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On Tue,04 Mar 2025 19:12:27 +0000, Lee says... 

> SpaceX loses a Falcon 9 booster 
> and scrubs a Starship
> 4 Mar 2025

Where Is The Musk Mass Waste and Fraud?

Fucking child.

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Trump still winning after WINNING Presidency!

Donald Trump is STILL the 47th U.S. president.

A Second Trump Administration is STILL going!

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Why Lee and Liberals Are the Way They Are

A) Someone's psychological or emotional age is often evident in their emotional reactions and habits.

B) Signs of emotional Child behavior include emotional escalations, blaming, lies, and name-calling.

C) Someone who is emotionally a Child may also exhibit poor impulse control and a need to be the center of attention.

1.	Emotional escalations 

2.	Blaming 

3.	Lies 

4.	Name-calling 

5.	Impulsivity-or as therapists say, "poor impulse control" 

6.	Need to be the center of attention 

7.	Bullying 

8.	Budding narcissism 

9.	Immature defenses



No observing ego-that is, no ability to see, acknowledge, and learn from their mistakes

How Can You Assess if an Adult Functions Emotionally More Like a Child?

As a therapist who works extensively with couples, I have learned that almost any client can appear reasonably "adult" when I meet with them individually. By contrast, seeing the same client in a 
couples therapy session, where spouses are interacting, provides vastly more data. Mistaken, immature, and pathological behaviors become much more visible. I also see the extent to which each 
partner's actions are rude, hurtful, or even dangerously Childish-or calm, respectful, and maturely adult.

What Is Emotional Age?

A psychologist from Africa, whom I once met at an international psychology conference, explained to me that in his country, it was common to assess people in terms of both physical age and emotional 
age. 

Physical age can be counted by the number of birthdays. Physical age, especially with Children, also tends to correlate with height, strength, and cognitive functioning. Psychological or emotional 
age, by contrast, becomes evident in emotional reactions and habits. For instance, adults can stay calm, whereas Children tend to be quicker to anger. Adults exercise careful judgment before 
speaking, whereas Children may impulsively blurt out tactless, hurtful words. 

If Children want a car or doll that another Child is playing with, they are likely to reach out and take it. Most preschoolers get mad or cry multiple times every day, even if they are basically 
well-nurtured and happy kids. The rules of adult play-like taking turns or not grabbing-have not yet begun to shape their behavior. Youngsters do not act in a consistently civil manner because they 
have not yet internalized the rules of "civilized" adults. 

Behaviors that are normal for Children, however, look Childish and rude when adults exhibit them.

Can You Recognize Childish Adult Behavior?

One way to think about how young Children differ from emotionally mature adults is to picture kids you know-maybe even your own Children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, or neighbors. How do these 
Children differ from adults you know and respect? 

Before reading my list of characteristics, you might want to jot down a list of traits you noticed in your visualization. Please share them with other readers in the comments below this article if 
you spotted some traits I missed.

10 Signs of Emotional Child Behavior

How many of the following signs of emotional immaturity does your list include? 

Emotional escalations: Young Children often cry, get mad, or outwardly appear petulant and pouting. Grownups seldom do. 

Blaming: When things go wrong, young Children look to blame someone. Grownups look to fix the problem. 

Lies: When faced with an uncomfortable situation, young Children might lie to stay out of trouble. Grownups deal with reality, reliably speaking the truth. 

Name-calling: Children call each other names. Adults seek to understand issues. Adults do not make ad hominem attacks-that is, attacks on people's personal traits. Instead, they attack the problem. 
They do not disrespect others with mean labels. 

There is one exception: Sometimes adults, just like firefighters who battle forest fires, have to fight fire with fire. They may need to use "fire" to manage an angry Child or an out-of-bounds adult 
to get them to cease their bad behavior. 

Impulsivity-or as therapists say, "poor impulse control": Children strike out impulsively when they feel hurt or mad. They speak recklessly or take impulsive action without pausing to think about the 
potential consequences. Similarly, instead of listening to others" viewpoints, they impulsively interrupt them. 

Adults pause, resisting the impulse to shoot out hurtful words or actions. They calm themselves, then think through the problem, seeking more information and analyzing options. 

