissistic supply involves, projecting larger-than-life qualities to the public or selected individuals...

"Professor Rudy"

"Superior Rudy"

... in order to get positive feedback. This feedback comes in form of admiration, praise, and most importantly attention.

(Only to HIMSELF!)

Note that negative attention is also appreciated to some extent.

He would rather get negative attention that zero attention.

(BINGO!)

This narcissistic supply is the oxygen he breathes. Without it, he would sink into depression and bad moods. 



3. To Cover Up Inferiority Feelings. (LOL)

The popular definition of narcissism says that, "behind the mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem (inferiority)." And that is 
completely true. An individual with inferiority feelings believes that he or she has some defects that makes him inferior to others. These 
defects can be real or imagined.

(Oh, they're real, all right. Dwarfism?)

Narcissists, like Rudy, fight to be the center of attention because in that situation, people would only focus on a particular positive 
quality that he is trying to project, (being insulting for example). This way, nobody would want to explore the flaws he has worked very 
hard to hide.

Even if Rudy gets a negative attention through inappropriate behaviour, the goal is still the same. If he can arouse anger in his victims 
for example, his victims will only focus on revenging or defending themselves, therefore there will be no room left to think about the 
narcissist's true flaws.



4. He Feels Ignored. (ding ding ding ding... we have a winner!)

Feeling invisible is one of Rudy's worst fears.

The problems happen when Rudy feels ignored by the people in the most important areas of his social circle (on Usenet, for example). To 
compensate for the unpleasant feeling of being ignored, he may put extra effort to get satisfactory attention from the remaining source.

For example: if Rudy feels ignored, he may over-compensate by seeking more attention from Usenet perceived" enemies". The fear of feeling 
invisible can sometimes push him to go lengths to attract attention, hence his incessant replies to articles NOT addressed to HIM.



 


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Narcissists Really Are Pathetic And Broken

Imagine that the only way you could feel better about yourself is by putting other people down, sabotaging them, crushing them, turning 
others against them. Entering them into a competition that they did not sign up for and beating them at any and all cost. Imagine having 
such poor, pathetic character that that's the main way that you operate in life. That's all you're capable of. That's all you stand for, 
taking away the joy and fulfillment from other people.

That's just pathetic. How empty, how shameless do you have to be to behave like that? To treat other people as only existing to be a means 
to your end? Being utterly incapable of ever truly wishing another well? That is a sad, desperate existence.

They are emotionally stunted. They are not capable of the full depth of emotion you and I am. They will never truly know love. At best the 
mimic the appearance of love and think that's what it is. Now that is truly sad.

The narcissist already knows that he is broken. The narcissist hates himself, has massive shame and expects everything he touches to turn 
to shit. His outer defense is to deny and avoid that shame, because he won't get the attention, energy, admiration and sex that he requires 
if he steeps himself in that toxic tea.

To be clear, I'm NOT talking about covert narcissists, because I have no experience with them.

Therefore, the overt narcissist presents a confident, powerful, indifferent, ego-centric public profile. No matter his stature/height, he 
will be "Large and in Charge," larger than life. In this case, the narcissist is 5'6", ugly, badly-groomed, sloppily dressed and with an 
unseemly figure.

He's chronically depressed, frequently sunk into a pit of despair that he tries to remedy by watching porn and being addicted to his image 
on Facebook (mysterious, twistedly funny and politically "out there") with frequent rants that were childish and offensive to many people.

So, narcissists don't have to "find out" they're broken. If you are hoping that helping them discover their brokenness may lead them to an 
epiphany that will turn around your Usenet relationship, don't. 

Their brokenness is not fixable.



 

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Rudy's Low Self Esteem FORCES Him To Reply, Even When There's NOTHING To Reply TO

This Is Why Rudy Can't Admit He's Wrong

They say it takes a big person to admit their mistakes, but for Rudy, saying he's wrong feels impossible.

Be it your partner, your boss or, God forbid, your in-laws, dealing with Rudy, even when faced with overwhelming evidence of a bungle, just 
can't cop blame can be frustrating.

(this is perfect)

But why does Rudy do it? We've asked psychologist Dr. Tim Sharp, chief happiness officer at The Happiness Institute, to explain:

THEY THINK BEING WRONG MEANS THEY'RE UNWORTHY - Yup... Low-Self-Esteem

For Rudy, conceding that he's fallible can evoke a deep psychological anxiety regarding "the risks or the consequences associated with loss 
or failure," says Sharp.

"I think the reason Rudy can't apologize isn't actually because they don't like to be wrong, but because it's seen as an inherent character 
fault," he explains.

[giggle]

Sharp says that for non-apologists, the irrational need to always be "perfect" rules their ego and they feel their screw-ups are 
unforgivable.

"The difficulty in admitting failure largely comes from the unrealistic expectation that 'I should get it right all the time,'" he says.

Rudy Thinks Never Admitting Fault Makes Him Look Stronger

(this is perfect)

For Rudy, appearing apologetic is congruent to appearing weak, but Sharp says they could not be more wrong, because a good leader admits 
their mistakes.

"There's some actually very interesting research that leaders who express vulnerability and are more open to being fallible tend to be more 
highly regarded," the expert explains.

According to him, a boss' deep sense of accountability can inspire people to think of them as "highly trusted" and conjure "higher levels 
of engagement and productivity."

"This makes sense because if someone is saying, 'I'm 100 percent perfect, I'm 100 percent right all the time,' that's pretty hard to 
believe," says the psychologist.

(THAT'S our Rudy)

"I'd find it hard to trust that person because there's no one I know 100 percent perfect.

Whereas if Rudy would say, 'You know, I'm going to do my best but I'll make mistakes sometimes, I'll get it wrong, I'm sorry but I'll try 
to fix it,'... to me, that's more believable. I'd be more trusting of that sort of person."

They Don't Value The Truth

(NO liberal does... THAT'S their M.O.)

For Rudy, the fact is he "doesn't necessarily value truth and honesty," says Sharp.

"While I personally value truth and honesty, what I've come to learn, which I find hard to understand but it's just a reality, is that Rudy 
doesn't value those things as highly as me," says Sharp.

Taking political discussion as an example, the expert says Rudy, who eats up "fake news" propaganda, doesn't value facts. When it comes to 
the truth, the expert warns that Rudy "will literally say, 'I don't really care.'"

"Rudy doesn't care about it because he values other aspects of what they're perceiving much more," he says.

Citing the upsurge of alt-left political movements around the world, Sharp says how Rudy approaches a situation will often reveal whether 
facts or feelings will influence them more.

"[Logical people] will look for facts and information and data and make their decisions accordingly," he explains. "Other people make their 
decisions based on much more emotion. Now the problem comes when you try to talk logic to an emotional person because it just won't wear...  
you're talking different 
languages.


 

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There Are Several Theories For Why Rudy Can't Stop Lying

Rudy's An Undeserved Narcissist

Narcisists are often pathological liars, because they simply don't care about 
the truth.

They prefer to tell lies and gain control over people than be honest.

Sometimes, compulsive liars are highly impulsive people who struggle to take 
the time to think things through and tell the truth.

Lying doesn't necessarily make you a bad person, but it could be a sign of 
something more sinister.

By the age of three or four, we all start to lie. At this point in our brain's 
development, we learn that we have an incredibly versatile and powerful tool at 
our disposal - our language - and we can use it to actually play with reality 
and affect the outcome of what's happening.

Sooner or later we learn that lying is "bad," and we shouldn't really do it. 
But if Jim Carey's "Liar Liar" taught us anything, it's that this just isn't 
feasible. We all have to lie sometimes.

But some people are pathological liars, meaning they can't stop spreading 
misinformation about themselves and others. The psychological reasons for why 
some people are this way is a bit of a mystery, but in the third edition of the 
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, pathological lying is a 
disorder in its own right, as well as a symptom of personality disorders like 
psychopathy and narcissism.

"I think it comes from a defect in the neurological wiring in terms of what 
causes us to have compassion and empathy," psychiatrist Judith Orloff, author 
of "The Empath's Survival Guide," told Business Insider. "Because narcissists, 
sociopaths, and psychopaths have what's called empathy deficient disorder, 
meaning they don't feel empathy in the way we would."

The Truth Doesn't Matter to Narcissists

When you don't care about other people, lies don't seem to matter. A lack of 
empathy essentially means a lack of conscience, which is a hard concept to 
grasp for a lot of people.

"When they lie it doesn't hurt them in the same way it would hurt us," Orloff 
said. "So many people get into relationships with pathological liars, or just 
can't understand why they're lying, because they're trying to fit these people 
into the ordinary standards of what it means to be empathetic."

But they don't fit. In fact, they may not even realize they are lying half the 
time, because they're not conscious of it. Orloff said they actually believe 
they are telling the truth a lot of the time. It's not so much about the fact 
itself, she said, as it is about wanting to have power over somebody.

This is extremely dangerous for highly sensitive people, because they attract 
narcissists. Then when they see someone is lying, they try and figure it out, 
or blame themselves. Once the lies start, it can end with the victim being 
gaslighted, which is essentially when they are told over and over again that 
their version of reality is incorrect, and they begin to believe the warped 
truth of the abuser.

"The great power of relationships is when you can tell the truth to one 
another, and trust each other, and be authentic - and with pathological liars 
you can't trust them," Orloff said. "You can't base your life around them. It's 
like a moral deficit, and there's no accountability. Someone who is a 
pathological liar will not say I'm sorry for doing it. They will say it's your 
fault."

The only way to escape the clutches of a pathological liar is to be strong 
enough to say "no this is not my fault, this is not ringing true to me, so I 
can't really trust you," she said.

Unfortunately, people tend to doubt themselves, because the lies can escalate 
subtly. It may start with a small white lie, and a few months later the 
victim's life with be a mess of confusion because of the web of tall tales that 
has been woven.

"If somebody lies, don't try and make an excuse about it," Orloff said. "A lie 
is a lie. And if you bring it up to the person and they say it's your fault, or 
no it didn't happen, just know there's something very wrong going on."

Psychologist Linda Blair, an author of many psychology books, told Business 
Insider some compulsive liars are simply too impulsive to tell the truth. The 
impulsive-reflective scale is ingrained in our genes, and it's very hard for 
someone highly impulsive to take the time to think things through, just as it 
is a challenge for a reflective person to jump into something head first.

"If you're an impulsive person, it's really hard to break the habit, because 
you have this terrible feeling inside you that you have to sort things out 
right now," Blair said. "So when it comes to your head, you just say it. That 
doesn't mean you necessarily lie, but it's a little harder for you to stop from 
lying, more than it is for someone who's more reflective."

Pathological lying and narcissism aren't synonymous, they just sometimes go 
hand in hand. In other cases, compulsive liars just might not have the capacity 
to stop themselves blurting things out. And Blair said they just need to learn 
to control their urges and compulsions. Their lies don't necessarily come from 
a bad place.

"I don't think it's something they know how to deal with," she said. "We think 
probably it has something to do with actual brain function and the way some 
people's brains work, which makes it much harder for them to understand the 
effect it will have on other people...  We think, but we just don't know yet 
for sure."

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Why Rudy Is Rudy

There are many similarities between the way Rudy the narcissist thinks and processes things and the way children do. In fact, in many ways, 
these processes are virtually identical. This is because Rudy the narcissist has arrested emotional development. 

The emotional maturation that most children go through did not occur within Rudy, for whatever reason. Often, this reason is abuse or 
neglect during childhood. 

These things caused Rudy to focus intensely on himself, to the exclusion of all other things. It also results in the mind being taken up 
with trying to defend itself from his abuse. 

Rudy's mind is, in a sense, always playing catch up, and because of the trauma that he has experienced, some things are skipped, so to 
speak, or don't happen. 

(see Rudy's separation from reality) 

His mind becomes locked in a pattern of defensive reaction and emotional perception, made up of many different but related facets, that 
matures extremely slowly and is extrordinarily resistant to change. We call this reaction/defense pattern malignant narcissism. 

In children, these things are normal. In Rudy, they are evidence of a disorder. 

Young children and babies are not capable of understanding the emotions or needs of others. They only know want and need. They have no way 
of taking care of their own needs, and they can only scream for someone to do it for them. When Rudy's mother was exhausted and deathly ill 
with a fever and vomiting, and she'd been up for three days, and she simply could not cope anymore, does Rudy sympathize accordingly? Does 
Rudy stop crying? 

No. Rudy does not recognize this. Rudy does not care. Rudy can NOT care. He can only keep screaming out his needs, regardless of his 
mother's suffering. 

This is, in essence, what you are dealing with when it comes to Rudy the narcissist. He does not recognize, understand or consider other 
people's needs. 

He sees only his own, and his inability to meet them. The more damaged Rudy is, the more narcissistic he will be, the more immature he will 
be and the more childish his way of thinking. 

And this is not childish as in, silly. This is immature as in, the emotional maturity and understanding of a toddler. 

For example, besides the hysterical tantrum behavior we see in Rudy that is very clearly on par with a very young child's, Rudy the 
narcissist generally believes he is immune to the things that happen to "regular" people. 

This is an example of something called magical thinking which is a phenomenon we commonly see in very young children. Rudy sees feelings as 
facts, the way that children do. Rudy the narcissist sees everything in the world as an extension of himself, the way that children do and 
Rudy the narcissist truly believes in his own perceived omnipresence and immortality as children do. 

He has always been, he will always be. 

So children believe... so Rudy the narcissist believes. 

The view that he is just another person that must fit into a wider world does not occur to young children. 

How could it? Rather, Rudy functions under the assumption that the world fits around HIM, and that everything he experiences or encounters 
is related to him in some form. 

This is the same way Rudy see things. He has never matured past this extremely immature way of looking at things. The idea that the world 
does not revolve around them never occurs to children, as it does not occur to Rudy. 

For example, children view their parents as only having to do with them and connected only to them, rather than as separate people with 
their own lives, needs, wants, feelings, etc. Parents are very one dimensional to young children; despite the fact that children are only 
one part of the parent's life, the child does not see this nor understand it in any way. 

To a child, parents only exist as their caretakers. It is the only context children view parents in and the only context they can 
understand. This is identical to how Rudy the narcissist views all other people: outside of the narcissist and the narcissist's needs, 
these people do not exist. 

As children mature, they learn that this viewpoint is not true; they learn to see and appreciate their parents as individuals that are 
separate from themselves. Rudy does not. 

The development of Rudy is so arrested that this, coupled with such extreme self-focus means he is never able to separate himself as an 
authentic individual from the external world. 

Because of this, Rudy often feels acted upon by the world and other people or circumstances, rather than as people who act in the world. 

In Rudy's view, he does not act, but rather react to the things that are being done to him. It's as if he never outgrew the idea of himself 
as a powerless child, unable to take control or ownership of his own life. 

He behaves as though other people are still responsible for his emotions, the way that parents are responsible for a small child. He seems 
unable to own his choices or even to recognize that things are choices. And this is also like a child. 

Rudy the narcissist is generally impulsive, irrational and extremely immature. He is careless, irresponsible and foolhardy. He doesn't seem 
able to consider consequences or think about things before he does them, just like a child. 

When pressed for an answer as to why he's done something, Rudy may seem just as mystified as everyone else. "I don't know" is a very common 
answer. It may be the truth. He seems to possess very little insight as to why he does things, simply reacting on impulse as we see 
children do. 

Like a child, Rudy often feels helpless in a world of more powerful, more competent, more knowledgeable adults. 

However, this is also an excuse. It's easier to be a helpless victim. If you are a victim, you can never be blamed. If you are helpless, 
you can never be forced to take responsibility. 

Children are not blamed for not controlling themselves or for their choices. Rudy doesn't seem to feel he should be either. He doesn't seem 
to understand the difference between a child and an adult, and he will often say things to that effect. These are mostly things that no 
self-respecting mature adult would ever say. 

*FAGGOT!* 

He may compare himself to a child, compete with the children, or complain that his spouse (LOL) holds "double standards" because the kids 
are allowed to get away with things that they are called out for. Rudy doesn't seem to realize that adults and children are held to 
different standards, or why this should be. 

For example, the narcissist must be asked repeatedly every single night to bring their plate into the kitchen, or throw their clothing in 
the hamper rather than leaving these things on the ground. Instead of simply doing it, the narcissist responds that little Johnny never 
does it either but he doesn't get yelled at. Little Johnny is seven. The narcissist is 40 and is one of Little Johnny's parents. 

The discrepancy here is obvious; this is the type of response you would receive from a child that does not want to do his chores, not an 
adult. To the narcissist, this is a clear example of favoritism and being attacked for who they are. It does not seem to enter Rudy's mind 
that there is a very large difference between a 7-year-old and a 40-year-old. Regardless of whether or not he actually feels this way, the 
childishness and absurdity of his argument is really unbelievable-almost shocking in it's ignorance. There is not only the complete refusal 
to behave as an adult, there is an inability to even understand why this would be expected. 

The truth is, underneath of all of the horrible things Rudy does, the narcissist is still that 5-year-old child pretending he is somebody 
else to escape an abusive situation that ended years ago. When all of Rudy's reasoning is examined, when all of Rudy's behavior is 
scrutinized and looked at through the lens of perspective rather than pain, this is what we are left with: a person with the emotional 
maturity of a toddler who cannot understand why they are expected to behave otherwise and who is trying desperately to pretend they are 
somebody else. 

All of Rudy's attention seeking, all of Rudy's manipulations, all of Rudy's gas lighting, all of Rudy's smear campaigns, all of Rudy's 
abuse, all of the hurtful things he does, when seen for what they really are, these things are nothing but childish behaviors that have 
been perpetrated by an adult. 

Every single one of these things is seen in children. Gas-lighting is a 3 year old with chocolate all over his face who is hiding the 
chocolate bar behind his back in plain view, saying "What chocolate, Mommy? I don't have chocolate." Smear campaigns are a 6-year-old 
telling lies about a girl to all that girl's friends so they won't like her anymore. Though these behaviors are sometimes seen as 
sophisticated schemes, they really aren't. They are the same childish and petty things we all dealt with on the elementary school 
playground. They are just more confusing and therefore more dangerous because they are coming from an adult. 



 

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Denial In The Narcissistic Mind: Pathological Distortion

https://www.psychology today.com/us/bog/the-narcissist-in-your-life/202106/denial-in-the-narcissistic-mind-pathological-distortion
Denial in the narcissistic mind: pathological distortion the narcissist's denials of convenience. Unless they are experiencing a psychotic 
break from reality, as can happen with... Forms of denial. The narcissist's denial becomes a kind of self-deception in which accurate 
perception is ignored ...


Denial is a normal early childhood defense.
Narcissistic people engage in routine forms of denial to distort reality.
Some forms of denial are dismissal, justification, minimization, negation, and reversal.

A refusal to acknowledge a threatening, uncomfortable, or inconvenient truth, denial is a developmentally normal, unconscious defense 
mechanism of early childhood. Children may deny a "bad" feeling like jealousy to preserve their self-esteem, or they may deny a 
destabilizing feeling like fear of an abusive parent to preserve attachment with that caregiver.

