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On Fri, 23 May 2025 08:57:00 -0700,  Alan says...  

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> On 2025-05-23 08:48, AlleyCat wrote:
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> > On Thu, 22 May 2025 11:51:03 -0700,  Alan says...
> > 
> >>>>>> Copy and paste one in your next reply.
> >>>>>
> >>>>> Why?
> >>>
> >>>> Proof.
> >>>
> >>> WHY do you need proof?
> > 
> >> Better question:
> >   
> >> Why are you afraid to provide it?
> > 
> > Afraid?
> 
> Yup.

Why?
 
Why are you so obsessed with this?

I say I compile and use macros and you don't believe me?

That's some next level obsession.

> I'd say "obsession" is having to post the same thing over and over...

Nope.
 
I reply once with an article and post once with same article.

What's wrong with that, rich boy?

It's doubly-obsessive to reply to each one for no other reason than to soothe your damaged ego.

> ...which you quite regularly do.

Yes.

No lawr a'gin it.

The only one it bothers and the only one who whines about is you, so check your rich boy privilege and seek help with that growth 
on you shoulder boulder. 

You still haven't told us why you need to see my macro(s).
 
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Alan's Low Self Esteem FORCES Him To Reply, Even When There's NOTHING To Reply TO

This Is Why Alan Can't Admit He's Wrong

They say it takes a big person to admit their mistakes, but for Alan, saying he's wrong feels impossible.

But why does Alan do it? We've asked psychologist Dr. Tim Sharp, chief happiness officer at The Happiness Institute, to explain:

They think being wrong means they're unworthy - Yup... Low-Self-Esteem

For Alan, conceding that he's fallible can evoke a deep psychological anxiety regarding "the risks or the consequences associated 
with loss or failure," says Sharp.

"I think the reason Alan can't apologize isn't actually because he doesn't like to be wrong, but because it's seen as an inherent 
character fault," he explains.

Sharp says that for non-apologists, the irrational need to always be "perfect" rules their ego and they feel their screw-ups are 
unforgivable.

"The difficulty in admitting failure largely comes from the unrealistic expectation that 'I should get it right all the time, or 
not even try or make it seem as if I am'" he says.

Alan Thinks Never Admitting Fault Makes Him Look Stronger

For Alan, appearing wrong is congruent to appearing weak, but Sharp says they could not be more wrong, because a good leader 
admits their mistakes.

"There's some actually very interesting research that leaders who express vulnerability and are more open to being fallible tend 
to be more highly regarded," the expert explains.

"This makes sense because if someone is saying, 'I'm 100 percent perfect, I'm 100 percent right all the time,' that's pretty hard 
to believe," says the psychologist.

(But, THAT'S Ski Bunny)

"I'd find it hard to trust that person because there's no one I know 100 percent perfect.

Whereas if Alan would say, 'You know, I'm going to do my best but I'll make mistakes sometimes, I'll get it wrong, I'm sorry but 
I'll try to fix it,'... to me, that's more believable. I'd be more trusting of that sort of person."

They Don't Value The Truth

(NO liberal does... THAT'S their M.O.)

For Alan, the fact is he "doesn't necessarily value truth and honesty," says Sharp.

"While I personally value truth and honesty, what I've come to learn, which I find hard to understand but it's just a reality, is 
that Alan doesn't value those things as highly as me," says Sharp.

Taking political discussion as an example, the expert says Alan, who eats up "fake news" propaganda, doesn't value facts. When it 
comes to the truth, the expert warns that Alan "will literally say, 'I don't really care.'"

"Alan doesn't care about it because he values other aspects of what they're perceiving much more," he says.

Citing the upsurge of alt-left political movements around the world, Sharp says how Alan approaches a situation will often reveal 
whether facts or feelings will influence them more.

"[Logical people] will look for facts and information and data and make their decisions accordingly," he explains. "Other people 
make their decisions based on much more emotion. Now the problem comes when you try to talk logic to an emotional person because 
it just won't wear...  you're talking different languages.

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Why Does Narcissistic Alan Need So Much Attention

Alan does anything possible to be the center of attention in his social-media circle. Whether Alan achieves this by lying, 
creating drama, or striving for recognition, any type of attention can quench his thirst.

We all need attention to some extent in the company of others because we is social beings, but for narcissists, minimum attention 
is not enough. Alan has a deeper hunger for it. Alan feels satisfied only when Alan is the center of attention.

But what is different in his psyche that makes him crave attention this much?

Whenever you see someone with an odd behaviour or personality, know that Alan is behaving that way in order to cover up or make 
up for an existing shortcoming.

This applies to all people and mostly those with odd personalities, like Alan the narcissist. A lying person will try to look as 
innocent as possible. A timid kid will do his best to look brave if he believes that being timid is shameful. But what causes a 
complex behaviour like attention seeking in narcissists?



1. Alan Believes That He Deserves It

Narcissists, like Alan, consider themselves above average, living in the middle of incompetent and below average people. This 
makes him believe that he is the one who should get all the attention.

Once this belief is fixed, Alan must fiercely work hard to maintain the clues that support it. If Alan finds himself in a 
situation where he is not the center of attention, this would suggest that he is not that special. This can badly hurt his 
fragile ego.

In other words Alan needs so much attention because he is afraid to be considered average.

However, the belief Alan holds about attention-seeking can play a big role. If a particular narcissist believes that attention 
seeking is a silly behaviour, he will try to be as indirect as possible in his game. 
GIVING UP ATTENTION IS NOT AN OPTION.



2. It Is A Source of Narcissistic Supply

Narcissistic supply involves, projecting larger-than-life qualities to the public or selected individuals in order to get 
positive feedback. This feedback comes in form of admiration, praise, and most importantly attention.

(Only to HIMSELF!)

Note that negative attention is also appreciated to some extent.

He would rather get negative attention that zero attention.

(BINGO!)

This narcissistic supply is the oxygen he breathes. Without it, he would sink into depression and bad moods. 



3. To Cover Up Inferiority Feelings. (LOL)

The popular definition of narcissism says that, "behind the mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem (inferiority)." 
And that is completely true. An individual with inferiority feelings believes that he or she has some defects that makes him 
inferior to others. These defects can be real or imagined.

Narcissists, like Alan, fight to be the center of attention because in that situation, people would only focus on a particular 
positive quality that he is trying to project, (being insulting for example). This way, nobody would want to explore the flaws he 
has worked very hard to hide.

Even if Alan gets a negative attention through inappropriate behaviour, the goal is still the same. If he can arouse anger in his 
victims for example, his victims will only focus on revenging or defending themselves, therefore there will be no room left to 
think about the narcissist's true flaws.



4. He Feels Ignored. (ding ding ding ding... we have a winner!)

Feeling invisible is one of Alan's worst fears.

The problems happen when Alan feels ignored by the people in the most important areas of his social circle (on Usenet, for 
example). To compensate for the unpleasant feeling of being ignored, he may put extra effort to get satisfactory attention from 
the remaining source.

For example: if Alan feels ignored, he may over-compensate by seeking more attention from Usenet perceived" enemies". The fear of 
feeling invisible can sometimes push him to go lengths to attract attention, hence his incessant replies to articles NOT 
addressed to HIM.