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On Mon, 10 Mar 2025 16:28:49 -0500,  super70s says...  

A liberal lie travels 1,000 miles around the leftwing echo chamber before 
the truth gets its shoes on.

Most EVERYTHING you fucking faggot liberals said about Covid, Russia and 
other topics, during Trump's administration has been fully debunked.

It took more than a 1,000 days, but all your lies came out, and now NO ONE 
believes you and your shit party.

That was only ONE of the reasons you were kicked out of Washington. 

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stupor70's toddler behaviour:

A) Someone's psychological or emotional age is often evident in emotional 
reactions and habits.

B) Signs of emotional toddler behaviour include emotional escalations, 
blaming, 
lies, and name-calling.

C) Someone who is an emotionally Toddler may also have poor impulse control, 
need to be the center of attention, or ENGAGE IN BULLYING.

1.	Emotional escalations

2.	Blaming

3.	Lies

4.	Name-calling

5.	Impulsivity-or as therapists say, "poor impulse control"

6.	Need to be the center of attention

7.	Bullying

8.	Budding narcissism

9.	Immature defenses

10.	No observing ego-that is, no ability to see, acknowledge, and learn 
from 	their mistakes

How can you assess if an adult functions emotionally more like a toddler? As 
a therapist who works extensively with couples, I have learned that almost 
any client can look reasonably "adult" when I meet with him or her 
individually.

By contrast, seeing the same client in a couples therapy session where 
spouses are interacting gives me vastly more data. Mistaken, immature, and 
pathological behaviors all become much more visible. I also see the extent to 
which each partner's actions are rude, hurtful, or even dangerously 
Toddlerish-or calm, respectful, and maturely adult.


What Is Emotional Age?

A psychologist from Africa with whom I once spoke at an international 
psychology conference explained to me that in his country, it was common to 
assess people in terms of both physical age and emotional age.

Physical age can be counted by number of birthdays. Physical age, especially 
with toddlers, also tends to correlate with height, strength, and cognitive 
functioning. Psychological or emotional age, by contrast, becomes evident in 
emotional reactions and habits. For instance, adults can stay calm whereas 
toddler tend to be quicker to anger. Adults exercise careful judgment before 
talking whereas toddler may impulsively blurt out tactless, hurtful words.

If toddlers want a car or doll that another toddler is playing with, they are 
likely to reach out and take the item. Most preschoolers get mad or cry 
multiple times every day, even if they are basically well-nurtured and happy 
kids. The rules of adult play, like taking turns or not grabbing, have not 
yet begun to shape their behavior. Youngsters do not act in a consistently 
civil manner because they have not yet internalized the rules of "civilized" 
adults.

Behaviors that are normal for toddler however, look Toddlerish and rude when 
adults do them.


CAN YOU RECOGNIZE TODDLERISH ADULT BEHAVIOR?

One way to think about how young toddler differ from emotionally mature 
adults is to picture kids you know-maybe even your own toddler, grandtoddler, 
nieces, nephews, and neighbors. How do these toddler differ from adults that 
you know and respect?

Before reading my list of characteristics that I look for, you might want to 
jot down a list of the traits that you noticed in your visualization. Please 
share with other readers in the comments below this article if you spotted 
some traits that I missed.


10 SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL TODDLER BEHAVIOUR

How many of the following signs of emotional immaturity does your list 
include?

Emotional escalations: Young toddlers often cry, get mad, or outwardly appear 
petulant and pouting. Grownups seldom do.

Blaming: When things go wrong, young toddler look to blame someone. Grownups 
look to fix the problem.

Lies: When there's a situation that's uncomfortable, young toddler might lie 
to stay out of trouble. Grownups deal with reality, reliably speaking the 
truth.

Name-calling: toddler call each other names. Adults seek to understand 
issues. Adults do not make ad hominen attacks, that is, attacks on people's 
personal traits. Instead, they attack the problem. They do not disrespect 
others with mean labels.

There is one exception. Sometimes adults, just like firefighters who battle 
forest fires, have to fight fire with fire. They may need to use "fire" to 
manage an angry toddler or an out-of-bounds adult, in order to get them to 
cease their bad behavior.

Impulsivity-or as therapists say, "poor impulse control": toddler strike out 
impulsively when they feel hurt or mad. They speak recklessly or take 
impulsive action without pausing to think about the potential consequences. 
Similarly, instead of listening to others' viewpoints, they impulsively 
interrupt them. 