Like shock, short-term denial can function as a temporary protection against the full impact of something painful or overwhelming. But 
ongoing denial in adulthood, a defining trait of pathological narcissism, becomes a choice to engage in distortions of reality.
The Narcissist's Denials of Convenience

Unless they are experiencing a psychotic break from reality, as can happen with schizophrenia, people with narcissistic personality 
disorder (NPD) know the difference between fact and fiction, truth and lies. But because their personality structure is built around 
inflated self-importance (designed to scaffold unstable self-esteem), they hold reality at a distance and filter information to conform to 
their wishes. Add to the mix their exaggerated entitlement unmoderated by empathy for others and you have a personality type predisposed to 
manipulative and self-serving denials of convenience.
Forms of Denial

The narcissist's denial becomes a kind of self-deception in which accurate perception is ignored and replaced with preferred distortions. 
Such distortions can range from subtle misrepresentations to unrecognizable alterations of reality. The following examples of common forms 
of denial involve a mother denying her rageful husband's physical abuse of their son.

Dismissal: Dismissing pushes away a fact as unworthy of attention. Example: "That was so long ago I can't remember what actually happened. 
Haven't you gotten over that?"

Justification: Justifying rationalizes a fact to make it sound reasonable. Example: "Your father was disciplining you for your own good 
because you were out of control and needed a firm hand."

Minimization: Minimizing acknowledges a fact but reduces its importance or effect. Example: "Your father got angry sometimes, but he was 
always there for you."

Negation: Negating is an outright disavowal of the truth. Example: "Your father never laid a hand on you, and you know it."

Reversal: Reversing asserts a wishful, fantasy-based opposite version of the truth. Example: "Your father has always been kind and loving 
with you. He's a saint, and you're lucky to have him."
Effects of Denial

Sharing information and mirroring reality are primary dimensions of human relationships. In infancy and early childhood, we are almost 
entirely reliant on our parents to teach us about ourselves and the world around us. If our principal caregivers and models reflect back 
inaccurate or outright false interpretations of reality, it creates ongoing cognitive dissonance between what we feel and perceive and what 
we are told is happening. Such distortions lead to degraded trust, alienation from our physical instincts, chronic self-doubt, and other 
profound disruptions to our identity development and ability to form attachments.
Overcoming Denial

Children who have ongoing forms of denial normalized at home become more vulnerable to denial-based manipulations and coercion later in 
life on the part of narcissistic partners, friends, and others in positions of influence and authority. To overcome such confusion and 
vulnerability, it becomes necessary to identify the patterns of denial we have experienced and recontextualize those experiences with our 
increased knowledge and understanding.

As we work on separating from the false narratives of narcissistic and otherwise disordered people in our lives, many of us find ourselves 
reconstructing reality in alignment with what we have intuitively known to be true for a very long time. 



 

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What Rudy Does To Ease His Pain And Failure

A Cautionary Examination of How Rudy Reacts To Failure

Not without cause, malignant narcissism, like Rudy's, is one of the most searched for topics on the internet, in part, because seemingly, 
there is so many people, like Rudy, that appear to have those toxic traits.

Rudy is notorious, because he destabilizes his own life, making himself feel insecure, undervalued, disparaged, or inconsequential, and as 
noted, can victimize himself emotionally, as well as physically (poor wittle midget), even financially (dirt-poor mommy-sitter).

We recognize how dangerous rudy is to himself, precisely because his pathology drives so much of his sordid behavior, especially toward 
others.

His common traits such as: a hyper inflated sense of entitlement, grandiose FEELINGS OF SUPERIORITY or uniqueness, DELUSIONS OF 
INFALLIBILITY, incessant DISREGARD FOR THE TRUTH, feeling that RULES AND LAWS DON'T APPLY TO HIM, and of course THE NEED TO DEBASE OTHERS 
to make himself feel better... coupled with callousness, can have devastating consequences.

The one area that is rarely talked about when it comes to the malignant narcissist, is what happens when he fails, like Rudy does when he 
misspells a word or fucks things up grammatically.

These individuals is so severely "flawed of character," that he handles failure much different than you and I because he is not 
introspective or capable of reform, and is lacking in empathy for others.

More often than not, his malignancy will likely, in time, ensure his own downfall or failure.

(too late... done happent)

As with many personality disorders, those who are severely flawed of character, and ESPECIALLY like Rudy... when he faces public disgrace 
or when he is outed as a criminal or for his misbehavior, or when he fails in a very public way (like, every day!)-that is when he become 
metastable.

(Yeah, Rudy... you ARE a Cancer)

FOOLPROOF EVIDENCE WILL BE PORTRAYED AS FALSE and the result of: pettiness, jealousies, bad actors, malicious individuals, negativity, 
haters, enemies, losers, conspirators, opposition, gain seekers, the faithless (usually seen in religious groups or cults), or as we are 
seeing now in American politics, "fake news" or "deep state" actors. There are always a large constellation of people to blame, and Rudy 
casts wide to see which vacuous claim resonates.

As Rudy lashes out with vindictiveness, the malignant narcissist will continue to talk about himself in glowing terms (Professor Canoza); 
irrespective of his actual situation, as he is incapable of introspection, much less contriteness.

HE WILL TRUMPET HIS GREATNESS, his achievements, real or imagined (IMAGINED), his faux infallibility, and even portray himself as worthy of 
being revered rather than reviled.

He will seek to find someone to blame for his troubles or downfall (like those who make him look stupid on Usenet... we know who we are... 
wink wink), preferably someone that he THINKS cannot defend himself. A scapegoat is always useful and when there is not a real one, one 
will be invented.

As circumstances become dire, Rudy will not take any responsibility-ever! 

Anything that has gone wrong is the responsibility of others.

He will blame Usenet members as UNDESERVING OF HIS GREATNESS, ignorant colleagues who just don't measure up.

EXPECT LIES TO INCREASE AND TO BE REPEATED EXPONENTIALLY.

He will, even in light of factual evidence to the contrary, LIE MORE PROFUSELY and adamantly.

Lies will always be the number one tool of the malignant narcissist, Rudy.

The only difference now is that in facing failure or public ridicule, the lies must increase in frequency and audacity to the point of 
incredulity.

Rudy will expect supporters, like the gay leftist liberals on Usenet, the unethical, and enablers to lie for him or even create plausible 
alibis.

(Nope... he uses words like *FAGGOT*, so don't expect THAT to be true)

AND WHILE LIES WILL INCREASE, SO TOO WILL BE THE NEED TO DEVALUE OTHERS IN ORDER TO FURTHER VALUE HIMSELF.

He will attack EVERYONE AND ANYONE in the most vicious and vindictive ways. 

This is when we see his rage come through.

Not just anger, but unbridled rage. Rudy will say things that shock the conscience and he expect everyone to swallow what he says, much as 
his enablers do.

"I can kill you with one hand. You know this."

"Thanks for kicking my faggot ass."

"'Self' is redundant, you toothless squat-to-piss no-fight faggot."

"I've beaten *you* to a bloody pulp, you squat-to-piss *no-fight* faggot - every fucking time.  You're a zero, as every, stale, squat-to-
piss *no-fight* faggot who incessantly bleats about "mommy's basement" *ALWAYS* is."

"... you you no-fight faggot."

"... you toothless squat-to-piss no-fight faggot"

"Kicked your flabby faggot ass again. Yes."

"You a Squat-to-Piss Faggot."

"The disgusting gurgling, slurping sounds below are just the faggots Hartung, Sanitary Napkin and Bit of Nothingness enjoying a three-way"

"YOU lose, Nazi faggot."

The most decent of persons will be attacked, mocked, ridiculed, and turned into a human chew-toy as Rudy unleashes untethered rage and 
hatred. He will dip down into a bottomless cauldron of antipathy and like an arterial spurt, will spew this toxic brew far and wide with 
metronomic regularity.

Rudy lacks guilt or a conscience, and is only concerned with respect and not being publicly shamed. Any kind of public embarrassment will 
cause him further anger, further rage, further attacks, further unethical comportment, and unprecedented incivility.

(That's our Rudy!)

If Rudy is going to be brought down, he will also seek to bring everyone else around them down to vindictively make them suffer.

How Rudy vilifies, lashes out, or destroys others is up to his MORBID CREATIVITY and depravity, the viable tools he has available, and of 
course how dire or desperate the situation.

(Perfect description coming)

In certain situations, as the end nears, the suffering of others is paramount to Rudy, the malignant narcissist.

IT IS HIS WAY OF ELEVATING HIMSELF-sick as that sounds-by malevolently PAYING BACK SOCIETY with even more suffering.

As he lashes out, he will show no concern or empathy because he has none.

As he faces failure, he will endlessly air his grievances. Narcissists, like Rudy, are natural wound collectors and as such, has been 
collecting and nurturing social slights and perceived wrongs just for this occasion.

HE WILL WALLOW IN VICTIM-HOOD claiming he has been relentlessly and needlessly persecuted. He, of course, expects everyone to subserviently 
echo his flatulent claims.

So, what happens in the end? Difficult to predict. Each circumstance is different. Some will kick and flail and disappear for a while (like 
wy wee edell and Yeung and Matt, wink wink), intentionally or thanks to incarceration (taking care of mommy)-biding his time until he can 
do it all over again.

Others regroup, plan, scheme, and prepare another triumphant entry into the lives of the unsuspecting to victimize them when the 
opportunity arises.

Others will hound, stalk, or just make life intolerable for those he deems responsible.

His past can often give us insight as to what he might do, but one can never be sure-humans are terribly complex and as with many afflicted 
with a personality disorder, sensitive to the smallest of unrecognized but catalytic triggers.

Rudy... triggered.


 


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On Wed, 5 Jun 2024 00:19:58 -0700, Rudy Canoza, forever the mental and physical midget, who was *NEVER* a three sport letterman, like me, 
and who was *NEVER* a bouncer, like me, and who was *NEVER* an assistant golf pro, like me, and who was *NEVER* a lifeguard, like me, and 
who *NEVER* dunked a basketball, like me, and has *NEVER* laid as many women as me, says... 

"That's a *lie*. It and methane *absolutely* are causing global warming, the the(sic) CO2 and methane *are* from human economic 
activity." - Rudy Canoza

"Narcissistic cowards who have kill-filed mt(sic)" - Rudy Canoza

When An Involuntarily Retired (Pruned Deadwoo)(sic) - Rudy Canoza

It is a dark moment *entire*(sic) created by... - Rudy Canoza

"This(sic) comments" - Rudy Canoza

Fuck off with you(sic) copypasta. - Rudy Canoza

"Wnenever(sic) Hartung starts off with "So...", e.g. "So what you're saying 
is...", what follows is always a straw man, which is a type of lie." - Rudy Canoza

"You already squandered you(sic) one reply." - Rudy Canoza

"You found it somewhere and copypastaed(sic) - Rudy Canaoza

"So, the judge was actually *is*(sic) actually a felon." - Rudy Canaoza

"It choose(sic) you" - Rudy Canaoza

THEN, he fucks up his own fuckup.

"It chooe(sic) you"? - Rudy Canoza

[giggle]

"Adversary and enemy are not synonyms." - Rudy Canoza(sic)

AlleyCat, the narcissist, ,(sic) The Insanely Jealous Narcissist - Rudy Canoza

The vast majority of political violence in the U.S>(sic) is committed by far right-wingnuts. - Rudy Canaoza

"LOL... Ruy(sic) *correctly* points out that "adversary" and "enemy" are not synonyms" - Rudy Canoza

THEN, fucks up again, trying to right his wrong.  BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

"LOL... Ruey(sic) *correctly* points out that "adversary" and "enemy" are not synonyms" - Rudy Canaoza

"Adversary and enemy are not synonyms." - Rudy Canoza

Not a fuck up, per se... just a lie.

Look (sic) Rudy makes me do - Rudy Canaoza

No. The subject line is a a ie(sic). - Professor of Grammar, Rudy "I Fucked Up Again" - Rudy Canoza

"You don't(sic) your ass from your face, shitbag." - Professor of Grammar, Rudy "I Fucked Up Again"" - Rudy Canoza

"Decent People Laught"(sic) - Rudy Canoza

"I have reduce(sic) my assets." - Rudy "Bill Flett" Canoza

"I really have explain(sic) fully why no one died to "preserve our liberty." - Rudy Canoza

"It would if were were(sic) writing in German, which, of course, we aren't." - Rudy "Bill Flett" Canoza 

"You didn't even read you(sic) copypasta lie bullshit." - Rudy "Bill Flett" Canoza

"living rent-free in you(sic) diseased imagination." - Rudy Canoza

Yes, *YOU* know where I kicke(sic) your squat-to-piss no-fight faggot ass, you fat fairy. - Rudy Canoza

"No one aksed(sic) you, Google Groups faggot." - Rudy Canoza

"Eric Schild - hysterical histrionical estogen(sic)-oozing squat-to-piss fairy - squealed" - Rudy Canoza

Estogen? What the fuck is Estogen, brainiac?

"That exclude(sic) McEnany and you, and also Trump." - Rudy Canoza

"Oh, that's right:  you're(sic) Nazi." - Rudy Canoza

Thursday, October 10, 2019:  "Trump has *failed* to delegitimate(sic) the impeachment effort, as the growing public support for it 
shows." - Rudy Canoza

Wednesday, August 4, 2020:  "As I already explained:  *every* word Trump says about the election is part of an attempt to try to 
delegitimate(sic) it in advance." - Rudy Canoza

Tuesday, August 3, 2020:  "Everything he says about the election is intended to destabilize and delegitimate(sic) it." - Rudy Canoza

Friday, August 7, 2020:  "No. Trump's deliberate attempts to delegitimate(sic) the election are well proved." - Rudy Canoza

Funny how he *NEVER* uses that word AFTER I corrected the narcissistic idiot.

"[snip plagiarized bullshit that AlleyPussyBitch has'nt[sic] even read]" - Rudy Canoza - 6/15/21 - Contraction error...funny!

"I have reduce(sic) my assets." - "Bill Flett" - 6/12/21 - More verb tense problems for our uneducated lil guy. - Rudy Canoza

"I really have explain(sic) fully why no one died to 'preserve our liberty.'" - Wednesday is Verb Problem day for Dwarfling, "Rudy Canoza" 
6/9/21

"It would if were[sic] were writing in German, which, of course, we aren't." - Rudy Canoza 6/8/21 

"You didn't even read you[sic] copypasta lie bullshit." - Rudy Canoza - 6/8/21 - Pronoun problems for The Dwarf

"living rent-free in you[sic] diseased imagination." - "Rudy Canoza" - 2/10/21 - More dwarfish pronoun problems

"The(sic) did not "invade" anything, ratboy." - "Rudy Canoza" 7/10/21 Article or pronoun? Which is it to be?

"The salient characteristic of right-wingnut shitbags like ratboy"(sic). - "Rudy Canoza" 7/8/21  No verb, therefore it is not a sentence. 
Tsk-tsk.

"Fuck off with Delwaware."(sic) - "Rudy Canoza" 7/23/21 The Dwarfling discovers a new state!

"When Nazi sympathizer(sic) like you are exterminated" - "Orni Thopter" 7/23/21 Even Rudy's socks have problems with plurals. - Rudy Canoza

"*(A)ny*(sic) measure the(sic) either outright prevents eligible voters from voting"(sic)(sic)(sic)(sic)(sic)(sic)(sic)(sic)(sic)(sic)(sic)
(sic)(sic)(sic)(sic) - "Rudy Canoza" 7/19/21 More problems with articles...

"She's an excellent judge, and his(sic) criticism of Trump's truly shitty lawyers is spot-on." - "Rudy Canoza" 7/12/21 More gender-
shifting? Hahaha.


 

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Fear of "The Other"

According to A.J. Marsden, assistant professor of psychology and human services at Beacon College in Leesburg, Florida, one reason Rudy 
hates is because he fears things that are different from himself.

Behavioral researcher Patrick Wanis, cites the in-group out-group theory, which posits that when Rudy feels threatened by perceived 
outsiders, he instinctively turns toward our in-group-those with whom Rudy identifies as a survival mechanism.

Wanis explains, "Hatred is driven by two key emotions of love and aggresssion: One love for the in-group-the group that is favored; and 
two, aggression for the out-group-the group that has been deemed as being different, dangerous, and a threat to the in-group."

Fear of Himself

According to Washington, D.C., clinical psychologist Dana Harron, the things Rudy hates about others, are the things that he fears within 
himself. She suggests thinking about the targeted group or person as a movie screen onto which Rudy projects unwanted parts of the self. 
The idea is, "I'm not terrible; you are."

This phenomenon is known as projection, a term coined by Freud to describe our tendency to reject what Rudy doesn't like about himself. 
Psychologist Brad Reedy further describes projection as Rudy's need to be good, which causes him to project "badness" outward and attack 
it:

"Rudy developed this method to survive, for any 'badness' in him puts him at risk for being rejected and alone. So, Rudy represses the 
things that he thinks are bad (what others told him or suggested to him that was unlovable and morally reprehensible) - and Rudy employs 
hate and judgment towards others.

Rudy thinks that is how one rids himself of undesirable traits, but this method only perpetuates repression which leads to many mental 
health issues.

BINGO!

Lack of Self-compassion

The antidote to hate is compassion - for others as well as ourselves. Self-compassion means that Rudy accept his whole self. "If Rudy finds 
part of himself unacceptable, he tends to attack others in order to defend against the threat," says Reedy.

"If Rudy is okay with himself, he see others' behaviors as 'about them' and can respond with compassion. If I kept hate in my heart for 
[another], I would have to hate myself as well. It is only when Rudy learns to hold himself with compassion that Rudy may be able to 
demonstrate it toward others."

It fills a void

Psychologist Bernard Golden, author of Overcoming Destructive Anger: Strategies That Work, believes that when hate involves participation 
in a group (like Usenet), it may help foster a sense of connection and camaraderie that fills a void in one's identity. He describes hatred 
of individuals or groups as a way of distracting oneself from the more challenging and anxiety-provoking task of creating one's own 
identity:

(BINGO! coming up)

"Acts of hate are attempts to distract oneself from feelings such as helplessness, powerlessness, injustice, inadequacy and shame. Hate is 
grounded in some sense of perceived threat. It is an attitude that can give rise to hostility and aggression toward individuals or groups. 
Like much of anger, it is a reaction to and distraction from some form of inner pain. The individual consumed by hate may believe that the 
only way to regain some sense of power over his or her pain is to preemptively strike out at others. In this context, each moment of hate 
is a temporary reprieve from inner suffering."

BINGO!

Societal and Cultural Factors

The answer to why Rudy hates, according to Silvia Dutchevici, LCSW, president and founder of the Critical Therapy Center, lies not only in 
our psychological makeup or family history, but also in our cultural and political history. "Rudy lives in a war culture that promotes 
violence, in which competition is a way of life," she says.

"Rudy fears connecting because it requires us to reveal something about himself. Rudy was taught to hate the enemy - meaning anyone 
different than us - which leaves little room for vulnerability and an exploration of hate through empathic discourse and understanding. In 
our current society, one is more ready to fight than to resolve conflict. Peace is seldom the option."

What Can Rudy Do?

Hatred has to be learned, Golden says: "Rudy was born with the capacity for aggression as well as compassion. Which tendencies Rudy 
embraces requires mindful choice by individuals, families, communities and our culture in general. The key to overcoming hate is education: 
at home, in schools, and in the community."

According to Dutchevici, facing the fear of being vulnerable and utterly human is what allows us to connect, to feel, and ultimately, to 
love. She suggests creating "cracks in the system." These cracks can be as simple as connecting to your neighbor, talking with a friend, 
starting a protest, or even going to therapy and connecting with an 'Other.' It is through these acts that one can understand hate and 
love."

In other words, compassion towards others is the true context that heals.



