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Rudy's psychosis is characterized by an impaired relationship with reality. It's a symptom of serious mental disorders. People 
who are experiencing psychosis may have delusions. 

The person experiencing psychosis may also have thoughts that are contrary to actual EVIDENCE. 

These thoughts are known as delusions. Some people with psychosis may also experience loss of motivation and social withdrawal. 

(like spending ALL day on Usenet, instead of socially interacting) 

These experiences can be frightening. They may also cause people who are experiencing psychosis to hurt themselves or others. 

"I can kill you with one hand. You know this." 

"Thanks for kicking my faggot ass." 

"I've beaten you to a bloody pulp" 

"... you you no-fight faggot." 

"Kicked your flabby faggot ass again. Yes." 

It's important to see a doctor right away if you or someone you know is experiencing symptoms of psychosis. 

Symptoms of psychosis include: 

depressed mood sleeping too much or not enough anxiety suspiciousness withdrawal from family and friends delusions disorganized 
speech, such as switching topics erratically depression suicidal thoughts or actions 

A delusion is a false belief or impression that is firmly held even though it's contradicted by reality and what is commonly 
considered true. There are delusions of paranoia, grandiose delusions, and somatic delusions. 

People who are experiencing a delusion of paranoia might think that they are being followed when they aren't or that secret 
messages are being sent to them. Someone with a grandiose delusion will have an exaggerated sense of importance. Somatic delusion 
is when a person believes they have a terminal illness, but in reality they're healthy. 

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[I Just *LOVE* The Way This Sig-file Makes Boi-Fucker Lose His Fucking Mind] 

Rudy's Little Man's Disease: A disease of short males marked by aggressive antisocial behavior and constant overcompensation 
resulting in pompous mannerisms such as spitting, twitching, swearing, speaking loudly and tough talk. 

"I can kill you with one hand. You know this." - Rudy 

The disease only affects teenagers or men who are less than 5' 6" tall. 

"I'm about eight inches shorter than Trump [6' 2"]." - Rudy 

The severity of this disease is inversely proportional to the height of the sufferer. Other characteristics of this scourge are a 
very short penis, acne, low I.Q and bad etiquette. 

Often these males are homophobic to the point of insanity because of latent sexual orientation issues. 

**FAGGOT!** - Rudy Canoza 

"Fixed your lie, you you no-fight faggot." - Rudy Canoza 

"Thanks for kicking my faggot ass." - Rudy Canoza 

"'Self' is redundant, you toothless squat-to-piss no-fight faggot. - Rudy Canoza 

"I've beaten *you* to a bloody pulp, you squat-to-piss *no-fight* faggot - every fucking time. You're a zero, as every, stale, 
squat-to-piss *no-fight* faggot who incessantly bleats about "mommy's basement" *ALWAYS* is." - Rudy Canoza 

"... you you no-fight faggot." - Rudy Canoza 

"... you toothless squat-to-piss no-fight faggot" - Rudy Canoza 

"Kicked your flabby faggot ass again. Yes." - Rudy Canoza 

"You a Squat-to-Piss Faggot." - Rudy Canoza 

"The disgusting gurgling, slurping sounds below are just the faggots Hartung, Sanitary Napkin and Bit of Nothingness enjoying a 
three-way" - Rudy Canoza 

"YOU lose, Nazi faggot." - Rudy Canoza 

Little Man's Disease is an untreatable epidemic in this country. 

This is Rudy Canoza: https://i.imgur.com/kDtydh1.mp4 

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Rudy's neuroses, also called psychoneurosis or plural psychoneuroses, mental disorder, causes a sense of distress and deficit in 
functioning. 

Rudy's neuroses are characterized by anxiety, depression, or other feelings of unhappiness or distress that are out of proportion 
to the circumstances of a Rudy's life. 

They may impair Rudy's functioning in virtually any area of his life, relationships, or external affairs, but they are not severe 
enough to incapacitate the person, hence his constant posting on Usenet. 

Psychiatrists first used the term neurosis in the mid-19th century to categorize Rudy's symptoms, thought to be neurological in 
origin; the prefix "psycho-" was added some decades later when it became clear that mental and emotional factors were important 
in the etiology of his disorders. 

