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The One Secret Narcissists Won't Reveal Narcissists

Hide Who They Are By Mis-Managing Their Identities

Key points

To feel safe, narcissists must control other people and their environment, including your beliefs, feelings, and actions.

Due to projective identification, your feelings can reveal how abusers really feel and, in many cases, how they were treated as children.

Narcissists hide their secret behind their abuse and bluster, their braggadocio, and their arrogance.

You won't guess narcissists' dirty little secret. There's one thing narcissists don't want you to know. In fact, they find it so shameful that most 
of them won't admit it even to themselves. They hide it behind their abuse and bluster, their braggadocio, and their arrogance.

Stupid people are fooled by a narcissist's bold persona. They're confused by their words and intimidated and shamed by their aggression. 

They don't realize that an abuser's personality is a mask and that their behavior is a smoke and mirror game. It's manufactured as a defense system 
to hide a scared, insecure child inside-a child who feels as insignificant as is the abuser's pretense of importance.

Their secret is that they feel insecure and are needy. This is why they must, at all costs, feel powerful and in control. Once you realize this, it 
explains their entire personality and abuse. They act as if they're needless and judge their partners for their needs and feelings. Some abusers and 
narcissists seem and quite self-sufficient outside of an intimate relationship.

Yet, they get attention from their work, colleagues, and casual lovers. In a romantic relationship, they're game players. Later, they insist you meet 
their relentless demands, sometimes including being left alone. To protect yourself, it's crucial to understand the mind of a narcissist.
Control

Narcissists must control other people and their environment, including one's beliefs, feelings, and actions so that they will feel safe. They demand, 
belittle, or manipulate you to raise themselves and put you down. You end up feeling unsafe, which is what they feel inside. This is a defense called 
projective identification. Your feelings show you how they really feel and in many cases how they were treated as a child.
Grandiosity

Notice that narcissists have to brag, exaggerate, and fantasize about their greatness. They act special, entitled, arrogant, and want to associate 
with the best and most expensive or well-known products and people. All of these behaviors are methods to raise themselves up to feel less insecure 
and ashamed of feeling weak and inadequate. If they're the best, even by association or through buying symbols of luxury, they don't have to feel 
small and insignificant.
Arrogance and Envy

Such behavior also means that they must believe that they're better than you and anyone else. If even one person excels or is better at something, 
they must surpass that person. If they're not on top, in their mind, they're inadequate or a failure. This also accounts for their envy and hatred of 
people with whom they compete if only in their minds. Some vindictive and perfectionistic narcissists will actively take down their competitors and 
seek revenge for real or imagined wrongs.
Hypersensitivity

Their insecurity also explains why they're super-sensitive to any slight or imagined criticism. If you disagree, you must be wrong, because they have 
to be right. They will call you too sensitive, but in fact, it is they who are exquisitely touchy to feedback. When they don't receive praise, they 
infer a criticism. In addition, they need constant affirmation, praise, loyalty, and approbation to validate that they are the greatest. They 
constantly need their narcissistic supply because they are so insecure. Because their self-doubt is so great, any praise and attention provide 
momentary relief but doesn't stick or mean anything in the long run because inside they feel shame.

It follows from their shame that narcissists cannot accept any responsibility for their words or actions. Because they are so afraid of being judged, 
they cannot admit any fault or mistake or even ownership of their own words lest they be asked to explain themselves. In their world, things are good 
or bad, black and white, success or failure. Any error renders them bad, a failure, and unlovable because they already feel shame and insecurity.
Defenses

Like a child in trouble, their first defense is denial, which can include conscious lying. Their next defense is to blame you, their boss, the 
system, or other groups-anyone but themselves. The facts are irrelevant and you waste your time arguing with them. They may even say that you caused 
them to do something. Ironically, by blaming you, they're giving away their power. They in effect are saying that you control them. If you point this 
out, they'll be shocked.

After denial, projection is their favorite defense. Rather than feeling weak, inferior, unimportant, or any other negative trait, they accuse you and 
others of being weak, too sensitive, inferior, insignificant, or whatever else they don't want to feel about themselves. With projection, they're 
trying to rid themselves of their dirty little secret and make you and other people the needy ones with all the problems.

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AlleyCat is one of the several people who dominate Rudy on a daily basis, keeping their bootheels on his little pencil neck to the amusement of all.

[I Just *LOVE* The Way This Sig-file Makes Boy-Fucker Lose His Fucking Mind]

Rudy's Little Man's Disease: A disease of short males marked by aggressive antisocial behavior and constant overcompensation resulting in pompous 
mannerisms such as spitting, twitching, swearing, speaking loudly and tough talk. 

"I can kill you with one hand.  You know this." - Rudy

The disease only affects teenagers or men who are less than 5' 6" tall.

"I'm about eight inches shorter than Trump [6' 2"]." - Rudy

The severity of this disease is inversely proportional to the height of the sufferer. Other characteristics of this scourge are a very short penis, 
acne, low I.Q and bad etiquette.

Often these males are homophobic to the point of insanity because of latent sexual orientation issues.

**FAGGOT!** - Rudy Canoza

"Fixed your lie, you you no-fight faggot." - Rudy Canoza

"Thanks for kicking my faggot ass." - Rudy Canoza

"'Self' is redundant, you toothless squat-to-piss no-fight faggot. - Rudy Canoza

"I've beaten *you* to a bloody pulp, you squat-to-piss *no-fight* faggot - every fucking time.  You're a zero, as every, stale, squat-to-piss *no-
fight* faggot who incessantly bleats about "mommy's basement" *ALWAYS* is." - Rudy Canoza

"... you you no-fight faggot." - Rudy Canoza

"... you toothless squat-to-piss no-fight faggot" - Rudy Canoza

"Kicked your flabby faggot ass again.  Yes." - Rudy Canoza

"You a Squat-to-Piss Faggot." - Rudy Canoza

"The disgusting gurgling, slurping sounds below are just the faggots Hartung, Sanitary Napkin and Bit of Nothingness enjoying a three-way" - Rudy 
Canoza

"YOU lose, Nazi faggot." - Rudy Canoza

Little Man's Disease is an untreatable epidemic in this country. 

This is Rudy Canoza:  https://i.imgur.com/kDtydh1.mp4