 


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How Rudy Thinks (Warning: It's Pretty Messed Up)

Joe Navarro

We often hear the term "narcissist," but in reality, what does that mean? Does it merely describe someone who likes to be the center of 
attention or likes the way he or she looks, or is there more to it?

The psychiatric literature defines narcississts, like Rudy, as having specific traits such as having a sense of entitlement or requiring 
excessive admiration, to name a few. But what are narcissistic individuals really like on a day-to-day level?

How a narcissist, like Rudy, thinks:

Anyone who has lived with or worked for a narcissist will tell you how a narcissist, like Rudy, thinks: narcissists, like Rudy, view 
themselves entirely differently - i.e., preferentially - compared to others, making those around them less valued. And there's the rub: 
everything must be about the narcissist.

We don't mind that a two-year-old needs constant attention. That's appropriate for the developmental stage of a two-year-old. But we do 
mind when a forty-year-old needs that level of appreciation - and achieving it comes at our expense.

Narcissists, like Rudy, victimize those around them just by just being who they are, and they won't change. That statement may seem extreme 
until you listen to the stories of those who have been victimized by a narcissist. Then you realize just how toxic these individuals are.

Work for a narcissistic boss and I can guarantee that he or she will make you physically or psychologically ill. Live with one and I fear 
for you. I can say that because in researching my book Dangerous Personalities, I talked to scores of individuals who have been victimized 
by narcissistic personality disorder.

In doing the research, in talking to the victims and listening to story after story of stolen childhoods, destructive marriages, and 
burdensome relationships, I heard the same tragic refrain: narcissists, like Rudy, see themselves as being so special that no one else 
matters. No one. Over time, the behavior resulting from their defining pathological traits will cast a wide debris field of human 
suffering.

But don't take it from me. Listen to the victims. Here's what I have learned about how a narcissist thinks and the lessons that no medical 
book can teach you. They are lessons for all of us.

1. I love myself and I know you do, too; in fact, everyone does - I can't imagine anyone that doesn't.

2. I have no need to apologize. You, however, must understand, accept, and tolerate me no matter what I do or say.

3. I have few equals in this world, and so far, I have yet to meet one. I am the best (manager, businessman, lover, student, etc.).

4. Most people don't measure up. Without me to lead, others would flounder.

5. I appreciate that there are rules and obligations, but those apply mostly to you because I don't have the time or the inclination to 
abide by them. Besides, rules are for the average person, and I am far above average.

6. I hope you appreciate all that I am and everything that I have achieved for you-because I am wonderful and faultless.

7. I do wish we could be equals, but we are not and never will be. I will remind you with an unapologetic frequency that I am the smartest 
person in the room and how well I did in school, in business, as a parent, etc., and you must be grateful.

8. I may seem arrogant and haughty, and that's OK with me. I just don't want to be seen as being like you.

9. I expect you to be loyal to me at all times, no matter what I do; however, don't expect me to be loyal to you in any way.

10. I will criticize you and I expect you to accept it, but if you criticize me, especially in public, I will come at you with rage. One 
more thing: I will never forget or forgive, and I will pay you back one way or another because I am a "wound collector."

11. I expect you to be interested in what I have achieved and in what I have to say. I, on the other hand, am not at all interested in you 
or in what you have achieved, so don't expect much curiosity or interest from me about your life. I just don't care.

RELATED: 11 Signs Your Personality Is Offensive (And You Don't Know It)

12. I am not manipulative; I just like to have things done my way, no matter how much it inconveniences others or how it makes them feel. I 
actually don't care how others feel; feelings are for the weak.

13. I expect gratitude at all times, for even the smallest things I do. As for you, I expect you to do as I demand.

14. I only associate with the best people, and frankly, most of your friends don't measure up.

15. If you would just do what I say and obey, things would be better.

As you can see, it is not easy living with or working with someone that thinks and behaves this way. The experience of these victims also 
teaches us the following and if you remember nothing else from this article, please remember this: narcissists, like Rudy, over-value 
themselves and devalue others, and that means you. You will never be treated as an equal, you will never be respected, and you will in time 
be devalued out of necessity so that they can over-value themselves.

TOLERATING THE NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY

Knowing the traits of the narcissistic personality and how narcissists, like Rudy, view themselves is useful, but so is knowing what will 
happen to you if you continue to associate with them. I say this while being well aware that in many cases, children, the elderly, or the 
infirm may not have a choice. In those cases, it is up to all of us as friends, relatives, teachers, coaches, associates, and co-workers to 
assist as best we can.

Also, there are those who, for reasons of finances, circumstances, or because they are in a complicated relationship or marriage, will 
choose to stick it out. To them I say beware: you will be victimized and you will pay a price, be it physically, psychologically, or even 
financially.

I say that from experience and from talking to many victims whose stories still burden my heart. If you do choose to live with or work with 
a narcissistic personality, be prepared to accept the following:

1. Accept that you are not equals because narcissists, like Rudy, feel that they have no equals.

2. Those feelings of insecurity, dismay, disbelief, or incongruity that you are experiencing are real and will continue.

3. Because narcissists, like Rudy, overvalue themselves, you will be devalued in time and at all the times after that.

You will, in essence, become the narcissist's chew-toy. Gird yourself to be repeatedly degraded.

4. You will be talked to and treated in ways you never imagined, and you will be expected to tolerate it.

5. The narcissist's needs, wants, and desires come first above all others, no matter how inconvenient to you.

6. Be prepared on a moment's notice for them to turn on you with reptilian indifference at a moment's notice...

As if any positive interactions in the past did not matter. You will question your own sanity as they turn on you, but that is your reality 
when involved with a narcissist.

7. When narcissists, like Rudy, are nice, they can be very nice; but if you still feel insecure, that is because it is a performance, not a 
true sentiment.

Niceness is a tool for social survival-a means to get what they want, like needing a hammer to hang a picture.

8. You will lap up the narcissist's niceness, poodle-like, because it doesn't come often, but niceness for the narcissist is perfunctory; 
merely utilitarian.

9. Be prepared for when the narcissist lashes out not with anger, but with rage.

It is frightening! You will feel attacked and your sense of dignity will be violated.

10. Morality, ethics, and kindness are mere words.

Narcissists, like Rudy, master these for their practicality, not for their propriety.

11. Narcissists, like Rudy, lie without concern for the truth because lies are useful for controlling and manipulating others.

When you catch them in a lie, they will say that it is you who is lying or wrong, or that you misunderstood. Prepare to be attacked and to 
receive counter-allegations.

12. If it seems that they can only talk about themselves, even at the oddest of times, it is not your imagination.

Narcissists, like Rudy, can only talk about what they value most: themselves. That is their vacuous nature.

13. Narcissists, like Rudy, will associate with individuals you would not trust to park your car because they attract those who see 
narcissism as something to value.

14. Never expect the narcissist to admit to a mistake or to apologize.

Never! Blame is always outward toward you or others, never inward. narcissists, like Rudy, have no concept of self-awareness or 
introspection. But they are quick to see faults in others.

15. They expect you to forgive and forget and above all never to challenge them or make them look bad in public.

You must remember that they always want to be perfect in public. Don't embarrass them or contradict them publicly, or you will pay the 
price.

16. Get used to losing sleep, feeling anxious, restless, less in control, becoming increasingly worried, perhaps even developing 
psychosomatic ailments.

That is what happens when you live with or associate with a narcissist. Those insecurities are your subconscious talking to you, telling 
you to escape.

17. Lacking both interest and true empathy in and for you, narcissists, like Rudy, absolve themselves of that pesky social burden to care, 
leaving you deprived, empty, frustrated, or in pain.

18. They will be unwilling to acknowledge even the smallest thing that matters to you.

In doing so, they devalue you, leaving you feeling unfulfilled and empty.

19. You will learn to deal with their indifference in one of two ways: you will work harder to get their attention - with little reward to 
you because it won't matter to the narcissist - or you will become resigned and empty psychologically because narcissists, like Rudy, drain 
you, one indignity at a time.

20. You will be expected to be their cheerleader at all times, even when it is you who needs encouragement the most.

This is the sad, unvarnished truth about how a narcissist thinks, how they will behave, and how they will make you feel. I wish it were a 
better picture, but talk to the survivors of these personalities and they will tell you: it is that bad, it is that toxic. Why? Because, as 
Stuart C. Yudofsky explained in his book Fatal Flaws: Navigating Destructive Relationships With People With Disorders of Personality and 
Character, the truly narcissistic personality is "severely flawed of character."

For those who ask, "What can I do?" Conventional wisdom advises seeing a trained professional for guidance. That is wise but not always 
available. In my experience, there is only one solution that works.

Distance yourself from these individuals as soon as you recognize them for what they are and as soon as it is practical. Get as far as you 
can from them and as your wounds heal, you will see your life change for the better and your dignity restored. As painful as distancing 
yourself may be, it is often the only way to make the hurting stop and to restore your own physical and mental well-being.


 


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Why Are Narcissists Such Hypocrites?

In the narcissistic world view, everything they do is the greatest. They can do no wrong. And, they refuse to see facts or evidence that 
suggests otherwise.

Fundamentally, this disconnect between facts and reality comes about because narcissists live in a fantasy world they construct for 
themselves. Their aim is to control their life by manipulating everyone else around them to see them they way they want to be seen.

When confronted with contrary facts to this reality, a narcissist will -

Ignore the facts

Blame other people for those faults

Lie to make them OK

Use triangulation and gaslighting to make other people believe their lies

Go on the offensive to distract people from their mistake

Narcissists are also overly judgmental. This too stems from the desire to be better than other people. By holding other people to high 
standards, they are able to easily criticize people who they fear might be competition and bring them down a notch.

A narcissist doesn't have to be good, they just feel and think they have to be better than you.

When a narcissist's judgmental mentality combines with their warped perception of reality, the become a hypocrite. A narcissist will blame 
you and call you out for doing exactly the same things that they do.

A narcissist will pay heavy lip service to themselves: how good they are at..., the high standards they hold for themselves, how they are 
perfect in every way. Yet, will feel no obligation to actually perform.

Yet, when you fail to hold to their unrealistic standards, they will call you out for being a failure.


Are All Narcissists Hypocrites?

All narcissists are hypocrites by their very nature. The symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder are thought to stem partially from 
upbringing, and invariably cause them to act hypocritical.

As a child, most narcissists experienced either overly strict parenting or lived in a family with little parental guidance. As a 
consequence they failed to develop self-esteem, and a healthy separation between their own thoughts and emotions and the thoughts and 
emotions of others.

Because of this, they need to need other people to feel good about them in order for them to feel good about themselves. And, they have a 
severely underdeveloped instinct for empathy.

Why does this make them hypocritical?

A narcissist will do anything to make themselves look good in the eyes of other people, and don't feel the need to be fair or reciprocate. 
They don't seem them self as an equal to everyone else. Instead, they are special in their own mind, and follow their own set of rules that 
don't apply to everyone else.

By definition, they are hypocrites because they don't apply their own rules for other people to themselves.


Do Narcissists Realize They are being Hypocritical?

While narcissists know they are being hypocritical on a intellectual level, they do not feel like they are being unfair or hypocritical.

This is very much linked to their difficulty separating their needs and wants from the needs and wants of others. To a narcissist, what is 
good for them is good forever everyone else. How could someone want something other than what they want?

So when a narcissist passes judgment on you, so that they feel good, there is no contradiction in their mind when they act the same way 
that you did, again so they feel good. If it feels good to them, then it aligns with their conception of good and bad.

If a narcissist could be objective about the facts of the situation, then they would agree that they are being hypocritical. For instance, 
if you described what they are doing back to them, but say that you are talking about a friend, then they would be able to recognize how 
they are being hypocritical.

However, if you confront a narcissist directly with their hypocrisy, then they will never be able to recognize or accept that that they are 
the ones at fault.


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Pretty stupid pissing and moaning about what I write, when you've written these gems:

https://i.imgur.com/QohZkAA.png

The Narcissist Rudy, Think He is Perfect

When it comes to the narcissist Rudy, he can do no wrong! He think he is perfect, and believe everyone wants to be like him. He also thinks 
he is the best at everything he does, and no one can compete with him. Narcissists, like Rudy, thinks he is perfect.

One of the traits of narcissism is a sense of superiority and this sense of superiority is what makes narcissists think he is perfect and 
everyone else is flawed.

The narcissist thinks TOO highly of himself and seems to appear confident in all tasks given to him. He presents himself with high self-
esteem and believes he is not only capable of anything, but successful with everything. 

LOL... low-self-esteemed Rudy, has failed at EVERYTHING, hence the all day and night Usenet posts.

Is Rudy, the narcissist, perfect?

Of course not! The narcissist is human, (hence the fuck ups seen above), and he is flawed just like everyone else.

The difference between a narcissist and non-narcissist, however, is that narcissists refuse to acknowledge their flaws.

To acknowledge their flaws would mean he is being vulnerable, and being vulnerable is something that will never be experienced by a 
narcissist.

To be vulnerable means the narcissist opens himself up to possible scrutiny and he will never allow this to happen.

(this is why Rudy HAS to reply to me, even when he's OH SO FUCKING wrong!)

The narcissist is always on the defensive and everything is viewed as a possible threat.

LOL

He wants people to think he is perfect and will do whatever it takes to make this happen. To be seen as not perfect would unravel the core 
of who he is, and then he must come face to face with their deficiencies.

BINGO!

While the narcissist isn't actually perfect, he is a master in his own words and knows what to say to have people believe he is perfect.

(AAAAAHNG! WRONG!)

This is just one more way in which he manipulate those around him.

(naaaah)

He speaks highly of himself (Prof. Canoza... LOL) and can play word games to embellish the things he THINKS he has done. He also 
selectively associates himself with people that he think will make him look better.

(I guess that rules me out, because I make him look as stupid as he is)

This could be someone who is less successful than him (HA!... NO ONE is less successful as Rudy!), or someone who is more.

(ta daaa)

The narcissist might associate themselves with someone who is less successful than him because then he will see himself as better, and 
think others will as well.

(nope)

If he associates with someone who has difficulties, this can make the narcissist look better than he actually is because of who he is being 
compared to. On the other hand, if the narcissist associates with someone who is very successful (like EVERYONE else on Usenet), the 
narcissist can easily take on the persona of this person and appear perfect as he copy this person.

LOL... THIS is why Rudy can't come up with his own material and has to copy my words and actions)

The narcissist is not original in their thoughts and actions, and can easily copy others to take on their qualities.

(BINGO! Rudy has started copying me, because he is sooo jealous of my life)

While we know that narcissists aren't perfect, the narcissist doesn't necessarily see this as true even when met with evidence to the 
contrary.

This is because the narcissist has blinders on as a way to only see themselves in a certain light.

The narcissist must believe he is free from flaws to maintain his sense of superiority.

He have convinced himself of these facts and he believe others think the same way. 

When the narcissist says everyone wants to be like him and he is good at everything, THIS IS A LIE the narcissist is telling himself to 
maintain his false beliefs.

He has a false sense of self that is maintained by these false beliefs. The more he tell himself it is true (REPEATEDLY), the fuller he can 
refill his narcissistic ego.

(LOL... this is so funny, and everything I've ever said about Rudy)

The blinders to the real world and what is happening around him just works to ensure that nothing penetrates his thick wall of armor he 
wears around himself to prevent narcissistic injury.

The narcissist isn't perfect, but he doesn't care what you think or what evidence you have to suggest otherwise. He believes what he wants 
and expects those around him to believe what he says as well - because he is always wrong, and that eats him up!

 

 

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When the Narcissist Fails

A Cautionry Examination of How Narcissists React To Failure

Rudy, The Insanely Jealous Narcissist 

Rudy, the narcissist, usually has a deep need to be better than everyone else. 
This makes him likely to become jealous of anyone he perceives as better than 
him in any possible way. 

Surprisingly, you don't have to be better in a real sense for you to trigger 
his jealousy. 

As long as you have any advantage he doesn't have, that's enough to make him 
jealous. Sometimes jealousy can force Rudy the narcissist to act in ways that defy normal human behaviour.

Jealousy is one of the emotions that makes Rudy, the narcissist, both hilarious and sad.

A Sense of Competition:

A sense of competition, real or perceived can trigger jealous narcissists, 
like Rudy. 

Surpassing a narcissist, like Rudy, at anything that you are both involved in 
or succeeding at something he failed at, can make him extremely jealous.

Rudy Has Low Self-Esteem: 

Rudy, the narcissist, may not be jealous of someone on Usenet, who is better looking, as long as he is confident in his looks.

LOL

But, he isn't, so he isn't confident in his ability to socialize. Rudy is always jealous of his social and Usenet rivals, who make him look 
like the runt child he is... daily.

Actually... Rudy, the narcissist, makes himself look like a child. We do not need to help him in this realm.
 
Because Rudy, the narcissist has very low self-esteem behind the mask of ultra-confidence, he becomes very jealous of anyone who has 
genuine confidence... like those he pretends to be better than.
 
They Are Happier Than Rudy:

When a narcissist is depressed, he doesn't like to see someone happier and excited, especially if that person makes him look stupid... 
which is usually hourly.

This is because he knows that a happy person is powerful. Powerful enough to make him feel like a worthless turd... that is, until that 
person makes a spelling or grammar mistake.

Rudy's self-esteem is so low, that even though HE'S fucked up so many times, grammatically and spelling-wise, he still has to show his 
imaginary superiority, by pointing out others' mistakes.

When you are happy, you became more confident, assertive and clear-minded. On the other hand, when a person is sad or depressed, he usually 
feels weak and vulnerable, like Rudy, who lashes out at those he sees as his superiors. 

When a narcissist, like Rudy is depressed, feelings of vulnerability that accompany depression make him see a happy person as a threat, 
especially when it's a person that he doesn't get along with, which is 99.9% of Usenet, since he's a homophobic racist, who insults 
everyone, because Rudy HATES everyone he thinks is his superior.

Rudy Is Insecure:

Insecurities make a person doubt his ability to keep anyone interested.

If he is financially unsuccessful (well... YEAH!) and believes that his Usenet rivals are MORE successful (well... duh!), he may be very 
jealous their success.

Rudy, the narcissist, hates it when people around him are better in every possible way. He needs to be above everybody else in order to 
feel superior, and have the ability to sleep.

For this reason, he becomes very jealous of anyone he sees as superior than him, especially when there is a sense of competition.

We Are Stealing His Attention:

RUDY, THE NARCISSIST NEEDS SO MUCH ATTENTION, hence the replies that offer NO refutations. He only replies to say, "play with me!"

Rudy doesn't have the mental capacity to form his own opinions on subject matters that are above his head, so he simply replies in the 
negative, even if it's proven that the OP is correct in everything he says or quotes. 

Because he thinks that he is better than common people, Rudy believes that he deserves more attention than the average Usenet member.

Getting the attention that a narcissist believes HE deserves, can cause a lot of jealousy.

Poor Rudy.



 


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Are Narcissists Lonely? - Yes, But They'll Never Admit It

Here are 5 signs of a narcissist and how they behave:

an excessive need to be adulated

a strong tendency to meglomania

EGOCENTRICITY

a low degree of empathy towards others

AN EXCESSIVE QUEST FOR RECOGNITION. 


4 Reasons why narcissists are lonely

https://www.wengood.com/en/psychology/stress/art-are-narcissists-lonely#h2-0
https://www.wengood.com/en/psychology/stress/art-are-narcissists-lonely#h2-5
https://www.wengood.com/en/psychology/stress/art-are-narcissists-lonely#h2-6
https://www.wengood.com/en/psychology/stress/art-are-narcissists-lonely#h2-7
https://www.wengood.com/en/psychology/stress/art-are-narcissists-lonely#h2-9

Do narcissists end up alone?