An influential view held by the psychoanalytic tradition is that Rudy's neuroses arise from intrapsychic conflict (conflict 
between different drives, impulses, and motives held within various components of the mind). 

Central to psychoanalytic theory, which was founded by Austrian neurologist Sigmund Freud, is the postulated existence of an 
unconscious part of Rudy's mind which, among other functions, acts as a repository for repressed thoughts, feelings, and memories 
that are disturbing or otherwise unacceptable to the conscious mind. 

Rudy's repressed mental contents are typically homo-sexually or aggressive urges or painful memories of an emotional loss or an 
unsatisfied longing dating from childhood. 

Anxiety arises when Rudy's unacceptable and repressiveness drives threaten to enter consciousness; prompted by anxiety, the 
conscious part of the mind (the ego) tries to deflect the emergence into consciousness of the repressed mental contents through 
the use of defense mechanisms such as repression, denial, or reaction formation. 

Neurotic symptoms often begin when a previously impermeable defense mechanism breaks down and a forbidden drive or impulse 
threatens to enter consciousness. 

(like when AlleyCat kicks his ass) 

While the psychoanalytic theory has continued to be influential, another prominent view, associated with behavioral psychology, 
represents neurosis as a learned, inappropriate response to stress that can be unlearned. A third view, stemming from cognitive 
theory, emphasizes the way in which maladaptive thinking-such as the fear of possible punishment-promotes an inaccurate 
perception of the self and surrounding events. Types 

Obsessive-compulsive disorders are characterized by the irresistible entry of unwanted ideas, thoughts, or feelings into 
consciousness or by the need to repeatedly perform ritualistic actions that the sufferer perceives as unnecessary or unwarranted. 
Obsessive ideas may include recurrent violent or obscene thoughts; compulsive behaviour includes rituals such as repetitive hand 
washing or door locking. The drug clomipramine has proved effective in treating many patients with obsessive-compulsive 
disorders. 

Somatoform disorders, which include the so-called hysterical, or conversion, neuroses, manifest themselves in physical symptoms, 
such as blindness, paralysis, or deafness that are not caused by organic disease. Hysteria was among the earliest syndromes to be 
understood and treated by psychoanalysts, who believe that such symptoms result from fixations or arrested stages in an 
individual's early psycho-sexual development. 

In anxiety disorders, anxiety is the principal feature, manifesting itself either in relatively short, acute anxiety attacks or 
in a chronic sense of nameless dread. Persons undergoing anxiety attacks may suffer from digestive upsets, excessive 
perspiration, headaches, heart palpitations, restlessness, insomnia, disturbances in appetite, and impaired concentration. 
Phobia, a type of anxiety disorder, is represented by inappropriate fears that are triggered by specific situations or objects. 
Some 
common objects of phobias are open or closed spaces, fire, high places, dirt, and bacteria. 

Depression, when neither excessively severe nor prolonged, is regarded as a neurosis. A depressed person feels sad, hopeless, and 
pessimistic and may be listless, easily fatigued, slow in thought and action, and have a reduced appetite and difficulty in 
sleeping. 

Post-traumatic stress disorder is a syndrome appearing in people who have endured some highly traumatic event, such as a natural 
disaster, torture, or incarceration in a concentration camp. The symptoms include nightmares, a diffuse anxiety, and guilt over 
having survived when others perished. Depersonalization disorder consists of the experiencing of the world or oneself as strange, 
altered, unreal, or mechanical in quality. 

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Why Rudy Is Rudy 

There are many similarities between the way Rudy the narcissist thinks and processes things and the way children do. In fact, in 
many ways, these processes are virtually identical. This is because Rudy the narcissist has arrested emotional development. 

The emotional maturation that most children go through did not occur within Rudy, for whatever reason. Often, this reason is 
abuse or neglect during childhood. 

These things caused Rudy to focus intensely on himself, to the exclusion of all other things. It also results in the mind being 
taken up with trying to defend itself from his abuse. 

Rudy's mind is, in a sense, always playing catch up, and because of the trauma that he has experienced, some things are skipped, 
so to speak, or don't happen. 

