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On Thu, 26 Dec 2024 21:33:50 -0800,  Alan says...  

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> On 2024-12-26 19:42, AlleyCat wrote:
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> > https://video.twimg.com/amplify_video/1872434804324728832/vid/avc1/930x720/h9MZnWQo_vVRtbQm.mp4?tag=16

> One of WHOSE?

They and you know who he belongs to.

What a pedantic pussy.

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Trait #1

Why Do People With Narcissistic Personality Disorder Play Games?

At times, it may appear that the goal of someone living with NPD is to get their needs met, which may involve other people who consciously and 
unconsciously help them achieve that end, says Dena DiNardo, PhD, a clinical psychologist in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

"These 'games' are strategic manipulations," she adds. "Often, they're completely unconscious. People having trouble with this level of narcissism 
are usually in such deep pain that their ability to empathetically connect with the pain of others is low."

What games do people with narcissistic personality disorder play?

Those who live with NPD often HAVE LOW SELF-ESTEEM.

As a result, many games they play may revolve around maintaining a sense of control, so they don't have to be confronted with the shame that they may 
feel inside.

This is why Ski Bunny can't post his own shit.

"People with narcissistic personality disorder tend to use strategies to gain power and control over the individual in order to assert superiority 
and/or dominance over them," says Rahmah Albugami, a licensed professional counselor in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. "In this way, they get their needs 
met TO BOOST THEIR EGOS, VALUE, AND SELF-ESTEEM."

Poor Ski Bunny. :-(

Some common games someone with narcissistic personality disorder might engage in include:

 blame shifting
 deception
 gaslighting
 ghosting
 playing the victim
 projection

While these games may be common for someone with NPD, not everyone who plays them will have this condition or another personality disorder.

How can you recognize when games are being played?

Becoming more familiar with these games may help you spot them in action and set appropriate personal boundaries.

Gaslighting:

Gaslighting refers to denying the truth of a situation as you saw or heard it, which can confuse your sense of reality. They may be trying to avoid 
getting caught for something by turning it back around on you.

"One of the most common things to look out for are if you're constantly questioning yourself," says Albugami.

Revenge:

Having a fragile sense of self is not uncommon for someone with NPD.

If you call them out on their behaviors, it may create a narcissistic rage or injury. Rather than sit with the difficult emotion and self-reflect, 
they may instead externalize the agony they feel in the form of revenge.

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Trait #2

Do you know someone who is overly concerned with INSIGNIFICANT DETAILS and TRIVIAL RULES?

Those who THINK they're flaunting their intellectual superiority at every chance?

Dealing With Pedantic Pussies

This annoying behavior is called pedantry - and learning to handle pedantic people can save your sanity!

As a data analyst passionate about psychology and communication, I've had my fair share of encounters with pedantic friends, colleagues, and family 
members over the years. In this comprehensive guide, I'll draw on research and personal experience to explore the pedantic personality, provide tips 
to manage interactions, and reveal how we can foster more empathy.
What Does "Pedantic" Really Mean?

The word "pedantic" traces its roots back to the Greek "pedantes" meaning "teacher" or "slave who escorted children to school" - quite a literal 
origin!

In modern usage, pedantic refers to someone who:

Annoys others by correcting minor errors
Focuses too much on precise definitions or trivial details
Shows off their own knowledge and expertise, especially on boring topics
Emphasizes following formal rules and traditional ways of doing things
Uses complex vocabulary to sound very scholarly

Ultimately, pedantry stems from a desire to display intellectual dominance and feel smarter than others through conversations.
Key Traits of a Pedantic Personality

While we all may act pedantic occasionally, some core characteristics mark those with an ingrained pedantic personality:

Formal speaking style - Pedants favor an elaborate, "textbook" way of communicating versus casual language.

Obsession with obscure details - Minor, academic facts captivate the pedant's interest, more than relatable human experiences.

Intellectual competitiveness - Pedants like engaging in debates and intellectual sparring to flex their knowledge.

Lecturing tendency - Pedants jump at any chance to share unprompted advice and corrections.

Rigid thinking - Pedants strictly adhere to rules and traditional structures over situational flexibility.

Social awkwardness - Many pedants lack skills to connect casually and read social cues.

According to a 2022 study in Psychology Today, an estimated 15% of the population exhibits moderately to highly pedantic tendencies.
What Motivates Pedantic Behavior?

Understanding the root causes behind pedantry can help us better address it with empathy. Here are some of the key motivations:
Signaling Superiority

Pedantic actions like correcting "errors" no one else notices or using fancy jargon can implicitly signal one's supposed intellectual superiority. 
Sociologists describe this as an unconscious strategy to gain status by displaying specialized knowledge.
Reassuring Intelligence

Pointing out others' mistakes and peppering speech with big words helps reassure pedantic people of their own academic competence. This balances out 
deep-rooted insecurities around intelligence and self-worth.
Autism Spectrum Conditions

Some autistic individuals exhibit pedantic communication patterns. Their factual focus reflects a neurodiverse cognitive style, rather than an ego-
driven need for dominance.
Social Disconnection

Pedantry may reflect an underlying difficulty with casual human interaction. Rigid rules feel safer than complex social dynamics. Pedants often lack 
emotional intelligence and receptiveness.

In summary, pedantic tendencies likely stem from a desire to gain status, anxiety around self-image, neurological differences, or poor social skills. 
With that understanding, we can approach pedants with more compassion.
Fun Facts About Pedantic Word Origins!

Since pedantic people love random trivia, here are some playful etymology facts around the word "pedant" and related terms:

"Pedagogue" meaning teacher shares the same Greek root as "pedant."

"Didactic" traces to the Ancient Greek for "apt at teaching."

"Sesquipedalian" uses advanced vocabulary to describe someone who uses advanced vocabulary.

"Loquacious" derives from the Latin for "talk" - quite fitting!

"Pauciloquent" combines Latin roots for "few" and "speak" - the opposite of loquacious.

I hope these fun linguistic facts entertained my fellow etymology nerds out there!
Spotting Pedantic Behavior in the Wild

What does pedantry actually look like in everyday life? Here are some classic examples:

Correcting typos or grammar in emails - Even minor technical errors send pedants into a tizzy.

Lecturing people on obscure historical facts - Pedants seize any chance to showcase their intellectual trivia.

Using unnecessarily complex vocabulary - Simple words bore pedants, who prefer sesquipedalian speech.

Criticizing creative rule-breaking - Pedants despise those who don't rigidly follow standard procedures.

Recommending tedious documentaries - Pedants enjoy "intellectual" TV, not fun entertainment.

Debating passionately about math proofs - Abstract technical topics energize the pedant.

Scoffing at intuitive decisions - Pedants think logic overrides human emotions or instincts.

Picking apart logical fallacies - Finding argument flaws proves their superior critical thinking.