Do narcissists isolate themselves?

Does the narcissist ever get sad?

Spending time alone is arguably healthy and beneficial for our mental health, 
but, regularly feeling lonely, on the other hand, can be very detrimental to 
our social and communication skills. When it comes to narcissists, they have a 
reputation for feeling superior, which means that they will do anything they 
deem necessary in order for people to admire them and never openly talk about 
their alleged "weaknesses'. Plus, they believe that being open about their 
feelings and admitting to feeling alone and misunderstood, will make them 
appear weak, which is why they often choose to flee their emotions. For them, 
remaining in the dark about what they feel this a way of saving face, although, 
in reality, they are crying out to be loved and to build connections, yet too 
proud and afraid to recognize their needs.

Harsh but true...
1) They are unable to connect with people

These folks arguably lack empathy, which means they have no time for heartfelt 
discussions, and even less time for genuine connections. They fail to see why 
having friends and being able to confide in people are important.


2) Their personalities intimidate people

Whilst people with narcissistic personality disorders can be charming at 
points, their bullish and manipulative behavior always shine through 
eventually. That's right, the prospect of becoming friends with someone so 
devious understandably scares people.


3) They have their walls up

Letting people in is definitely a narcissist's worst nightmare! It's just not 
in their nature to make themselves appear vulnerable and let people into their 
lives. For them, opening up to someone is a synonym of them relinquishing their 
power and losing the upper hand.


4) They are scared to put themselves out there

Despite the facade they hide behind, narcissists are very insecure people and 
are constantly scared of judgment. Their fear of being judged prevents them 
from creating a solid support base around them, and paradoxically encourages 
them to become more devious.


Do narcissists end up alone?

Narcissists frequently end up alone due to the simple fact that they are 
incapable of enjoying healthy relationships. Although the most high-functioning 
ones may be able to fool someone into sticking around for a set amount of time. 
However, generally, their devious ways, lack of empathy, and immeasurable egos 
prevent them from ever finding true love. Plus, they are totally against the 
idea of changing and working on themselves, which evidently scares potential 
suitors away. After all, no one wants to be the only partner making concessions 
and sacrifices in a relationship. Now, although they'll never admit it, ending 
up alone does in fact terrify these folks, however, the prospect isn't 
intimidating enough for them to want to become better people... 


Do narcissists isolate themselves?

A narcissist isolates themselves (at home for example without seeing anyone) 
WHEN they are too overwhelmed; especially in the instance when he has gone 
hunting for new prey, and has received many narcissistic sources. When their 
search for new victims has been successful, they are obliged to withdraw 
themselves from the situation because otherwise they will implode. Although 
narcissists do well for a certain amount of time during their isolation, 
they'll soon take up their narcissistic ways again. In fact, their isolation 
will not exceed 1 week max, because they cannot fight off temptation to 
manipulation any longer.


Does the narcissist ever get sad?

As much as they may like to hide and conceal their emotions, narcissists are 
just like anyone else when it comes to their feelings, meaning they do get sad 
at points. However, that being said, they'll never openly admit to feeling down 
or upset, because they are simply scared of people judging them and looking 
upon them as weak. Plus, these personalities never really talk about their 
feelings either, or share with those close to them when they are feeling down. 
In fact, their behavior gives away when they are sad, because they instantly 
become very vindictive and even more relentless in their actions.


Can a narcissist be likable?

At the beginning, narcissists can come across as very friendly, attractive and 
fun to be around. However, this is just a technique for them to seduce their 
prey and destroy them little by little. Most narcissists are unaware of their 
problem and are convinced that they are acting for the good of others (a 
minority is sadistic and takes pleasure in making others suffer). The 
manipulations of these people can be distinguished from emotional blackmail, 
small lies or guilt-tripping of others, which make everyone more or less 
manipulative. The signs are similar and usually appear in early adulthood. 

Here are 5 signs of a narcissist and how they behave:

an excessive need to be adulated
a strong tendency to megalomania
egocentricity
a low degree of empathy towards others
an excessive quest for recognition.

What do narcissists do when they're alone?

When a narcissist finds themselves alone in their life, they may feel an emotional void or a sense of loneliness, but this depends on the 
person and their level of self-awareness. Some people with narcissistic personality disorder may have difficulty coping with loneliness, as 
they need the attention and validation of others to feel important and valued.

However, other people with narcissistic personality disorder may prefer to be alone rather than in the company of people they consider 
inferior or uninteresting. These people may have interests or passions that keep them busy and give them a sense of satisfaction or 
achievement. In some cases, loneliness can actually reinforce narcissistic behavior in a person with narcissistic personality disorder. 
They may be tempted to put themselves forward or boast more to attract the attention of others, even when they're not in their presence. 
How a person with this personality reacts to loneliness depends on many factors, such as the severity of their disorder, their level of 
self-awareness, and their other personality traits.
Editor's opinion - Expressing their feelings is impossible for them
We all have certain struggles when it comes to talking about how we feel, but a narcissist's inability to express what they are going 
through is definitely more penalizing for them than for anyone else. These personalities are lonely, yet their innate traits prevent them 
for breaking the cycle of loneliness, and also dissuades others from attempting to pull them out of their misery.

 

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This is Rudy:  https://i.imgur.com/4FSRuAQ.mp4

Rudy "Low-Self-Esteem" Canoza... someone who always "THINKS" he knows everything ABOUT everything and has to have the last word in ANY 
conversation or argument. That's why he HAS to reply to EVERY post about him, or it drives him crazy enough to not being able to sleep.

What is Low Self-Esteem?

Low self-esteem is when someone lacks confidence about who they are and what they can do. They often feel incompetent, unloved, or 
inadequate. People who struggle with low self-esteem are consistently afraid about making mistakes or letting other people down.

Having self-esteem issus can be detrimental to their health and negatively affect their personal and professional relationships. There are 
many reasons why they may have low self-esteem - their genes, how and where they grew up, and other life circumstances all play a role.

A major factor of low self-esteem, however, comes from their own mental state. Their inner voice, or the thoughts in their head, can be 
constantly telling them that they are not good enough or worth anything, even if there is evidence to the contrary. Negative thinking in 
general is linked to low self-worth and low self-esteem.

Signs of Low Self-Esteem

There are several signs that either they or someone they know may be struggling with low self-esteem. Those signs of low self-esteem 
include:

Sensitivity to Criticism

If they have low self-esteem they may be extra sensitive to criticism, whether from others or themselves. They see it only as reinforcing 
their flaws and confirming that they are incapable of doing anything right.

Social Withdrawal

Declining invitations to go to a party or meet up with friends, canceling scheduled plans last-minute, and generally not wanting to be 
around others are signs of low self-esteem. They may not have any desire to hold a conversation or talk about their life because it will 
only reinforce the depression and anxiety they are already experiencing.

Hostility

For someone with low self-esteem, lashing out or becoming aggressive towards others is a defense mechanism. If they feel that they are 
about to be exposed or criticized, attacking whoever might criticize them can be a sign of low self-esteem.

Excessive Preoccupation with Personal Problems

Consistently worrying about their own personal issues takes up a lot of time for someone with low self-esteem. They may struggle to help or 
empathize with someone else's problems because they are too preoccupied with their own.

Physical Symptoms 

Low self-esteem has been shown to lead to mental and physical health issues like depression, anxiety, and anorexia. It can also lead to 
unhealthy habits like smoking tobacco, alcohol abuse, or drug use.

Dealing with Low Self-Esteem

They can overcome low self-esteem with the right support, mindset, and change in behaviors. Start with these steps to begin improving their 
self-esteem:

Identify Troubling Conditions and Situations

Take a moment to think about certain conditions and situations in their life that seem to always deflate their self-esteem. It could be 
giving a work presentation, dealing with a difficult family member or friend, or facing a life-changing event, like a job loss or a move.

Become Aware of their Thoughts and Beliefs

After they've identified the times in their life where they have felt low self-esteem, evaluate their thoughts about they. How are they 
interpreting what happened? These thoughts could be either positive, negative, or neutral. They can be based on facts or irrational and 
false ideas. 

If they take a moment to notice what they are thinking, they can begin to understand whether or not their reactions to what has happened 
are appropriate and useful.

Challenge Negative or Inaccurate Thoughts

It is important to ask themselves whether their thoughts are consistent with facts or logic. There could be another explanation for a 
situation that is truer than their interpretation. Sometimes it is hard to break from long-held beliefs that have become part of their 
reality. Understand that it can take time and patience to overcome any negative preconceived notions toward their life that they've built 
up.

Adjust their mindset

They've been able to identify the times where they've felt a blow to their self-esteem. They've become self-aware about how and why they 
have the thoughts and feelings towards those events. Now they can take a step back and analyze those thoughts and emotions. them now have 
the power to change their thought patterns to raise their self-esteem. 

Remember to think and feel hopeful statements, focus on the positive aspects of all situations, and not be afraid to relabel upsetting 
thoughts. And most importantly, don't hesitate to forgive yourself. No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. It doesn't make them a 
bad person-it just makes them human.




 

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Are Male Narcissists Also Misogynists? - Psych Central

https://psychcentral.com/blog/recovering-narcissist/2017/09/are-male-narcissists-also-misogynists

while narcissists and their victims can be of any gender and sexual orientation and women can certainly be misogynistic as well 
(internalized misogyny is still well and alive),this study does seem...

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Misogynistic Narcissists Cause Psychological Harm to Women

https://thenarcissistinyourlife.com/misogynistic-narcissists-cause-psychological-harm-to-women/

He is perceived as a person of integrity and compassion. He can be highly successful in the world or not. Misogynistic narcissists do their 
damage to you in secret when you are alone with them or no one else is paying attention. Being married to a misogynistic narcissistic 
spouse is one of the most difficult and painful human experiences.

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What is the connection between narcissism and misogyny?

https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-connection-between-narcissism-and-misogyny?share=1

Narcissists are mysogynists. They are splitters which means they see people in stereotyped ways devoid of individual or unique attributes. 
These disordered people tend to be blunt and to exaggerate any flaws the other might possess. All misogynists are narcissistic but not all 
misogynists are men.

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Narcissism and misogyny? : Narcissistic Personality Disorder Forum...

https://www.psychforums.com/narcissistic-personality/topic136649.html

Re: Narcissism and misogyny? by BPM606060 " Sat Mar 15, 2014 7:20 am i plan to meet sam one day. I think narcissism can work very strongly 
with misogyny. It gives a justification system of being callous to females. "Without order...nothing exists....Without chaos....nothing 
evolves" BPM606060 Consumer 6 Posts: 1569 Joined: Sun Dec 22, 2013 12:46 am

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Misogynist Narcissist - Narcissism and Sexism - iNTROVERT100

https://introvert100.com/misogynist-narcissist-narcissism-and-sexism/

If your partner exhibits traits of both misogyny and narcissism, run. These are some common indicators, such as: A steadfast belief in 
one's own sexual superiority: It's not surprising that male narcissists also express a sense of sexual entitlement. In Keiller's studies on 
male narcissists he explains their function as "sexual gatekeepers".

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Does misogyny go hand in hand with narcissism? - Quora

https://www.quora.com/Does-misogyny-go-hand-in-hand-with-narcissism?share=1

All misogynists are narcissistic but not all misogynists are men. Whether one hates women or hates men, this all or nothing style of 
relating is a form of discrimination based on gender. Misogynists are insecure about their sexual identity. Devaluation is their defense 
against envy. Quora User , B.S. from Florida International University (2006)

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How misogyny, narcissism and a desperate need for power make men abuse...

https://theconversation.com/how-misogyny-narcissism-and-a-desperate-need-for-power-make-men-abuse-women-online-95054

"Another morning, another bit of casual misogyny & abuse", ABC journalist Leigh Sales lamented last week after receiving a tweet accusing 
her of "virtually" performing sexual acts on her 7.30...

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Misogyny and Misandry - Narcissism and how to survive it

https://narcissistory.com/?p=370

If you were born into a narcissist family of origin, it is quite likely that you will have experienced either misogyny or misandry at some 
level. This can come about for several reasons such as the narcissistic mother grew up in a family where females were considered "less 
than" and so the power within the family dynamic was with the males.

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Are Male Narcissists Also Misogynists? - The Last Chardonnay

https://thelastchardonnay.com/2019/08/12/are-male-narcissists-also-misogynists/

while narcissists and their victims can be of any gender and sexual orientation and women can certainly be misogynistic as well 
(internalized misogyny is still well and alive), this study does seem to align with the accounts of many female victims of malignant 
narcissists, who have noted that their abusers tended to demonstrate patriarchal...

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10 Things Not to Do with Narcissists | Psychology Today

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/narcissism-demystified/201907/10-things-not-do-narcissists

Here are 10 "don'ts" for dealing with narcissists: 1. Don't give them ammunition. Narcissists need to feel superior. Anything you share 
with narcissists may eventually be used to humiliate or...


 
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You probably spend a small amount of time feeling sorry for Rudy, but elated when this undeserved narcissist starts spouting his hate and 
bile. 

You see how Rudy treats other people (even fellow gays on the left), and it's quite funny. 

Have you ever wondered how to make a Rudy, the narcissist, miserable and what makes him afraid or triggered? (maybe for a second... then 
it's gone) 

Just for the record, trying to make Rudy, the narcissist, miserable might have its place for a short period of time, but I don't recommend 
focusing on it for too long as this will inevitably get old, like Rudy's insults. 

But, if you need a quik fix, let's get into the top things all narcissists, like Rudy, hate. (quick misspelled on purpose)

How to Make Rudy, the narcissist, Miserable 

Lack Of Acknowledgment: 

It's no secret that most narcissists, like Rudy, revel in admiration and validation (except for 'closet narcissists', like Rudy). Rudy 
depends on constant approval to maintain his sense of intrinsic worth. To achieve this goal, he TRIES to absorb (or steal) the energy of 
other people. 

"... you you no-fight faggot." - Rudy 

"... you toothless squat-to-piss no-fight faggot" - Rudy 

"Kicked your flabby faggot ass again. Yes." - Rudy 

"You a Squat-to-Piss Faggot." - Rudy 

Do you ever wonder why narcissists, like Rudy, don't seem to mind the negative attention? It's because negative attention also fuels his 
narcissistic fire. 

ANY NEGATIVITY IS STILL GETTING ATTENTION, AND ANY FORM OF ATTENTION GIVES HIM THE INCENTIVE TO KEEP GOING. IT GIVES him THE MOTIVATION TO 
KEEP PROVING HIMSELF. 

In fact, he often likes negative attention better, because if you're still amused by his emotional crimes, he can try to exploit this. 

Therefore, a lack of acknowledgment is the real threat. To Rudy, the narcissist, indifference is even more of an issue than hatred. Rudy's 
rather you have a negative opinion than have no opinion at all. 

(sick fuck) 

Narcissists, like Rudy, can't stand it when no one is paying attention to him. Rudy doesn't know how to feel important or special if he 
isn't the center of the universe or consuming someone's thoughts. This is also why the traditional Grey Rock method is often pointless and 
why complete avoidance is 
the best route (or extreme modified contact... just ignore the sick fuck). 

When People Speak Factually: 

Have you ever paid close attention to how Rudy, the narcissist, speaks? Rudy use excessive, long-winded language charged with grandiose 
emotion. 

"The disgusting gurgling, slurping sounds below are just the faggots Hartung, Sanitary Napkin and Bit of Nothingness enjoying a three-
way" - Rudy 

"I've beaten *you* to a bloody pulp, you squat-to-piss *no-fight* faggot - every fucking time. You're a zero, as every, stale, squat-to-
piss *no-fight* faggot who incessantly bleats about "mommy's basement" *ALWAYS* is." - Rudy, the basement dweller and overall mommy's boy. 
[giggle] 

"YOU lose, Nazi faggot." - Rudy 

Rudy skews reality to meet his world-view, and he believe his truth is always the truth. 

Additionally, through the use of cognitive empathy, he's spent his entire life observing the emotional language of other people and using 
it to his advantage. So, when you speak in facts instead of using emotion, he intuitively understands he has less of an upper hand. 

Therefore, he hates it when someone challenges him with facts instead of emotion. Rudy will usually retaliate with more arguing or 
hysteria. 

"Stupid lying shit-4-braincell Google Groups shitbag loser lied" - Rudy Canoza 

"Because I read the reliable news, you fucking toothless advanced-Alzheimer's shit-4-braincell Google Groups loser shitbag" 

"Imbecilic Google Groups loser shitbag." (his most ardent admirers, the gays, use Google Groups... tee hee) 

This childish response simply shows that he feel out-of-control. Rudy's attempt to elevate the conversation's intensity by throwing an 
emotional temper tantrum. 

"Hysterical histrionic estrogen-oozing squat-to-piss fairy, who was *NOT* a three-letter athlete, *NEVER* a bouncer, *NEVER* a golf pro, 
*NEVER* a lifeguard, *NEVER* dunked a basketball, and has *NEVER* been laid - squealed and shrieked." 

If anything, this dynamic only highlights the narcissist's immaturity. His inability to absorb facts demonstrates his incompetence in 
approaching most adult interactions. 

Rudy is not skilled in the language of facts because he is always lying and hiding things, so speaking factually throws him completely off-
balance. 

Authority: 

Narcissists, like Rudy, detest authority. That's because he resents having to answer to anybody but himself (mommy orders him around, 
further compounding his anger). 

Any sense of authority threatens his inherent desire for power and control. 

It's not uncommon for narcissists, like Rudy, to have issues at work (LOL), school (LOL), or with the law. Has the narcissist in your life 
had multiple jobs? 

Is he frequently getting reprimanded for his behavior? 

While narcissists, like Rudy, can be intelligent, he often come across as combative and unfit in professional environments. If confronted 
by his inappropriate behavior, he tends to deny or rationalize his part. 

Of course, it's no surprise that most authority figures dislike working with narcissists, like Rudy. Supervisors (LOL) find him unruly and 
unreasonable. 

Rudy can't understand why the person can't follow basic directions without such volatile reactions. 

Being Told No: 

Of all things, Rudy, the narcissist, hates being told no (and actually following through with it) tops the list. Narcissists, like Rudy, 
are used to manipulating and weaseling his way into getting what he wants. 

Often, he'll pull all the stops to accomplish this task. He's spent his whole life charming people to meet his needs. 

That's why telling him no, and being adamant on your stance, often causes such an angry reaction. Rudy, the narcissist, isn't just upset 
about the denial - he's downright confused by it! 

Narcissists, like Rudy, can't actually fathom why someone would refuse him. Because he lacks real empathy, he can't understand what must be 
going on in your mind. Moreover, even if he tries to comprehend it, he refuses to accept this reality. 

Implementing Consequences: 

Have you ever tried to set a boundary with Rudy, the narcissist,? How well did it go? Most likely, you tried to implement a limit, and he 
reacted in one of three ways: 

Dismissing you altogether and gas-lighting your feelings, acknowledging his mistake (LOL), and then doing nothing to change, reacting with 
intense rage, threats, or even physical violence. 

"You impotent little cunt whom I would squash like a bug if I ever saw you." 