(see Rudy's separation from reality) 

His mind becomes locked in a pattern of defensive reaction and emotional perception, made up of many different but related 
facets, that matures extremely slowly and is extraordinarily resistant to change. We call this reaction/defense pattern malignant 
narcissism. 

In children, these things are normal. In Rudy, they are evidence of a disorder. 

Young children and babies are not capable of understanding the emotions or needs of others. They only know want and need. They 
have no way of taking care of their own needs, and they can only scream for someone to do it for them. When Rudy's mother was 
exhausted and deathly ill with a fever and vomiting, and she'd been up for three days, and she simply could not cope anymore, 
does Rudy sympathize accordingly? Does Rudy stop crying? 

No. Rudy does not recognize this. Rudy does not care. Rudy can NOT care. He can only keep screaming out his needs, regardless of 
his mother's suffering. 

This is, in essence, what you are dealing with when it comes to Rudy the narcissist. He does not recognize, understand or 
consider other people's needs. 

He sees only his own, and his inability to meet them. The more damaged Rudy is, the more narcissistic he will be, the more 
immature he will be and the more childish his way of thinking. 

And this is not childish as in, silly. This is immature as in, the emotional maturity and understanding of a toddler. 

For example, besides the hysterical tantrum behavior we see in Rudy that is very clearly on par with a very young child's, Rudy 
the narcissist generally believes he is immune to the things that happen to "regular" people. 

This is an example of something called magical thinking which is a phenomenon we commonly see in very young children. Rudy sees 
feelings as facts, the way that children do. Rudy the narcissist sees everything in the world as an extension of himself, the way 
that children do and Rudy the narcissist truly believes in his own perceived omnipresence and immortality as children do. 

He has always been, he will always be. 

So children believe... so Rudy the narcissist believes. 

The view that he is just another person that must fit into a wider world does not occur to young children. 

How could it? Rather, Rudy functions under the assumption that the world fits around HIM, and that everything he experiences or 
encounters is related to him in some form. 

This is the same way Rudy see things. He has never matured past this extremely immature way of looking at things. The idea that 
the world does not revolve around them never occurs to children, as it does not occur to Rudy. 

For example, children view their parents as only having to do with them and connected only to them, rather than as separate 
people with their own lives, needs, wants, feelings, etc. Parents are very one dimensional to young children; despite the fact 
that children are only one part of the parent's life, the child does not see this nor understand it in any way. 

To a child, parents only exist as their caretakers. It is the only context children view parents in and the only context they can 
understand. This is identical to how Rudy the narcissist views all other people: outside of the narcissist and the narcissist's 
needs, these people do not exist. 

As children mature, they learn that this viewpoint is not true; they learn to see and appreciate their parents as individuals 
that are separate from themselves. Rudy does not. 

The development of Rudy is so arrested that this, coupled with such extreme self-focus means he is never able to separate himself 
as an authentic individual from the external world. 

Because of this, Rudy often feels acted upon by the world and other people or circumstances, rather than as people who act in the 
world. 

In Rudy's view, he does not act, but rather react to the things that are being done to him. It's as if he never outgrew the idea 
of himself as a powerless child, unable to take control or ownership of his own life. 

He behaves as though other people are still responsible for his emotions, the way that parents are responsible for a small child. 
He seems unable to own his choices or even to recognize that things are choices. And this is also like a child. 

Rudy the narcissist is generally impulsive, irrational and extremely immature. He is careless, irresponsible and foolhardy. He 
doesn't seem able to consider consequences or think about things before he does them, just like a child. 

When pressed for an answer as to why he's done something, Rudy may seem just as mystified as everyone else. "I don't know" is a 
very common answer. It may be the truth. He seems to possess very little insight as to why he does things, simply reacting on 
impulse as we see children do. 

Like a child, Rudy often feels helpless in a world of more powerful, more competent, more knowledgeable adults. 

However, this is also an excuse. It's easier to be a helpless victim. If you are a victim, you can never be blamed. If you are 
helpless, you can never be forced to take responsibility. 

Children are not blamed for not controlling themselves or for their choices. Rudy doesn't seem to feel he should be either. He 
doesn't seem to understand the difference between a child and an adult, and he will often say things to that effect. These are 
mostly things that no self-respecting mature adult would ever say. 