Again, some instances of acting on impulse can be hallmarks of mature behavior. Soldiers and police, for instance, are trained to discriminate rapidly between harmless and dangerous situations so 
they can respond quickly enough to protect potential victims of criminal actions. 

Need to be the center of attention: Ever tried to have adult dinner conversations with a two-year-old at the table? Did attempts to launch a discussion with others result in the Child getting fussy? 

Bullying: A Child who is physically larger than other Children their age can walk up to another Child playing with a toy they'd like and simply take it. The other Child may say nothing lest the bully 
turns on them with hostility. In many cases, it's safer to just let a bully have what they want. Adults, on the other hand, respect boundaries: Yours is yours, and mine is mine. 

Budding narcissism: In an earlier post, I coined the term "tall man syndrome" for one way narcissism can develop. If Children-or adults-can get whatever they want because they are bigger, stronger, 
or richer, they become at risk of learning that the rules don't apply to them. Whatever they want, they take. This narcissistic tendency may initially look like strength, but in reality, it reflects 
a serious weakness: being unable to see beyond the self. 

Psychologically strong people listen to others, hoping to understand their feelings, concerns, and preferences. Narcissists hear only themselves and are emotionally brittle as a result. They operate 
like Children who want to stay out and play-even though dinner is on the table-and who pitch a fit rather than heed their parents" explanation that the family is eating now. Their mindset, in short, 
is "It's all about me." In the eyes of a narcissist, no one else counts; if they don't get their way, they may resort to pouting or bullying to do so. 

Immature defenses: Freud coined the term 'defense mechanisms" for ways individuals protect themselves and/or get what they want. Adults use mature defense mechanisms, like listening to others" 
concerns as well as their own, then engaging in collaborative problem-solving. These responses to difficulties signal psychological maturity. Children tend to regard the best defense as a strong 
offense. While that defensive strategy may work in football, attacking anyone who expresses a viewpoint different from what they want is, in life, a primitive defense mechanism. 

Another primitive defense is denial: "I didn't say that!" or "I never did that!" when, in fact, they did say or do the thing they claim not to have done. Sound Child-like to you? 

No observing ego-that is, no ability to see, acknowledge, and learn from their mistakes: When emotionally mature adults "lose their cool" and express anger inappropriately, they soon realize, with 
their "observing ego, " that their outburst was inappropriate. They can see with hindsight that their behavior was out of line with their value system. They recognize if their outburst has been, as 
therapists say, "ego dystonic" (against their value system). 

Adults who have not yet internalized mature guidelines of respectful behavior toward others-or who have not developed the ability to observe their behaviors and judge what's in line and what's out of 
line-see their anger as normal. They regard their emotional outbursts as "ego syntonic, " that is, perfectly fine, justifying them by blaming the other person. In other words, "I only did it because 
you made me." 

What Are Your Options?

If you or someone you know functions more like a Child than a grown-up, what can you do? 

It's easy to love Children who act like Children. It's harder to love someone who acts like a Child in the body of a grown-up. Still, most Child-like adults only act like Children when they feel 
under threat. 

Therefore, if you love someone who has Child-like tendencies, one strategy is to focus primarily on their more adult and attractive aspects. If you are the Child-like one, love your strengths-and pay 
attention to growing in your less mature habit areas.  

Another strategy is to stop being surprised when Child-like patterns emerge. Thinking, "I can't believe that he/she/I did that!" signifies that you have not yet accepted the reality of these 
behaviors. Accepting that they do occur is a vital first step toward change. 

Third, if you are on the receiving end of Child-like behaviors, beware of trying to change the other person. Instead, figure out what you can do differently so those patterns no longer trouble you. 
Your job is to keep growing yourself, not to change others. 

Lastly, learn the skills of adult functioning. Much of what grown-up "Children" do can be considered a skills deficit. If you tend to be Child-like, learning adult skills can move you into grown-up 
territory. My book and workbook, The Power of Two, should help with this. 

And if you generally function as a grown-up, the clearer you are about what constitutes mature behavior, the more you'll be able to stay a grown-up-even when interacting with someone who is acting 
like a Child. 

Susan Heitler, Ph.D.