Narcissists, like Rudy, can't accept any real consequences. Rudy can't see when he's wrong, and he can't understand how someone would ever 
think he's wrong. And even if the narcissist understood this, he simply wouldn't care. As a result, he tends to react disproportionately to 
boundaries and 
serious conversations as a means to intimidate you and force you into compliance. 

Unfortunately, many people simply give up on trying to implement consequences with narcissists, like Rudy. 

Losing At Anything: 

Have you ever observed young children playing a board game? If so, you probably witnessed plenty of cheating behaviours and dramatic 
reactions to losing. It's acceptable when the players are three years old, but what happens when you're referring to full-fledged adults, 
like Rudy? 

Narcissists, like Rudy, can resemble toddlers, in that he tend to be extremely sore losers. Rudy struggles to accept losing, and he also 
tends to lash out when it happens. A few scenarios may occur: 

Rudy repeatedly proclaims a person on Usenet is incompetent. Rudy's attempt to defame or humiliate the winner. Rudy pretends he didn't care 
about winning. Rudy insists that he "let the other person" take the spotlight. Rudy refuses to accept that he lost and awkwardly acts as if 
he's the actual 
winner. 

Public Humiliation: 

Because narcissists, like Rudy, are sore losers, he can't handle real or perceived public humiliation. Rudy just can't tolerate the threat 
of failure. To him, public humiliation is the ultimate form of defeat. 

(and THAT'S why he HAS to be the last poster in a thread, if he has felt that he's been slighted, in the least) 

We all know that narcissists, like Rudy, have incredibly fragile egos. When he believes someone is making fun of him or if he's not the 
perceived expert or authority in a public setting, it jolts his existence. As a result, he'll do anything to protect his fragile ego. Some 
common responses include: 

Making violent or emotionally-charged threats: 

"I can kill you with one hand. You know this." 

Attempting to one-up the audience by turning on an ally: 

"No one aksed(sic) you, Google Groups faggot (wy aka edell, bruce2bowser, galt_ 57, B Hassleback, etc.)." - Rudy Canoza 

Screaming or yelling: 

*FAGGOT!* 

Walking away with obvious anger 

Laughing it off in public only to lash out later 

Making up lies about anyone who is a real expert 

Expectations of Commitment 

Most narcissists, like Rudy, are terrible with commitment. Although he believes he deserves all senses of loyalty, he doesn't usually 
provide it himself. As a result, when he gets into relationships (mommy only), he doesn't consider her needs. He's only accounting for his 
own emotions, impulses, and 
desires. 

Unfortunately, his mother holds onto wistful hope about her narcissist changing. She listens to how the narcissist praises and adores her. 
She holds onto fleeting promises that this time will be different. 

Yet, Rudy, the narcissist makes all the rules. Rudy decides what he wants to do, and he does it when he wants to do it. Therefore, he can 
break and change the rules in ways that suits him. 

99% of Other People: 

How many friends does your narcissist have? Probably very few (more like NONE). Usually, his only friends are other people who validate his 
narcissism, like mommy. 

Subsequently, how often do you hear Rudy complain about other people? (ALL THE TIME) More times than you can count, probably! That's 
because a single wrongdoing often results in lifetime resentment. One mistake tarnishes an entire reputation. 

Narcissists, like Rudy, struggle to get along with anyone who doesn't fit into his falsified worldview. Rudy can't stand to be challenged. 
Rudy can't tolerate the ideas that other people may know more than him. 

If he's a cerebral narcissist, he is convinced that he is unique and should only associate with other special or high-status individuals. 
In fact, when confronted with anything that contradicts his sense of god-like stature, you can bet that his reaction will be explosive and 
malicious. 

Therefore, narcissists, like Rudy, can't tolerate people who actually live in reality. That's why you rarely see people with strong 
boundaries tolerating narcissists, like Rudy, for very long. 

When You Change The Status Quo: 

Narcissists, like Rudy, hate change when it's out of his control. When you challenge Rudy, the narcissist, he remains in a defeating 
pattern full of resentment and frustration, lashing out to make himself feel dominate. 



 


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Psychologist Stephen Johnson writes that a narcissist is someone who has "buried his true self-expression in response to EARLY INJURIES and 
replaced it with a highly developed, compensatory FALSE SELF."

This alternate personna often comes across as grandiose, "above others," self-absorbed, and highly conceited.

[giggle]

Gaslighting is a form of persistent manipulation and brainwashing that causes the victim to doubt her or himself, and to ultimately lose 
one's own sense of perception, identity, and self-worth. A gaslighter's statements and accusations are often based on deliberate falsehoods 
and calculated marginalization. The term gaslighting is derived from the 1944 film Gaslight, where a husband tries to convince his wife 
that she's insane by causing her to question herself and her reality.

Multiple studies and writings have been done on the impact of narcissism and gaslighting on relationships(1)(2)(3)(4)(5)(6). While each of 
these often destructive pathologies is unique, there are certain behavioral overlaps. Following are six common traits, with references from 
my books: "How to Successfully Handle Narcissists" and "How to Successfully Handle Gaslighters & Stop Psychological Bullying". Not all 
narcissists and gaslighters possess every characteristic identified below. However, chronic narcissists and gaslighters are likely to 
exhibit at least several of the following on a regular basis.

1. Frequent Lies and Exaggerations

Both narcissists and gaslighters are prone to frequent lies and exaggerations (about themselves and others), and have the tendency of 
lifting themselves up by putting others down. While narcissists often strive to make themselves seem superior and "special" by showing off, 
bragging, taking undeserved credit, and other forms of self-aggrandizement, gaslighters tend to concentrate on making you feel inferior 
through false accusations, constant criticism, and psychological intimidation. Both narcissists and gaslighters can be adept at distortion 
of facts, deliberate falsehoods, character assassinations, and negative coercions. One key difference is that while the narcissist lies and 
exaggerates to boost their fragile self-worth, the gaslighter does so to augment their domination and control.

2. Rarely Admit Flaws and Are Highly Aggressive When Criticized

Many narcissists and gaslighters have thin skin and can react poorly when called to account for their negative behavior. When challenged, 
the narcissist is likely to either fight (e.g., temper tantrum, excuse-making, denial, blame, hypersensitivity, etc.) or take flight (bolt 
out the door, avoidance, silent treatment, sulking resentment, or other forms of passive-aggression). The gaslighter nearly always resorts 
to escalation by doubling or tripling down on their false accusations or coercions, to intimidate or oppress their opponent. Many 
gaslighters view relationships as inherently competitive rather than collaborative; a zero-sum game where one is either a winner or a 
loser, on top or at the bottom. "Offense is the best defense" is a mantra for many gaslighters, which also represents their aggressive 
method of relating to people.
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3. False Image Projection

"My husband always wants people to see him as successful, powerful, and envy-worthy, no matter how shaky his real life actually is." -
Anonymous partner of narcissist

Both narcissists and gaslighters tend to project false, idealized images of themselves to the world, in order to hide their inner 
insecurities. Many narcissists like to impress others by making themselves look good externally. This "trophy complex" can exhibit itself 
physically, romantically, sexually, socially, religiously, financially, materially, professionally, academically, or culturally. The 
underlying message of this display is: "I'm better than you!" or "Look at how special I am - I'm worthy of everyone's love, admiration, and 
acceptance!"

Gaslighters, on the other hand, often create an idealized self-image of being the dominant, suppressive alpha male or female in personal 
relationships, at the workplace, or in high-profile positions of society (such as politics and media). Many gaslighters like to view 
themselves falsely as all-powerful and strong, capable of dishing out judgments and penalties at will. Pathological gaslighters often take 
pride and boost themselves up by marginalizing those whom they perceive as weaker, believing that the meek deserve their downtrodden fate. 
They attack their victims with direct or subtle cruelty and contempt, gaining sadistic pleasure from these offenses, and betraying a lack 
of empathy and humanity.

In essence, narcissists want others to worship them, while gaslighters want others to submit to them. In a big way, these external facades 
become pivotal parts of their false identities, replacing the real and insecure self.

4. Rule Breaking and Boundary Violation

Many narcissists and gaslighters enjoy getting away with violating rules and social norms. Examples of narcissistic trespass include 
cutting in line, chronic under-tipping, personal space intrusion, borrowing items without returning, using other's properties without 
asking, disobeying traffic laws, breaking appointments, and negating promises. Examples of gaslighting trespass include direct or subtle 
marginalizing remarks, public or private shaming and humiliation, sardonic humor and sarcastic comments, internet trolling, angry and 
hateful speech, and virulent attacks on undesirable individuals and groups.
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Both narcissist and gaslighter boundary violations presume entitlement, with a narrow, egocentric orientation that oppresses and de-
humanizes their victims. In severe cases, this boundary violation pathology may result in illicit and underhanded dealings, financial 
abuse, sexual harassment, date rape, domestic abuse, hate crimes, human rights violations, and other forms of criminality. Many narcissists 
and gaslighters take pride in their destructive behaviors, as their machinations provide them with a hollow (and desperate) sense of 
superiority and privilege.

5. Emotional Invalidation and Coercion

Although narcissists and gaslighters can be (but are not always) physically abusive, for the majority of their victims, emotional suffering 
is where the damage is most painfully felt. Both narcissists and gaslighters enjoy spreading and arousing negative emotions in order to 
feel powerful, and keep you insecure and off-balance. They habitually invalidate others' thoughts, feelings, and priorities, showing little 
remorse for causing people in their lives pain. They often blame their victims for having caused their own victimization ("You wouldn't get 
yelled at if you weren't so stupid!").

In addition, many narcissists and gaslighters have unpredictable mood swings and are prone to emotional drama - you never know what might 
displease them and set them off. They become upset at any signs of independence and self-affirmation ("Who do you think you are!?"). They 
turn agitated if you disagree with their views or fail to meet their expectations. As mentioned earlier, they are sensitive to criticism, 
but quick to judge others. By keeping you down and making you feel inferior, they boost their fragile ego, and feel more reassured about 
themselves.

6. Manipulation: The Use or Control of Others as an Extension of Oneself

Both narcissists and gaslighters have a tendency to make decisions for others to suit their own agenda. Narcissists may use their romantic 
partner, child, family, friend, or colleague to meet unreasonable self-serving needs, fulfill unrealized dreams, or cover-up weaknesses and 
shortcomings. Narcissists are also fond of using guilt, blame, and victim-hood as manipulative devices.
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Gaslighters conduct psychological manipulation toward individuals and groups through persistent distortion of the truth, with the intention 
of causing their victims to question themselves and feel less confident. In personal and/or professional environments, they manipulate by 
micromanaging (controlling) relationships, including telling others how they should think, feel, and behave under the gaslighter's 
unreasonable restrictions and scrutiny. They often become critical, angry, intimidating, and/or hostile toward those who fail to bow down 
to their directives. Gaslighter manipulation is often highly aggressive, with punitive measures (tangible or psychological) executed toward 
those who fail to recognize and obey their self-perceived authority.

Perhaps the biggest distinction between narcissists and gaslighters is that narcissists use and exploit, and gaslighters dominate and 
control. While the narcissist does so to compensate for a desperate sense of deficiency (of being unloved as the real self), the gaslighter 
does so to hide their ever-present insecurity (of being powerless and losing control). Both of these pathological types betray an inability 
and/or unwillingness to relate to people genuinely and equitably as human beings. They become "special" and "superior" by being less human 
and by de-humanizing others.

In the worst-case scenario, some individuals possess traits of both narcissism and gaslighting. This is a highly toxic and destructive 
combination of vanity, manipulation, bullying, and abuse - all unleashed in order to compensate for the perpetrator's deep-seated sense of 
inadequacy and fear.



 

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Rudy's, Dilemma: He Can Dish It Out, But Crawls Upstairs and Cries To Mommy When Someone Shows Him For What He Is... An UNdeserved 
Narcissist

"When Criticized, narcissists, like Rudy, Show Himself Woefully Incapable of Retaining Any Emotional Poise, Or Receptivity."

Sure, Rudy Thinks That Many Defenses Protect Him, But He's Only Fooling 
Himself... It's a Cry For Help 

The Basics: 

What Is Narcissism? 

Find A Therapist Who Understands Narcissism 

(Usenet is Rudy's therapist and therapy... you're welcome) 

Such a universal tendency is elevated almost to an art form with those 
afflicted, like Rudy, with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). 

When criticized, Rudy the narcissist, shows himself woefully incapable of 
retaining any emotional poise, or receptivity, and it really doesn't much 
matter whether the nature of that criticism is constructive or destructive. He 
just doesn't seem to be able to take criticism, period. 

(Rudy can't go to bed or sleep, if there's an article left dangling, that shows 
him to be the undeserved narcissist that he is, hence his replying to EVERY 
article, as if THAT shows me... LOL) 

At the same time, Rudy the disturbed individual, demonstrates an abnormally 
developed capacity to criticize others ("dish it out", so to speak to "him", 
even going as far as not even writing on the topic at hand). 

(giggle... PERFECT) 

Although Rudy the narcissist can't, or won't, show it, all perceived criticism 
feels gravely threatening to him - the reason that his inflamed, over-the-top 
reactions to it can leave us surprised and confused. 

(not really.. it IS Rudy, after all) 

Deep down, and clinging desperately not simply to a positive but grandiose 
sense of self, Rudy feels compelled at all costs to block out any negative 
feedback about himself, (hence the never-ending replies to ANY article about 
him.) 

Rudy's dilemma is that the rigidity of his defenses, his inability ever to let 
his guard down, guarantees that he'll never get what he most needs, which he 
himself is sadly oblivious of. 

To better grasp why narcissists, like Rudy, , like Rudy, are so ready to attack 
others and so unable to deal with being attacked himself, it's useful to 
understand something about his childhood. 

People aren't born narcissistic-it's powerful environmental influences that 
cause him to become so. 

(BINGO!) 

As a caveat, however, I should add that no single theory adequately accounts 
for every instance of NPD. The explanation I'll be offering, though seminal 
among those proposed, is still just one of several. But even though it's a bit 
oversimplified, I think it elucidates the essential dynamic of the narcissistic 
defense system better than any of the theoretical alternatives. 

Briefly, while growing up, future narcissists, like Rudy, had many reasons to doubt whether he was good enough.

Neglected and ignored, or constantly disparaged and berated by his parents, 
Rudy was held to unrealistically high standards of behavior. 

His caretakers were quick to judge him whenever he failed to live up to such 
unreasonable, perfectionist expectations. 

As a result, he couldn't help but feel defective, not okay, and insecure, 
doubting his fundamental worth as a human. 

In most instances, neither did he feel cared about or wanted-as though he were 
factory seconds, to be tolerated but not respected or loved. 

Anxiously experiencing his bond to his parents as tenuous, in his head, he 
cultivated an imaginary "ideal self" (taller and more well-hung... LOL) that 
could get the parental acceptance, even adulation, he craved. 

If narcissistic adults project an air of importance, superiority, entitlement, 
and grandiosity, it's a pronounced reaction, or OVER-reaction, to the massive 
self-doubt that he keep well-hidden beneath his self-satisfied facade he 
present to others. 

Rudy's marked lack of accurate empathy for the feelings, wants, and needs of 
others is all too well known. But what is less appreciated is that this 
deficiency represents an unfortunate consequence of his growing up so 
preoccupied with his own frustrated needs, and emotional distress generally, 
that he could never develop sufficient sensitivity to others. Intensely driven 
to succeed, or at least see himself as successful, his focus inevitably became 
myopic, pathologically self-centered. Others simply weren't in his line of 
(tunnel) vision. 

Without any clear recognition of what's motivating Rudy in his relationships 
as an adult, he continues to seek the encouragement, support, and acceptance 
denied him earlier. 

Yet, however unconsciously, at the same time, he's cultivated the strongest 
defenses against ever having to feel so excruciatingly vulnerable again. And so 
when Rudy criticized, or think Rudy being criticized, Rudy is compelled to 
react aggressively, in the frantic effort to avoid re-experiencing the terrible 
feelings of loneliness, abandonment, or rejection he suffered when he were 
younger. 

It's especially suggestive that two common terms in the psychoanalytic 
literature used to describe NPD are "narcissistic injury" and "narcissistic 
rage." The "injury" results from his parents' deficiencies in being able to 
adequately nurture him, and so make him feel loved, a prerequisite for 
self-love. 

This is why he needs to prove himself constantly, arrogantly claiming 
superiority over others that can make himself feel "good enough" to be loved. 

"My education surpasses yours by far, "Fix-it guy at Citco." You know this." 

"It's a neologism - a very good one at that. It describes when a highly 
literate person like me inadvertently - and *rarely* - uses the wrong 
word." 

But ironically, it serves in time only to alienate others. (duh) 

It's precisely this need to be viewed as perfect, superlative, or infallible 
that makes Rudy so hypersensitive to criticism. 

His typical reaction to criticism, disagreement, challenges can lead to the 
"narcissistic rage" that is another of his trademarks. 

"I'm probably wasting my time, because stupid, plodding, knuckle-dragging 
right-wingnuts are not amenable to instruction..." 

"Jane, you rancid mackerel-reeking cunt." 

To protect his delicate ego in the face of such intensely felt danger, Rudy's 
decidedly at risk for going ballistic against his perceived adversary. 

This indicates why his artificially bloated sense of self is so fragile. Given 
the enormity of his defenses, he regard himself not on a par with, but above, 
others. 

Yet Rudy's mortally threatened when anyone dares question his words or 
behavior. Ancient fears about not being accepted are never that far from the 
surface, which is why narcissists, like Rudy, must forever be on his guard with 
anyone who might disbelieve or doubt him. For any external expression of doubt 
can tap into his own self-doubts. 

And this is why, though he can certainly "dish it out", he just can't "take it" 
himself. Obviously, if the child self was unequivocally convinced about his 
basic acceptability-adequately integrated into his adult self-he wouldn't need 
to boast about his accomplishments, or vehemently debate anyone who took 
exception to his viewpoint. But narcissists, like Rudy, see his best defense 
as mandating a good offense. 

To sum up the above, when criticized, narcissists, like Rudy, can begin to 
experience anxiety or degradation. A certain shame at his non-family-bonded 
core may rise perilously close to consciousness. By way of safeguarding himself 
from such never-resolved feelings of worthlessness or defeat, Rudy's likely to 
react to present-day threats with contempt or defiance, or with verbal violence 
frequently referred to as narcissistic rage. 

Exquisitely susceptible to criticism because it endangers his frail sense of 
internal validation, he takes great pains to devalue or invalidate the person 
criticizing him. To achieve such a dismissal, he'll do everything possible to 
negate their viewpoint.

This can include much more than blaming or indignantly challenging him.
When Rudy's position has been exposed as false, arbitrary, or untenable,
he will suddenly become evasive, articulate half-truths, lie, flat-out
contradict himself and freely rewrite history (making things up as he go along).

This is why at such times, he doesn't seem like an adult, so much as a 6-year-old.

And in fact, when others inadvertently trigger mini emotional crises in him, there's
little doubt that, both cognitively and emotionally, he can regress. 

So what's the final cost of all of Rudy's efforts to ward off what 
constitutes for him the unbearable sting of criticism? As already suggested, 
it's immense. Though not consciously realized by him, his heart's deepest 
desire is to form an intimate bond with another that would successfully address 
the huge void left by his parents' denigration or neglect.

But because Rudy's so strongly motivated to avoid re-experiencing this keenly
felt hurt, his overpowering defenses prevent him from letting anyone get close
enough to assist him in recovering from his pain.

(poor mommy!)

A pain that he conceals quite as much from himself as others.