Adults pause, resisting the impulse to shoot out hurtful words or actions. 
They calm themselves. They then think through the problem, seeking more 
information and analyzing options.

Again, some instances of acting on impulse can be hallmarks of mature 
behavior. Soldiers and police, for instance, are trained to discriminate 
rapidly between harmless and dangerous situations so that they can respond 
quickly enough to protect potential victims of criminal actions.

Need to be the center of attention: Ever tried to have adult dinner 
conversations with a two-year-old at the table? Did attempts to launch a 
discussion with others at the table result in the toddler getting fussy?

Bullying: A toddler who is physically larger than other toddler his age can 
walk up to another child who is playing with a toy he would like and simply 
take it. The other child may say nothing lest the bully turns on them with 
hostility. In many cases, it's safer just to let a bully have what he wants. 
Adults, on the other hand, respect boundaries: Yours is yours and mine is 
mine.

Budding narcissism: In an earlier post, I coined the term tall man syndrome 
for one way that narcissism can develop. If toddler-or adults-can get 
whatever they want because they are bigger, stronger, or richer, they become 
at risk of learning that the rules don't apply to them. Whatever they want, 
they take. This narcissistic tendency may initially look like strength. But 
in reality, it reflects a serious weakness: being unable to see beyond the 
self.

Psychologically strong people listen to others, hoping to understand others' 
feelings, concerns and preferences. Narcissists hear only themselves and are 
emotionally brittle as a result. They operate like toddler who want to stay 
out and play-even though dinner is on the table-and who pitch a fit rather 
than heed their parent's explanation that the family is eating now. Their 
mindset, in short, is "It's all about me." In the eyes of a narcissist, no 
one else counts; if they don't get their way, they may result to pouting or 
bullying in order to do so.

Immature defenses: Freud coined the term defense mechanisms for ways in which 
individuals protect themselves and/or get what they want. Adults use defense 
mechanisms like listening to others' concerns as well as to their own. They 
then engage in collaborative problem-solving. These responses to difficulties 
signal psychological maturity. toddler tend to regard the best defense as a 
strong offense. While that defensive strategy may work in football, attacking 
anyone who expresses a viewpoint different from what they want is, in life, a 
primitive defense mechanism.

Another primitive defense is denial: "I didn't say that!" or "I never did 
that!" when in fact they did say or do the thing they claim not to have done. 
Sound toddler-like to you?

No observing ego-that is, no ability to see, acknowledge, and learn from 
their mistakes: When emotionally mature adults "lose their cool" and express 
anger inappropriately, they soon after, with their "observing ego," realize 
that their outburst was inappropriate. That is, they can see with hindsight 
that their behavior was out of line with their value system. They can see if 
their outburst has been, as therapists say, ego dystonic (against their value 
system).

Adults who have not yet internalized mature guidelines of respectful behavior 
toward others, or who have not developed ability to observe their behaviors 
to judge what's in line and what's out of line, see their anger as normal. 
They regard their emotional outbursts as ego syntonic, that is, perfectly 
fine, justifying them by blaming the other person. In other words, "I only 
did it because you made me."

If you or someone you know functions more like a toddler than like a grown-
up, what are your options?

It's easy to love toddler who act like toddler. It's harder to love someone 
who acts like a toddler in the body of a grownup. Still, most toddler-like 
adults only act like Toddlers when they feel under threat.

Therefore, if you love someone who has Toddler-like sides, one strategy is to 
focus primarily on the more adult and attractive aspects of the person. If 
you are the toddler-like one, love your strengths-and pay attention to 
growing in your less mature habit areas.

Another strategy is to cease being surprised when the Toddler-like patterns 
emerge. Thinking, "I can't believe that s/he/I did that!" signifies that you 
have not yet accepted the reality of the toddler-like behaviors. Accepting 
that the behaviors do occur is a first and vital step toward change.

Third, if you are the receiver of Toddler-like behaviors, beware of trying to 
change the other person. Instead, figure out what you can do differently so 
those patterns will no longer be problematic for you. Your job is to keep 
growing yourself, not to change others.

Lastly, learn the skills of adult functioning. Much of what grown-up 
"toddler" do can be considered as a skills deficit. If you tend to be 
Toddler-like, learning adult skills can move you into grownup-ville. My book 
and workbook called The Power of Two should help as well.

And if you generally function as a grownup, the more clear you are about what 
constitutes grown-up behavior, the more you will be able to stay a grownup-
even when you are interacting with someone who is acting like a toddler.

Susan Heitler, Ph.D.