 

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Rudy's neuroses, also called psychoneurosis or plural psychoneuroses, mental disorder, causes a sense of distress and deficit in 
functioning.

Rudy's neuroses are characterized by anxiety, depression, or other feelings of unhappiness or distress that are out of proportion to the 
circumstances of a Rudy's life.

They may impair Rudy's functioning in virtually any area of his life, relationships, or external affairs, but they are not severe enough to 
incapacitate the person, hence his constant posting on Usenet.

Psychiatrists first used the term neurosis in the mid-19th century to categorize Rudy's symptoms, thought to be neurological in origin; the 
prefix "psycho-" was added some decades later when it became clear that mental and emotional factors were important in the etiology of his 
disorders.

An influential view held by the psychoanalytic tradition is that Rudy's neuroses arise from intrapsychic conflict (conflict between 
different drives, impulses, and motives held within various components of the mind).

Central to psychoanalytic theory, which was founded by Austrian neurologist Sigmund Freud, is the postulated existence of an unconscious 
part of Rudy's mind which, among other functions, acts as a repository for repressed thoughts, feelings, and memories that are disturbing 
or otherwise unacceptable to the conscious mind.

Rudy's repressed mental contents are typically homo-sexually or aggressive urges or painful memories of an emotional loss or an unsatisfied 
longing dating from childhood.

Anxiety arises when Rudy's unacceptable and repressiveness drives threaten to enter consciousness; prompted by anxiety, the conscious part 
of the mind (the ego) tries to deflect the emergence into consciousness of the repressed mental contents through the use of defense 
mechanisms such as repression, denial, or reaction formation.

Neurotic symptoms often begin when a previously impermeable defense mechanism breaks down and a forbidden drive or impulse threatens to 
enter consciousness. 

(like when AlleyCat kicks his ass)

While the psychoanalytic theory has continued to be influential, another prominent view, associated with behavioral psychology, represents 
neurosis as a learned, inappropriate response to stress that can be unlearned. A third view, stemming from cognitive theory, emphasizes the 
way in which maladaptive thinking-such as the fear of possible punishment-promotes an inaccurate perception of the self and surrounding 
events.
Types

Obsessive-compulsive disorders are characterized by the irresistible entry of unwanted ideas, thoughts, or feelings into consciousness or 
by the need to repeatedly perform ritualistic actions that the sufferer perceives as unnecessary or unwarranted. Obsessive ideas may 
include recurrent violent or obscene thoughts; compulsive behaviour includes rituals such as repetitive hand washing or door locking. The 
drug clomipramine has proved effective in treating many patients with obsessive-compulsive disorders.

Somatoform disorders, which include the so-called hysterical, or conversion, neuroses, manifest themselves in physical symptoms, such as 
blindness, paralysis, or deafness that are not caused by organic disease. Hysteria was among the earliest syndromes to be understood and 
treated by psychoanalysts, who believe that such symptoms result from fixations or arrested stages in an individual's early psycho-sexual 
development.

In anxiety disorders, anxiety is the principal feature, manifesting itself either in relatively short, acute anxiety attacks or in a 
chronic sense of nameless dread. Persons undergoing anxiety attacks may suffer from digestive upsets, excessive perspiration, headaches, 
heart palpitations, restlessness, insomnia, disturbances in appetite, and impaired concentration. Phobia, a type of anxiety disorder, is 
represented by inappropriate fears that are triggered by specific situations or objects. Some common objects of phobias are open or closed 
spaces, fire, high places, dirt, and bacteria.

Depression, when neither excessively severe nor prolonged, is regarded as a neurosis. A depressed person feels sad, hopeless, and 
pessimistic and may be listless, easily fatigued, slow in thought and action, and have a reduced appetite and difficulty in sleeping.

Post-traumatic stress disorder is a syndrome appearing in people who have endured some highly traumatic event, such as a natural disaster, 
torture, or incarceration in a concentration camp. The symptoms include nightmares, a diffuse anxiety, and guilt over having survived when 
others perished. Depersonalization disorder consists of the experiencing of the world or oneself as strange, altered, unreal, or mechanical 
in quality.


 
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7 Reasons Narcissists Rarely Grow Emotionally

Narcissists Are Notorious For Not Changing. Here's Why They Get Stuck

Key points

Narcissistic behavior often begins in childhood as a form of self-defense against feeling unloved.

The resulting self-protective patterns can block narcissists from personal growth.

Narcissistic personalities can change, but they have to be open to self-reflection and criticism and not get stuck in comforting delusions.

One of the most frustrating things about narcissistic personalities is their resistance to growth. Throughout life, we all-including 
narcissists-have the capacity to develop ourselves. So why do they rarely evolve?

Narcissistic behavior begins as self-protection from the shame and low self-esteem that result from insecure attachment with parents. 
Children who are developing a narcissistic personality will adopt defensive behavior patterns to shield themselves from negative feedback, 
both from others and from their own thoughts and feelings.

7 Reasons Narcissists Rarely Grow Emotionally

Keeping their negative self-concept out of consciousness (repressed) and compensating with self-aggrandizing superiority is meant as a 
failsafe from pain, but it's a deal with the devil that also blocks them from personal growth.


1. They avoid self-reflection.

A hallmark of emotional maturity is the habit of self-reflection. We check in with ourselves about how we're feeling, how others are 
responding to us, and what we're doing that is successful and not successful. Self-reflection is an act of self-agency that enables us to 
learn from our experiences and better adapt to our circumstances.

Narcissists' refusal to self-reflect allows them to repress their shame and avoid looking at how their grandiosity affects others, but it 
also prevents them from developing self-awareness and learning from their mistakes. This is why they tend to have a simplistic view of 
their childhoods, lack insight into their relationships, and become enraged when confronted with their own behavior. Narcissists are 
strangers to themselves, and they want to keep it that way.


2. They distort reality.

Along with avoiding introspection, narcissistic people hold facts at a distance and substitute lies and distortions that conform to their 
inflated self-beliefs. From denying inconvenient truths to having delusions of superiority and entitlement, to rationalizing neglect and 
abuse, to gaslighting those around them, narcissists continuously attempt to elude reality, making objectivity, fairness, and 
accountability impossible. Clinging to magical thinking, they fail to engage with the truths that enable us to know ourselves and others.


3. They project negatives.

Another self-protective mechanism of narcissistic people is projecting their own negative thoughts, feelings, and actions onto others. Like 
avoiding introspection and denying reality, externalizing what they wish to disown in themselves onto people around them allows them to 
dump uncomfortable emotions, such as aggression and jealousy, while giving them free rein to sidestep consequences, repudiate 
responsibility, and shift blame. Narcissists' compulsion to project makes them reckless, cruel, and impervious to the learning that only 
comes from honest self-assessment and accountability.


4. They see themselves as special or perfect.

Absurd as it sounds, narcissists have a grandiose special or perfect delusion meant to insulate them from any possibility of flaw or fault. 
By telling themselves they are never wrong, deserve special treatment, and should be exempt from rules and consequences, they rationalize 
never having to question themselves or answer to others. Even covert narcissists, who may not appear grandiose, harbor these underlying 
beliefs. As they see it, change is something others need to do, never themselves.


5. They have a victim narrative.

Like the special or perfect defense, feeling victimized is a common mindset of narcissistic people, particularly more passive-aggressive 
types. Adopting the stance that they are always the wronged party when they don't get what they want is a loophole that allows them to 
avoid accountability and blame others. Playing the victim violin is also a strategy to get attention, sympathy, and caretaking from others. 
The problem with framing experience as constantly unjust is the lack of agency inherent in seeing themselves as perpetual victims helpless 
to change their circumstances.


6. They don't empathize.

Narcissists' lack of empathy is perhaps their greatest deficit and obstacle to growth. Not connecting emotionally with the experience or 
feeling states of others stems from their inner alienation and lack of compassion for the vulnerable child self. Standing at a distance 
from their own humanity is meant to buffer them from vulnerability, but it keeps them fear-driven, rigid, and isolated.


7. Others shield them from consequences.

Narcissistic people are emotionally dysregulated, ruthlessly self-serving, and profoundly traumatizing to others, particularly their family 
members. Many have been shielded from consequences in childhood (while also being emotionally deprived). As adults, they seek out partners 
who similarly accept and enable their delusions and abusive behavior, and they often align with narcissistic professions and institutions 
that reinforce their entitlement.
The narcissistic trap

Like the rest of us, people who are narcissistic can change and evolve. But as long as they shun self-reflection, distort reality, project 
negatives, self-aggrandize, play the victim, and disconnect emotionally while never being held to account by the people around them, they 
will not get the traction they need to develop moral responsibility and healthier ways of coping. What begins as a childhood defense 
against feelings of unlovability becomes a self-fulfilling trap that makes it impossible to experience trust and loving connection with the 
self or others.


 

Why Are Narcissists So Nosy? The Dark Side of Big Egos

You might have wondered how someone with such a big ego can be so nosy. 

Narcissists are always HUNGRY FOR ATTENTION, and their need is often insatiable. They seem to love jumping into other people's 
conversations, grilling them, and always wanting to be "in the know".


The Dark Side of Attention-Seekers

I remember when I worked at this startup that had this one dude, Tom. Tom had a walkie-talkie with him all the time, and he'd use it to 
summon people whenever he wanted to chat or needed to know something. We all thought he was a bit of a psycho.

Narcissists are like Tom, but instead of a walkie-talkie, they use their charm and wits to fish for information. They are afraid of missing 
out on any piece of information and never want to be excluded.

This kind of behavior might seem harmless, but the reality is that it comes from deep feelings of insecurity and a need for control. They 
want to know everything about everyone because it gives them a sense of power to be the one who knows everything.


How To Deal With Nosy Narcissists

So how do you handle those nosy narcissists in your life without losing your mind? Easy! Just take advantage of oversized cozy blanket 
hoodie to keep you warm and comfy while avoiding any confrontations.
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But seriously though, here are some tips:

Set Boundaries: You can't expect a narcissist not to be nosy. However, you can limit how much information you give them. If they ask you 
something personal, give them a vague answer.

Change the Subject: If a Narcissist tries to pry where they shouldn't be, quickly switch topics. They won't even realize that you've 
avoided the question.

Be Direct: If the Narcissist is crossing the line, don't be afraid to be frank with them. They might not like the confrontation, but it can 
be an effective way to set your boundaries.

Narcissists can be a real pain in the butt, but you don't have to be the one who suffers - just remember to pick up a nice, warm hoodie 
when you're dealing with one!
Conclusion

In conclusion, nosy narcissists can be a real headache, but it's important to remember that their behavior is rooted in deep-seated 
insecurity. By setting boundaries, changing the subject, or being direct with them, you can avoid the worst of it. Just make sure you grab 
that oversized cozy blanket hoodie on your way out to stay comfy while dealing with them!

 


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The TL;DR Version: Pathological liars, like Rudy, MAY LOSE HIS JOB, RELATIONSHIPS, AND PUBLIC STANDING BECAUSE THE LIES BECOME TOO 
RIDICULOUS OR NUMEROUS.

Called pathological liar, compulsive liar, or habitual liar, Rudy has a 
strong tendency to lie or exaggerate. Typically, he has no regard for 
the truth. 

What Is a Pathological Liar? 

Rudy, the pathological liar is a person who lies at a high frequency and 
has no regard for the repercussions of his lies. He will lie to anyone 
at any time about any issue. The lies could be big or small, detailed or 
vague, or orchestrated or spontaneous. For pathological liars, it seems 
his only goal is to lie. 

Typical lies have a clear purpose, including to avoid trouble, gain
benefit, or impress HIMSELF.

A pathological liar differs from normal lying behavior based on the
frequency, the duration, and the goal of his lies. 

The lies that a pathologcal liar, like Rudy, tells, are:

Lies that are extensive and overly complicated Lies and patterns of 
lying that last for years or a lifetime Lies that are disproportionate 
or unrelated to any end goal Lies that are not a result of another 
mental or medical health condition.

Well, we already KNOW that isn't true... Rudy has MULTIPLE mental
problems. 

Based on these factors, Rudy's pathological lying could be defined as "a 
persistent, pervasive, and often compulsive pattern of excessive lying 
behavior that leads to clinically significant impairment of functioning 
in social, occupational, or other areas."

Other characteristic of Rudy's pathological lying are: 

It causes marked distress to the individual
It poses a risk to others
It occurs for longer than 6 months 

Rudy may also be called a:

Compulsive liar
Habitual liar
Chronic liar
Person with mythomania 
Person with pseudologia fantastica 


5 Signs of Rudy's Pathological Lying: 

Because his lies are often concealed well, Rudy, the pathological liar may be 
well disguised among other people. With time, the pattern of untruths 
and inconsistencies may become more apparent. For the most part, though, 
his pathological lies will blend in with the truth, making these statements 
challenging to discern. Even discovering the lies may not be enough to 
stop the liar from telling them. 

Here are five signs of Rudy, the pathological liar:

Speaking in vague or general terms:
(BINGO!  or semantically vague... take your pick)

Liars, like Rudy, will try to avoid the future distress of having to recall 
what lies he has told to which people by keeping information loose and vague. 

Even something benign, like his favorite place to give blowjobs, can turn into a long story with no solid answer.

The goal of this behavior is to keep his answer from conflicting with any lies they may have told in the past.

Being overly specific or detailed: Alternatively, Rudy, the liar, may offer stories with numerous fine points and details. The plan here is 
to be so specific that no one could possibly question the truthfulness of the story because the details are convincing.

Inconsistencies in stories: Rudy, the pathological liar, will not have a 
perfect memory, so it is only a matter of time before he slips up by confusing
one lie for another. Hearing multiple responses to the same question will be a 
way to identify a pathological liar.

Failure to commit to plans or often canceling plans: Rudy the pathological liar will avoid making plans or may make plans and frequently 
cancel. This is because he needs to keep his options open for other opportunities.

BECOMING ANGRY AND DEFENSIVE WHEN QUESTIONED: Rudy the liar, will make excuses when caught in a lie. When the other person's patience is 
thin, Rudy, the liar, may become angry or defensive to take the focus off of his lies. 

**FAGGOT**
 

5 Characteristics of Pathological Lying 

The seeming randomness and unimportance of pathological lies may 
surprise people. Some lies will have no influence or impact on a 
relationship or situation whatsoever. Any story, situation, or 
exaggeration a person can imagine may become a pathological lie. 
Specific lies are endless, but they often have commonalities. 

Pathological lies share these five characteristics:

Frequency:
Rudy, the pathological liar, lies more often than others and average 
about ten or MORE lies per day. In terms of frequency, the lies could all be 
variations of the same lie or 10 separate lies. To Rudy, the liar, the actual 
lie may not be as important as the process of lying.

Long in duration: 
Studies show that Rudy, the pathological liar, will continue with the excessive 
lying for at least six decades. He may continue with a lie over the 
long-term, or he may move from lie to lie with fluidity. Pathological 
liars, like Rudy, are typically able to maintain a lie for years.

Lacking purpose: 
Rudy's pathological lies are confounding because they serve no purpose and 
accomplish no goal, other than for himself. Rudy, the liar, may say that his favorite color is blue when it is actually orange or that his 
favorite food is pizza when it is really lobster. This lie does not benefit the liar, but they say it anyway.

Stress inducing:
Pathological liars, like Rudy, experience higher rates of stress from lying. The stress may come from the intricacy of ongoing lies and the 
risk of being caught.

Self-incriminating and defeating:
Standard lies can get Rudy out of trouble, but pathological lies get him into trouble.

Pathological liars, like Rudy, MAY LOSE HIS JOB, RELATIONSHIPS, AND PUBLIC STANDING BECAUSE THE LIES BECOME TOO RIDICULOUS OR NUMEROUS. 



 

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Rudy's psychosis is characterized by an impaired relationship with reality. 
It's a symptom of serious mental disorders. People who are experiencing 
psychosis may have delusions.

The person experiencing psychosis may also have thoughts that are contrary to 
actual EVIDNCE.

These thoughts are known as delusions. Some people with psychosis may also 
experience loss of motivation and social withdrawal.

(like spending ALL day on Usenet, instead of socially interacting)

These experiences can be frightening. They may also cause people who are 
experiencing psychosis to hurt themselves or others.

"I can kill you with one hand.  You know this."

"Thanks for kicking my faggot ass."

"I've beaten you to a bloody pulp"

"... you you no-fight faggot."

"Kicked your flabby faggot ass again.  Yes."

It's important to see a doctor right away if you or someone you know is 
experiencing symptoms of psychosis.

Symptoms of psychosis include:

    depressed mood
    sleeping too much or not enough
    anxiety
    suspiciousness
    withdrawal from family and friends
    delusions
    disorganized speech, such as switching topics erratically
    depression
    suicidal thoughts or actions

A delusion is a false belief or impression that is firmly held even though it's 
contradicted by reality and what is commonly considered true. There are 
delusions of paranoia, grandiose delusions, and somatic delusions.

People who are experiencing a delusion of paranoia might think that they are 
being followed when they aren't or that secret messages are being sent to them. 
Someone with a grandiose delusion will have an exaggerated sense of importance. 
Somatic delusion is when a person believes they have a terminal illness, but in 
reality they're healthy.




 
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Rudy thinks that, because the Democrat Party has held down the Blacks and Hispanics of this country, by giving them free shit to buy their 
vote, that they HAVE to vote Democrat, or they're Niggers and Spics.

This is reflected in Rudy's penchant for calling Conservative Blacks, House Niggers, Porch Monkeys and every other vile epithet, aimed at 
those he considers sub-human, JUST because they don't toe the Democrat Party line.

In a 1980 paper published in the Journal of the National Medical Association, the late psychiatrist Carl C. Bell, M.D., CCHP, pondered, 
"What characteristics cause an individual to accommodate to racist views which are in direct opposition to the value of a democratic free 
society?"

Bell's research, as well as subsequent studies, by other psychologists, point to one potential psychological factor: narcisism.

The concept of the "narcissistic racist" was recently brought to light again in a widely shared Instagram post by Jacquelyn Ogorchukwu 
Iyamah, a user experience designer focused on racial justice education and decolonizing wellness. To better understand the association 
between racism and narcissism, mbg looked into Bell's research and spoke with licensed psychologist Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D., and 
psychoanalyst Babita Spinelli, L.P.

How narcissism can fuel racism.

According to Bell's 1980 study, many racist traits are also traits of narcissism. Further, "racist attitudes may be indicative of a 
narcissistic personality disorder." Bell describes three different types of racists-the narcissistic racist, the stress-induced racist, and 
the socially misinformed racist-all three of which may actually be linked back to narcissistic traits.

Personal Growth

How Narcissism & Racism Are Connected, According To Research

Racism is not only feeling bias or prejudice toward Black, Indigenous, and People of Color (BIPOC) communities. It's a system of oppression 
that maintains and inflicts power over them, through schools, police departments, court systems, and health care.

But in a 1980 paper published in the Journal of the National Medical Association, the late psychiatrist Carl C. Bell, M.D., CCHP, pondered, 
"What characteristics cause an individual to accommodate to racist views which are in direct opposition to the value of a democratic free 
society?"

Bell's research, as well as subsequent studies by other psychologists, point to one potential psychological factor: narcissism.

The concept of the "narcissistic racist" was recently brought to light again in a widely shared Instagram post by Jacquelyn Ogorchukwu 
Iyamah, a user experience designer focused on racial justice education and decolonizing wellness. To better understand the association 
between racism and narcissism, mbg looked into Bell's research and spoke with licensed psychologist Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D., and 
psychoanalyst Babita Spinelli, L.P.
How narcissism can fuel racism.

According to Bell's 1980 study3, many racist traits are also traits of narcissism. Further, "racist attitudes may be indicative of a 
narcissistic personality disorder." Bell describes three different types of racists-the narcissistic racist, the stress-induced racist, and 
the socially misinformed racist-all three of which may actually be linked back to narcissistic traits.
Need help with your health? This quiz will get you answers.


1. The narcissistic racist 

"The narcissistic racist is a person whose racism is primarily a symptom of a narcissistic personality disorder," the study says. A 
personality disorder diagnosis does not, however, relieve anyone of the responsibility for their behavior, Bell notes.

He describes various traits of narcissism that manifest into racism, including a grandiose sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy for 
others, and a likelihood to respond to criticism with defensiveness or indifference. Many of these are rooted in the narcissist's need for 
control and power. 

"It is this need for a sense of absolute control which the racist feels justifies his self-given right to violate another's 'territory' by 
either a physical attack, segregation, or discrimination," the study says. "The 'territory' (in this country) being, for example, the 
individual's right to adequate health care, education, and housing wherever he can afford it." 

2. The stress-induced racist 

It's important to note that not every person with narcissistic traits has narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and, in fact, most 
people have some level of narcissism. With that in mind, the stress-induced racist is someone who acts in response to stress, rather than 
NPD. The study describes this type of racism as "a transient form of narcissistic rage" and is usually a response to feeling wronged and 
seeking revenge at all costs. Even those who don't have NPD can display this type of narcissism-fueled racist behavior.

"The main stressor that narcissists have to manage is the threat to their ego and sense of superiority," Durvasula explains. Anything that 
threatens their fragile egos and puts them in a vulnerable state (i.e., losing a job, marital issues, etc.) may cause them to react with 
victim-hood, shame, and rage, she says. "They need someone to blame because they cannot take responsibility." 

 A racist would take it out on people of different races, and a narcissist would attach false rhetorics to groups of people in order to 
justify their blame, Durvasula says. 

3. The socially misinformed racist 

Socially misinformed racists with NPD need the people leading their institutions to be direct reflections of themselves and their ideas. 
This can then justify their un-empathetic feelings and behaviors. Bell cites research by psychoanalyst Heinz Kohut, who wrote of this type 
of racist narcissist: "They seem to combine an absolute certainty concerning the validity of their ideas with an equally absolute lack of 
empathic understanding for large segments of feelings, needs, and rights of other human beings and for the values cherished by them. They 
understand the environment in which they live only as an extension of their own narcissistic universe."

Bell does note there's another type of socially misinformed racist that may not have NPD and instead is a product of systemic racism. They 
are socially misinformed at an early age, though with enough exposure to different people and cultures, Bell says they can start to unlearn 
their ignorant beliefs.

How narcissistic traits manifest as racism: Lack of empathy 

Empathy is threefold, according to Durvasula. "First is the classical emotional piece-the ability or desire to feel the other person and 
shape your responses and behavior accordingly," she says. Then, there's the cognitive piece-to understand what the other person is 
experiencing. Finally, the self-reflective capacity piece, which she describes as "the ability to understand and reflect on the impact of 
your behavior and words on other people." 

Narcissistic individuals lack all three aspects, and Durvasula says it is likely that racist individuals don't care about those around them 
and save the worst of their hatred for people who are different from them. 
Gaslighting 

Gaslighting is when a person denies another person's reality, Spinelli says. Examples of gaslighting can sound like It's not a big deal, or 
Just let it go.

"This is similar to how a racist would dismiss the reality of racism and attempt to normalize racist practices," Spinelli explains. 
Other traits include:

Insecurity
Extreme sense of entitlement
A need for power and control 
A superiority to others 
Tendency to bully and oppress others

So can a narcissistic racist change?

"A racist has the potential to process and recover from being a racist, if they take steps to face their racist stance and invest the time 
and effort to learn, grow, and take action to change," Spinelli says. "Narcissists, on the other hand, generally do not believe they need 
to change and refuse to change." 

In rare cases, both experts say a narcissist may change, but it takes several years of intense therapeutic work. This may help them 
understand their core traumas, attachment issues, and early dynamic issues that led them to be racist, Durvasula says, but most often they 
won't be willing or interested in discussing their emotions in therapy.

Do not invest energy into changing the narcissist's view, Spinelli says.
What does this mean for the efforts to end racism?

If narcissists are hard to change, and narcissism and racism are linked, what does that mean for the efforts to end racism?

As previously mentioned, it's important to recognize that not everybody with narcissistic traits has NPD. Most of us have some levels of 
narcissism within us, and if we can recognize how our internalized racism may be rooted in narcissism, it may provide insights into what 
type of inner work we need to be doing to heal our racism.

But the connection between racism and NPD is also an important reminder that dismantling racism must go beyond individual-level change. The 
idea that racism is rooted in ignorance alone is too simple, Durvasula says. Since ignorance means a lack of education, that suggests 
people can seek more information and change their attitude. "That rarely happens," she says. Racism is deeper-it is privilege mixed with 
entitlement, contempt, fragility, shame, fear, arrogance, lack of empathy, hypersensitivity, and ignorance, she says.

While self-reflection is a critical part of committing to anti-racism, Spinelli recommends focusing on efforts like educating, challenging 
normalized racism, dismantling systems that embolden racism, and working toward changing the policies and procedures that keep them in 
place.



 


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The Narcissistic Semantics-Driven Idiot, Rudy

A friend of mine was telling me recently how she'd been arguing with her husband. This guy is an alcoholic, jobless, abusive narcissist and 
everyone knows she'd be better off without him.

She told me that she found it pointless to tell him anything that was upsetting her because they'd stray from the point and just end up 
talking about her using "the wrong words."

"He always says use the right words... use the right words! So it's just not worth it." It was worth it because he was being a dick, but I 
can see where she's coming from. An argument with a narcissist is always going to be long, exhausting, and ultimately pointless. You're 
never going to get them to see your side of things because half the time you stray so far from the point that you can't remember what 
started the fight.

And it always seems to come down to semantics, what you said vs what you meant.
Semantics

You know what you meant, they know what you meant, and you know they know what you meant. Yet here you are, arguing about what you meant. 
It's infuriating and exhausting, people use the wrong words occasionally. Or maybe there's a more appropriate word they could have used. 
Maybe they were exaggerating, something everyone does, particularly during an argument. Most people brush it off as what it was, a mistake 
or an exaggeration, but not a narcissist. They've got to prove their vast linguistic knowledge by picking you up on every little thing you 
said. It's their way of feeling smug and superior whilst attempting to make you look silly.

It's also a way of guiding the argument in a different direction, away from their behavior, onto your choice of words. This helps them 
avoid responsibility for what they did because they knew you'll eventually get tired of arguing about nonsense and give up. Then they've 
won three times, they got away with it, they've stopped the argument and they've broken your spirit that little bit more.

Narcissists operate in much the same way as an internet troll who corrects grammar and spelling. They know you're making good points and 
everything you're saying is true, so they've got nothing else to work with. So they pick on your choice of words, it's juvenile and 
transparent, but it's so frustrating that it often works.

It's misdirection in one of its most sinister forms. They're drawing your attention away from what they did and getting you to focus on 
something else.

 

 

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[I Just *LOVE* The Way This Sig-file Makes Boi-Fucker Lose His Fucking Mind]


Rudy's Little Man's Disease: A disease of short males marked by aggressive antisocial behavior and constant overcompensation resulting in 
pompous mannerisms such as spitting, twitching, swearing, speaking loudly and tough talk. 

"I can kill you with one hand.  You know this." - Rudy

The disease only affects teenagers or men who are less than 5' 6" tall.

"I'm about eight inches shorter than Trump [6' 2"]." - Rudy

The severity of this disease is inversely proportional to the height of the sufferer. Other characteristics of this scourge are a very 
short penis, acne, low I.Q and bad etiquette.

Often these males are homophobic to the point of insanity because of latent sexual orientation issues.

**FAGGOT!** - Rudy Canoza

"Fixed your lie, you you no-fight faggot." - Rudy Canoza

"Thanks for kicking my faggot ass." - Rudy Canoza

"'Self' is redundant, you toothless squat-to-piss no-fight faggot. - Rudy Canoza

"I've beaten *you* to a bloody pulp, you squat-to-piss *no-fight* faggot - every fucking time.  You're a zero, as every, stale, squat-to-
piss *no-fight* faggot who incessantly bleats about "mommy's basement" *ALWAYS* is." - Rudy Canoza

"... you you no-fight faggot." - Rudy Canoza

"... you toothless squat-to-piss no-fight faggot" - Rudy Canoza

"Kicked your flabby faggot ass again.  Yes." - Rudy Canoza

"You a Squat-to-Piss Faggot." - Rudy Canoza

"The disgusting gurgling, slurping sounds below are just the faggots Hartung, Sanitary Napkin and Bit of Nothingness enjoying a three-
way" - Rudy Canoza

"YOU lose, Nazi faggot." - Rudy Canoza

Little Man's Disease is an untreatable epidemic in this country. 

This is Rudy Canoza:  https://i.imgur.com/kDtydh1.mp4


 

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Rudy's split personality refers to dissocitive identity disorder (DID), a 
mental disorder where a person has two or more distinct personalities (nym-
shifting).

The thoughts, actions, and behaviors of each personality may not be completely 
different.

Trauma often causes this condition, particularly during childhood. (Mommy 
spanked him hard) While there is no defined cure for DID, long-term treatment 
(posting on Usenet) may help people combine their personalities into one.

[giggle]

People with DID have two or more distinct personalities. They do not present as 
simple changes in traits or moods. A person with DID may or may not express 
differences between these alternate identities, which can also be referred to 
as alters.

Often, these personalities are completely different from each other. These 
fragmented personalities take control of the person's identity for some time.

A person also maintains their primary or host identity, which is their original 
personality, and will answer to their given name. Their primary identity is 
generally more passive, and they may be unaware of the other personalities.

When a personality change happens, the new personality will have a distinct 
history, a new identity, and different behaviors.

These split personalities, or alters, often have their own distinct:

    name (Rudy, Bill Flett, 100s of others)
    age
    gender
    moods
    memories
    vocabulary (grammar Nazi fucks up too)

A new personality will see themselves differently. For instance, someone 
assigned male at birth may have an alternate identity as a woman. They may 
experience themselves with female biological sex characteristics.

The shift between these personalities tends to occur when a person faces a 
certain stressor or trigger.
Causes

The exact cause of DID is not fully understood. However, there is a strong link 
between the condition and trauma. This may be particularly true for trauma or 
abuse during childhood. In Europe, the United States, and Canada, 90% of people 
who experience DID are victims of severe trauma in childhood.

The condition represents someone who struggles to integrate and assimilate 
certain aspects of their own identity, which become disjointed over time.
Signs and symptoms

The signs of DID may vary, but they include a change between two or more 
separate personalities.

Symptoms include:

Experiencing two or more separate personalities, each with their own self-
identity and perceptions.

A notable change in a person's sense of self.

Frequent gaps in memory and personal history, which are not due to normal 
forgetfulness, including loss of memories, and forgetting everyday events.

When these other personalities take over, they often talk with a different 
vocabulary, and gesture differently. In some cases, one personality may also 
pick up certain habits that the other does not, such as smoking, or becoming 
violent.

In the shift from one personality to another, a person may experience other 
symptoms. Some people can have anxiety, as they may be afraid of the 
personality change. Some may become very angry or violent. Others may not 
notice or remember these transitions at all, although another person may notice 
them.

Specific personalities may appear in response to certain situations. These 
symptoms can cause a person significant distress, and disrupt their ability to 
live their life normally.

Other symptoms may include:

    amnesia (forgets how to spell or speak right)
    losing sense of time
    going into a trance-like state
    out-of-body experiences, or depersonalization
    engaging in behaviors that are unusual for the person
    sleep disturbances

A person with DID may also experience symptoms of other conditions, such as 
self-harm. One study notes that more than 70% of people with DID have attempted 
suicide.




 


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Narcissists appear ridiculously stupid because of their bloated egos that cannot be surpassed by anything but themselves.

Imagine taking on a project of breaking down a wall using the best possible method. Non-narcissists would usually take it step by step, use 
a strategy and come up with contingency plans, in case they fail the first time around.

With a narcissist however, they will not care about consequences as their main focus is to IMPRESS not to execute. They'll wing it.

Narcissists automatically get into the mode of having to "convince" people for gratification of their low self-worth that they are 
stronger, braver and more beautiful than the wall! Remember, I said convince, and not "prove".

Therefore, they will just keep hitting the wall (with WHATEVER resources they have) and keep doing so until it does break; (usually not in 
the way intended) thereby destroying themselves and everything else around them.

And, by the time they are done, (which would eventually take a very long time), everybody would have forgotten what the original project 
was about, but the narcissist would be elating at their victory - over nothing.

Stupid? Hmm... yes.


 

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Internet Trolls Are Narcissists, Psychopaths And Sadists, Says Study

Hartung, and the other conservatives here, aren't trolls... it's you and your fella left wingers.

In an issue of Personality and Individual Differences, a study was published that confirms what we all suspected:

INTERNET TROLLS ARE HORRIBLE PEOPLE. 

Let's start by getting our definitions straight. They are both similar, but they do have their differences.

An Internet troll is someone who comes into a discussion and posts comments designed to upset or disrupt the conversation.

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(irony snipped)

"Fuck off, David. Just fuck off with your stupid posts. You've already 
admitted you don't post to stimulate debate. Fuck off with your stupid fucking fake questions." 

There was NO reason to post this, unless you are a troll.

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Often, in fact, it seems like there is no real purpose behind their comments except to upset everyone else involved.

(BINGO!)

Trolls will lie, exaggerate, and offend to get a response.

DING DING DING... we have a winner.

https://i.imgur.com/EgjtI2B.mp4

They will say and do almost anything to get you as angry as they are. A response is what both are looking for.

What kind of person would do this and is there a method for how to stop internet trolls? Some Canadian researchers decided to find out.

They conducted two online studies with over 1,200 people, giving personality tests to each subject along with a survey about their Internet 
commenting behavior. They were looking for evidence that linked trolling with the "Dark Tetrad" of personality traits: narcissism, 
Machiavellianism, psychopathy, and sadism. 

They found that Dark Tetrad scores were highest among people who said trolling was their favorite Internet activity. To get an idea of how 
much more prevalent these traits were among Internet trolls, see this figure from the paper.

Look at how low the Dark Tetrad scores are for everyone except the trolls! Their scores for all four traits soar on the chart. The 
relationship between trolling and the Dark Tetrad is so significant that the authors write in their paper: "...the associations between 
sadism and GAIT (Global Assessment of Internet Trolling) scores were so strong that it might be said that online trolls are prototypical 
everyday sadists."

Trolls truly enjoy making you feel bad. To quote the authors once more (because this is a truly quotable article), "Both trolls and sadists 
feel sadistic glee at the distress of others. Sadists just want to have fun... and the Internet is their playground!"

So, if you want to know how to stop Internet trolls, which may seem futile, but sometimes you have to do the hard work for the sake of your 
mental health, then the next time you encounter one online, remember:

These trolls are some truly difficult people.

It is your suffering that brings them pleasure, so the best thing you can do is ignore them. 

The only reason that they seem so vile is because a part of themselves is hurting, and it has absolutely nothing to do with you.

Knew it.



 


Undeserved Narcissistic Behavior: Whining and Complaining

The next hallmark of Rudy's undeserved narcissistic behavior, we will focus on (whining and complaining).

At first, it seems to be rather harmless for those involved with Rudy. 

However, after spending some time with Rudy, an undeserved narcissist, his constant complaints, whining and dissatisfaction can become very 
soothing, as it becomes more humorous.

Even if there seems to be no apparent reason for complaining or for being sad and depressed, the narcissist, Rudy, will always find 
something that darkens his mood. 

Rudy will not be content with just being sad... he will rub his sadness in everyone's faces, and constantly talk about it and draw you into 
his negativity. In the end, you will feel a strange feeling of happiness, that he's so unhappy.

Listening to Rudy the undeserved narcissist, with his tendency to whine and complain can, as a result, be very healthy and emotionally 
uplifting for us all.

While in the beginning, we still hope we can have a positive effect on his well-being, we soon see that we have to come to terms with the 
painful realization that he won't have any use for our efforts to make them feel better.

He prefers to wallow in his sadness and to present us with never-ending tales of woe. TRUMP TRUMP TRUMP! I'm short. I'm ugly.

I CAN'T GOLF.

We soon get drawn into his negativity, though not kicking and screaming, because as long as he is unhappy, we can feel the most happy.

It might sound cruel, but if you ever find yourself reading Rudy's shit, you know, his tales of woe... you should seriously consider opting 
out, unless you want a good laugh, THEN, it can be quite cathartic, laughing that much and that hard.

I know it might seem like a tempting and worthwhile endeavor to try to make him feel better, but in the end, he is a lost cause and you 
will often have accomplished nothing at all... he has no real use for our sympathy.

His undeserved narcissism prevents getting help from anyone. He is a lost cause.

Poor undeserved narcissistic Rudy.
 

Attention Trap Part 1: Narcissism, Validation and Self-Worth

Picture yourself in a newsgroup. What do you do? Do you scan the group looking for someone to fuck with? If no one fucks with you, do you 
feel less validated? Do you feel best when fucking with a person whom you know is smarter, taller, athletic and better looking? 

If you've answered yes to any of these questions, you may have fallen into what I call an Attention Trap.

As humans, once our basic needs are met, much of our conscious and unconscious behaviors are meant to make us feel respected and validated. 
But this attention and validation can come from external or internal sources.

Internally, the source of attention and validation is self-esteem. And externally, this attention and validation tends to take one of two 
forms - either the long-term reinforcement of the self that comes from friends, family, or a committed relationship, or the short-term 
benefits of narcissistic behaviors in which we seek attention, admiration or adoration. One is a cure, the other is a Band-Aid.

If enough of your external validation comes from attention, it can become an addiction - a dependence on the affirmations of others in 
order to feel a sense of worth.

And believe it or not, you can even see this attention addiction in our online behaviors.

NOOOOO!

In 2011, researchers from the University of Kentucky published this article describing how narcissists and non-narcissists represent 
themselves in internet profiles and communications. Of course, narcissists displayed intentional self-promoting photos on their Facebook 
profile pages, but they were especially likely to use fake photos when they had promoted themselves less in the rest of their profile. If 
they didn't cry for attention with their words, they were even more likely to cry for attention with their pictures!

(he's not that tall... lol)

Further research shows the effects of this narcissistic, attention-seeking form of band-aiding the self in comparison with the internal 
experience of self-esteem. Basically, narcissists felt as if they alone were awesome, whereas people with high self-esteem felt like both 
they and their romantic partners were awesome. Self-esteem builds community, whereas narcissistic attention-seeking rips it down.

What it comes down to is this: Only through the internal experience of self-esteem can you ensure that your external validation takes the 
form of a constructive relationship instead of serial attention-seeking. Remember, the answer is never outside of yourself. It is always 
inside.

 

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Narcissistic Behavior: Whining and Complaining

The next hallmark of Rudy's narcissistic behavior, we will focus on (whining and complaining).

At first, it seems to be rather harmless for those involved with Rudy. 

However, after spending some time with Rudy, a narcissist, his constant complaints, whining and dissatisfaction can become very soothing, 
as it becomes more humorous.

Even if there seems to be no apparent reason for complaining or for being sad and depressed, the narcissist, Rudy, will always find 
something that darkens his mood. 

Rudy will not be content with just being sad... he will rub his sadness in everyone's faces, and constantly talk about it and draw you into 
his negativity. In the end, you will feel a strange feeling of happiness, that he's so unhappy.

Listening to Rudy the narcissist, with his tendency to whine and complain can, as a result, be very healthy and emotionally uplifting for 
us all.

While in the beginning, we still hope we can have a positive effect on his well-being, we soon see that we have to come to terms with the 
painful realization that he won't have any use for our efforts to make them feel better.

He prefers to wallow in his sadness and to present us with never-ending tales of woe. TRUMP TRUMP TRUMP! I'm short. I'm ugly. I can't golf.

We soon get drawn into his negativity, though not kicking and screaming, because as long as he is unhappy, we can feel the most happy.

It might sound cruel, but if you ever find yourself reading Rudy's shit, you know, his tales of woe... you should seriously consider opting 
out, unless you want a good laugh, THEN, it can be quite cathartic, laughing that much and that hard.

I know it might seem like a tempting and worthwhile endeavor to try to make him feel better, but in the end, he is a lost cause and you 
will often have accomplished nothing at all... he has no real use for our sympathy.

His narcissism prevents getting help from anyone. He is a lost cause.

Poor narcissistic Rudy.


 


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Narcissistic Rudy's Sociopathic Alternate Reality

The Narcissist's Reality - How It's SO Different From Yours

Wouldn't it be nice to live in the narcisist's reality?  You're always right. You're the best at everything. You're an expert at all things 
you do or haven't even tried.

As Dr. Les Carter says, there's an alternate reality and always an agenda when it comes to the narcissist.  I thought it would be 
interesting to break down the top six ways the narcissist lives in a different reality and how it's not healthy for you and me.

1) The narcissist is always the victim.

The narcissist has a lot of pain from the past and is skilled at projecting that pain on everyone else.  If you call the narcissist out on 
a cruel or inappropriate action or response, and he or she feels violated, criticized, demeaned.  The narcissist will become the victim 
because that keeps the narcissist from having to look within. This is referred to as a narcissistic injury.  And the narcissist can play a 
very good victim. It takes the focus off what the narcissist did wrong, and it puts you on the defensive as the perpetrator.

For example, I remember catching a narcissist in my life stealing.  I asked him why. The response was, "I didn't grow up with a silver 
spook in my mouth like you did, Laura." His reply hurt for two reasons: one, I grew up in a middle-class family in Arkansas, and secondly, 
stealing is wrong.  No matter how you look at it, it's against the law.

2) It's always your fault.

If anything goes wrong it's your fault, no matter the offender.  Remember, narcissists believe they are perfect and everyone else is not.  
How could it be his or her fault?

My ex-husband and I were driving south on Interstate 35 one Thanksgiving morning.  A car hit us from behind. He was driving. But guess who 
got blamed for the accident? Me, even though I was sitting in the passenger seat.  You got it. It was my fault.  

When we got into an argument one day, he called me white trash.  It wasn't about anything significant of course, but whatever it was turned 
out to be MY fault.  The narcissist is never to blame.

3) You walk on eggshells because the punishment doesn't fit the crime.

With the narcissist, the punishment never fits the crime. Usually there's not even a crime to begin with.   The narcissist may dole out 
harsh criticism, the silent treatment or a combination of both to "punish" you and have you begging for forgiveness.  Remember, the 
narcissist is great at being the injured party, even when the narcissist is actually the perpetrator.

There's no proportion.  The drama doesn't end, no matter how much you tiptoe around your home.

4) The narcissist is the greatest at everything

I remember being in church with the narcissist and listening to the criticism fly.  We were listening to a Doctor of Theology preach. But 
guess who knew more than the pastor?  You got it. The narcissist said he knew more. He also knew how to dress better than the pastor, he 
said.  It was difficult to focus on the sermon and worshiping due to the barrage of criticism. 

Narcissists also believe they are so good at life, that they shouldn't surround themselves with anyone "less than" them. (If you'll notice 
they have few is any good friends.)  That's why the narcissist doesn't engage with anyone he feels inferior or that can't do something for 
the narcissist.  

5) The narcissist always has an agenda.

The narcissist almost does something with the end in mind.  The narcissist must get something from a situation or person, or the narcissist 
won't take part.  The narcissist looks at life like a Monopoly game. There's a strategy or manipulative tactic put in place in order to 
gain money, people, and things, regardless if it hurts the other person financially or emotionally.  I've known narcissists who leave an 
ex-wife and children homeless, while the narcissists walk away free of guilt and trauma. If it works for the narcissist, then that's how 
the narcissist believes the game should be played. 

6) There is no peace with a narcissist.

The narcissist takes pride and pleasure in disrupting your world.  Seeing you in emotional pain is something the narcissist relishes. Why? 
The more pain you carry, the easier it is for the narcissist to control you and those around you.  The narcissist also understands that if 
you are isolated due to your pain or his control, then that's even better. He has you at his disposal, broken down, ready to please.  

Also, the narcissist likes for your home life, social life and professional life to revolve around him or her.  The narcissist does it by 
causing disruption, then often fixing the problem he caused. For example, I can recall numerous arguments the narcissist provoked, only to 
come back and give an empty apology such as, "I'm sorry, but you push my buttons.  Can you calm down and we talk about this rationally?" 
The narcissist looks like the hero, and you're left wondering what just happened.

Life with a narcissist is a rollercoaster.  There are so many ups and downs, all orchestrated to have high control. But there are ways to 
get off the roller coaster.  First of all, don't get on board in the first place. Focus on your truth.  Don't let the narcissist sway your 
beliefs of what you know to be true.  Journal or keep a notebook of incidents you know occurred. 

Secondly, find some peace every day.  Take the dog for a walk. Phone a trusted friend.  Get grounded in reality. There are good people out 
there who want you to be healthy emotionally and physically. 

Finally, live your best life.  Avoid toxic people. If you can't avoid the narcissist, put strong boundaries in place.  The narcissist won't 
like it, but you will become stronger. Time away from toxic people helps you heal and see things clearly. You can more easily live your 
life.  That's the best karma out there. And you accelerate that karma by taking care of you.





 

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Rudy's Egomania

Rudy "Low-Self-Esteem" Canoza... someone who always has to have the last word 
in a conversation or an argument. That's why he HAS to reply to EVERY post 
about him, or it drives him crazy enough to not being able to sleep.

Everyone has come across this type of person and knows how plain sad it is when 
you see it.

Having the last word is closely associated with ego, though those who exhibit 
these traits are far from anyone who SHOULD be egomaniacal.

Egomaniacs always have to have the last word. It gives them a feeling of power 
(LOL... Rudy HAS no power), as if they immediate draw all of the power of the 
person they are communicating with and become powerful due to it. 

[giggle]

This feeling is short-lived (until he sees my next post), as it is only a state 
of mind, and most people who have any sense of understanding of human 
psychology knows that people that do this are only doing it because they feel 
INSECURE... competitive, HARDHEADED, and LACK CONFIDENCE, often in their own 
intellect or are in need of covering tracks.

Greek Methodology explains this well. Echo, a mountain nymph, had to have the 
last word in everything, and it was her undoing. While Echo was 
beautiful with a musical voice, and people enjoyed hearing her talk, 
this eventually went to her head.

Echo took so much pleasure in having the last word in both arguments and normal 
conversations, that eventually it became her undoing. As the story goes, she 
fell in love with Narcissus, and he rejected her. In return she begged him not 
to.

Narcissus broke her heart and Echo wasted away and was doomed to a very 
sad life.

A person, like Rudy, who has to have the last word is fundamentally flawed.
       
Their flaws are there for the world to see. They may be charismatic and draw 
people in, but if you listen to their conversations and in the modern age, look 
at their posts on social media, you will see a common thread of egocentricity 
and a NEED for supremacy.

 Those who have to have the last word feel uncomfortable, when that power is 
taken away from them and they usually end up fighting or in an argument because 
this has been taken away from them.

They lash out (FAGGOT!) and look for ways to rectify this. People with this 
"disease" usually strive to be the only voice over the people around them.

They often never rise to the top in career or business (or START one at all), 
so they adapt their personal profiles so that they can be seen as "winning" in 
some area that they feel no-one can compete.

Their need for respect and to be liked, more so than those around them, usually 
is their undoing.

If you have to have the last say, think to yourself, "what am I afraid of?" 
(people who have done better things with their lives than YOU, Rudy)
       
Because ultimately, having the last say, means nothing. 



 

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10 Signs You're Dealing With An Emotionally Needy Narcissist

1) Changing others" text to illicit replies - https://i.imgur.com/WZY0zXu.jpg

https://psychcentral.com/blog/caregivers/2015/09/10-signs-you-are-dealing-with-an-emotionally-needy-narcissist

An emotionally needy narcissist is typically selfish, emotionally unintelligent, and manipulative. These individuals have no idea who they 
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The Narcissist feels superior, unique, entitled and better than his fellow men. He thus tends to despise them, to hold them in contempt and 
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contributions priceless. He, therefore, demands total obedience and...

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detrimental to our social and communication skills. When it comes to narcissists, they have a reputation for feeling superior, which means 
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Spouses divorce, children estrange. Again, the narcissist is alone. "The loneliness, the emptiness, the sense of unlovability, the 
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Printed with prior permission. Narcissists only care about themselves, and all those things that only benefit them. Putting someone else 
first and prioritizing them is something a narcissist can never think of doing. So, when everyone leaves them, they become all alone and 
loneliness slowly starts to eat away at them.

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Answer (1 of 12): I am 63 yo retired physician, a quasi expert now in Cluster B disorders, of which my extended family has numerous, the 
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covert narcissist. N...

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Severe narcissism is one of the most complex and confusing psychological phenomena, and its complexty explains why so much is written about 
it, and why there remains a need to continue educating the public about it. The focus of this article will be to address one facet of the 
disorder that remains so mysterious. Specifically, people who are in close proximity to severe narcissists often can't understand why the 
narcissist in their life can: be so mean; get so jealous of their success or happiness; and be so competitive with them, even when we're 
talking about two romantic partners.

One word that will help you understand the narcissist

To begin, the most helpful word in framing an understanding of the narcissist is "counterintuitive." The most crucial point is that how the 
narcissist presents on the surface is entirely different from how the narcissist feels underneath. There are two "selfs" at work in the 
mind of the narcissist: their real self, and the fraudulent, fantasy self they try to sell to the public. Severe narcissists have a 
predatory, score-keeping approach to the social world around them. The narcissist's daily life is spent fighting off potential threats to 
their ego and proving themselves as superior to everyone around them, and they have little peace of mind as they move through life. To 
understand why the narcissist can be so mean in interpersonal relationships, you must understand the unique motivations of the narcissist's 
intra-psychic world or, in lay terms, what goes on inside the mind of a narcissist.

Most, if not all, severe narcissists were likely emotionally injured at a crucial time in their development. Specifically, they were 
injured when they were young children, a time when a child is highly impressionable, and when that child hasn't yet figured out how to 
shore up psychological guards (defenses) to ward off things that make them feel bad. When the young boy or girl was emotionally injured, it 
probably took the following form: An authority figure or even bullying kids at school humiliated them, subjugated them, knowingly neglected 
them, or otherwise exploited them. To become severely narcissistic later in life, the emotional injury in childhood had to be severe enough 
that the individual arrived at the following (unconscious) conclusion: No one will ever hurt me like that again; I will never let my guard 
down. Later in life, this way of relating to people and the world has been practiced over and over for so many years that the personality 
becomes largely locked into place, and it is extremely challenging for the narcissist to let themselves be exposed emotionally for very 
long at all. If someone or something threatens the narcissist's ego, the narcissist abruptly shifts into predator mode.

Why narcissists can be so mean

In a moment, I will explain what happens when the narcissist shifts into predator mode. First, however, it is important to understand why 
the narcissist feels the need to fight so doggedly to begin with. In the mind of the narcissist, the social world includes two strict 
categories: winners and losers. There is no possible outcome they can conceive of in which everyone gets their needs met. There isn't 
enough attention and praise for everyone to go around, so according to narcissistic logic, only a few lucky ones will be selected. Because 
of the way the narcissist was probably humiliated, unnoticed, or subjugated in the past when it mattered most, the narcissist is also 
motivated by making sure that they are never put down or overlooked again. When the narcissist feels most threatened, it is because someone 
has said or done something that makes the narcissist feel small, unnoticed, weak, or defective, and the narcissist cannot allow anyone or 
anything to make him feel like that under any circumstances. The narcissist's thinking goes like this: Any threat to her or his 
temperamental ego must be identified and erased immediately. If the threat continues, it must be annihilated by any means necessary.
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If you put down the narcissist or humiliate them publicly, you will unleash decades-old rage, and the narcissist will not stop until they 
feel you have been verbally or emotionally decimated. (Keep in mind that what the narcissist perceives as a slight is rarely objective.) 
People who haven't been in close proximity to a severe narcissist would never believe the animalistic, ugly wrath that spews from the 
narcissist when they are activated. Many boys and girls, or men and women, who have suffered at the hands of an extreme narcissist talk 
about how seeing such hate-filled "colors" in another human being is traumatic in itself. (These same individuals also find it hard to ever 
emotionally trust someone again who shows such unbridled, predatory rage.)

If you are in close proximity to a severe narcissist, understand that the meanness and viciousness the narcissist displays when threatened 
or held accountable is not personal. Narcissists can use words as bullets, zeroing in on anything they can to unsettle and upset you. Being 
on the receiving end of this behavior is horrifying and confusing. The recipients often turn to self-help books or articles (like this one) 
to make sense of the experience, because it is so traumatic and disturbing. Recipients often become sort of "armchair therapists," learning 
about this personality disorder and trying to become an expert on this type of personality to maintain their sanity. If you are in close 
proximity to a narcissist, I will highlight what is important for you to understand to move forward. At root, severe narcissists are highly 
abnormal men and women who have a form of mental illness (a personality disorder). The root of the disorder means that the narcissist, by 
definition, violates basic social rules and social conventions. When triggered, especially, they don't show empathy: They are entitled; 
they create their own reality from moment to moment; and they don't really care about others' feelings. The rules or social conventions 
that most elementary school children have already mastered are absent in the adult narcissist. I use the following expression with clients 
dealing with individuals like this: "They don't get it, but they also don't want to get it."

To understand why narcissists can be so mean, you must understand that there are no limits or boundaries when they get triggered (e.g., 
something makes them look bad, countering the false, impermeable image they desperately try to sell to themselves and to the world 
overall). Nothing is off-limits with the narcissist when they are upset. No one else in the room has feelings when the narcissist is 
overwhelmed by his or her own negative feelings. It's a true onslaught, and to see someone who supposedly cares about and loves you 
completely deny your - and everyone else's - reality and to rip you to shreds, at times, is simply par for the course. If narcissists were 
foods approved by the Food and Drug Administration, the sticker would read: "Can be extremely malicious and destructive when provoked." 
Perhaps some men and women can handle being occasionally treated in an abusive way, but I'm not sure that should be the goal. The goal 
isn't to steel yourself against a loved one to the point where nothing they say or do hurts you. Yes, you could play that game, but what's 
the point of investing in a relationship that has no real emotional intimacy? Moreover, what's the point in having a relationship with 
someone who violates basic social rules that most third graders already subscribe to?

Why narcissists are so competitive and can't let you, figuratively speaking, shine

Because the narcissist's emotional scar involved them being unnoticed, humiliated, or subjugated at a crucial point in their psychological 
development, the overall topic of succeeding, shining, or getting noticed is a so-called hot-button issue. It is a loaded issue, fraught 
with primitive and unconscious memories, thoughts, and feelings. So many people in close proximity to a severe narcissist feel confused 
about why the narcissist has such an intense and often negative reaction when the other person feels really good, succeeds, or shines. Here 
is where things get tricky and highly personality-disordered. Oddly enough, the severe narcissist takes your success as a reflection on 
them, but not necessarily in the way that you might be imagining. The mind of the narcissist is a binary, all-or-nothing world. If you 
succeed, their twisted logic tells them that your success means they failed. Someone else succeeding or shining (especially someone close 
to them, whom they see all the time) is actually upsetting (even unconsciously painful) because they see your success as a missed 
opportunity for themselves to get a little love or attention. While most people rightly believe that there is enough of all the good stuff 
to go around - love, attention, respect - severe narcissists are convinced that only a select few will get recognized. Sadly, no amount of 
convincing will convince them otherwise. It is critical to understand that the narcissist isn't competitive with you because they hate you 
or want to hurt you emotionally. They do what they do because they are feeling emotionally deprived themselves.
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Normal people are entirely confused about how the narcissist - or anyone, for that matter - can go through so much of their life without 
ever having learned and accepted some of the most fundamental social laws. Most third graders already understand and follow these basic 
social conventions, so it is almost hard to understand on a logical level how someone who looks like an adult and is not cognitively 
disabled could act so much like a child. This issue broaches the subject of another factor that underlies the disorder: oppositionality.

Oppositionality is an often overlooked part of the disorder.

Anecdotally, having worked with many children and teenagers who have Oppositional Defiant Disorder, I have noticed an interesting overlap 
between that disorder and adult Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The overlap is worth examining, because it will help you to see how so 
much of the narcissist's mental approach and behavior is inherently oppositional under the surface.

Oppositional Defiant Disorder (known as ODD in clinical circles) is a mental disorder seen in school-aged children. The diagnosis includes 
the following criteria: often loses temper; often argues with adults; often actively defies or refuses to comply with adults' requests or 
rules; often blames others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior; is often angry and resentful; and is often spiteful or vindictive. If 
you are in close proximity to a narcissist, you see the shared characteristics.

Children who have oppositional, defiant personalities and adults who have narcissistic personalities are the way they are for a reason. 
There is no strict biological basis for these complex, difficult personalities. Perhaps biology plays a role, but my many years of 
experience with clients has shown that something in the individual's emotional relationships early in life was usually a major contributor 
(unhealthy parenting approaches, trauma, etc.). The point is that the narcissist's personality got constructed in a highly defensive way. 
For a personality to become so resistant, difficult, and all-around abnormal, something abnormal in the individual's past had to take place 
over a significant length of time or during an especially critical period in that individual's development (perhaps within the first 
several years of life, or what many call the "critical period").

For those in close proximity to the severe narcissist, they must understand what, again, is counterintuitive. In other words, how the 
severe narcissist acts with you often - especially when their ego or sense of power has been threatened - has nothing to do with you.

What kind of a relationship can you have with a severe narcissist?
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Given the highly abnormal relationship dynamic a narcissist requires, what kind of relationship can you have with a severe narcissist? The 
answer isn't simple. If you don't emotionally trigger the narcissist, you can have a semblance of a relationship. There won't be real 
intimacy - because intimacy is about equals, and narcissists can't do that, no matter what - but you can coexist. But if you are someone 
who feels good about yourself, gets noticed and praised by others, and holds themselves or anyone else accountable for major social or 
relationship violations, there can usually be no relationship. To make it work with a narcissist, you must alter your entire line of 
thinking with them in this way: They have the power, they are in control, and they matter more. Without adopting this skewed, 
counterintuitive framework, the narcissist, from time to time, will always end up making you pay a price for the self-esteem you have.

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