*FAGGOT!* 

He may compare himself to a child, compete with the children, or complain that his spouse (LOL) holds "double standards" because 
the kids are allowed to get away with things that they are called out for. Rudy doesn't seem to realize that adults and children 
are held to different standards, or why this should be. 

For example, the narcissist must be asked repeatedly every single night to bring their plate into the kitchen, or throw their 
clothing in the hamper rather than leaving these things on the ground. Instead of simply doing it, the narcissist responds that 
little Johnny never does it either but he doesn't get yelled at. Little Johnny is seven. The narcissist is 40 and is one of 
Little Johnny's parents. 

The discrepancy here is obvious; this is the type of response you would receive from a child that does not want to do his chores, 
not an adult. To the narcissist, this is a clear example of favoritism and being attacked for who they are. It does not seem to 
enter Rudy's mind that there is a very large difference between a 7-year-old and a 40-year-old. Regardless of whether or not he 
actually feels this way, the childishness and absurdity of his argument is really unbelievable-almost shocking in 
it's ignorance. There is not only the complete refusal to behave as an adult, there is an inability to even understand why this 
would be expected. 

The truth is, underneath of all of the horrible things Rudy does, the narcissist is still that 5-year-old child pretending he is 
somebody else to escape an abusive situation that ended years ago. When all of Rudy's reasoning is examined, when all of Rudy's 
behavior is scrutinized and looked at through the lens of perspective rather than pain, this is what we are left with: a person 
with the emotional maturity of a toddler who cannot understand why they are expected to behave otherwise and who is 
trying desperately to pretend they are somebody else. 

All of Rudy's attention seeking, all of Rudy's manipulations, all of Rudy's gas lighting, all of Rudy's smear campaigns, all of 
Rudy's abuse, all of the hurtful things he does, when seen for what they really are, these things are nothing but childish 
behaviors that have been perpetrated by an adult. 

Every single one of these things is seen in children. Gas-lighting is a 3 year old with chocolate all over his face who is hiding 
the chocolate bar behind his back in plain view, saying "What chocolate, Mommy? I don't have chocolate." Smear campaigns are a 6- 
year-old telling lies about a girl to all that girl's friends so they won't like her anymore. Though these behaviors are 
sometimes seen as sophisticated schemes, they really aren't. They are the same childish and petty things we all dealt 
with on the elementary school playground. They are just more confusing and therefore more dangerous because they are coming from 
an adult. 

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Narcissists Really Are Pathetic And Broken 

Imagine that the only way you could feel better about yourself is by putting other people down, sabotaging them, crushing them, 
turning others against them. Entering them into a competition that they did not sign up for and beating them at any and all cost. 
Imagine having such poor, pathetic character that that's the main way that you operate in life. That's all you're capable of. 
That's all you stand for, taking away the joy and fulfillment from other people. 

That's just pathetic. How empty, how shameless do you have to be to behave like that? To treat other people as only existing to 
be a means to your end? Being utterly incapable of ever truly wishing another well? That is a sad, desperate existence. 

They are emotionally stunted. They are not capable of the full depth of emotion you and I am. They will never truly know love. At 
best the mimic the appearance of love and think that's what it is. Now that is truly sad. 

The narcissist already knows that he is broken. The narcissist hates himself, has massive shame and expects everything he touches 
to turn to shit. His outer defense is to deny and avoid that shame, because he won't get the attention, energy, admiration and 
sex that he requires if he steeps himself in that toxic tea. 

To be clear, I'm NOT talking about covert narcissists, because I have no experience with them. 

Therefore, the overt narcissist presents a confident, powerful, indifferent, ego-centric public profile. No matter his 
stature/height, he will be "Large and in Charge," larger than life. In this case, the narcissist is 5'6", ugly, badly-groomed, 
sloppily dressed and with an unseemly figure. 

He's chronically depressed, frequently sunk into a pit of despair that he tries to remedy by watching porn and being addicted to 
his image on Facebook (mysterious, twistedly funny and politically "out there") with frequent rants that were childish and 
offensive to many people. 

So, narcissists don't have to "find out" they're broken. If you are hoping that helping them discover their brokenness may lead 
them to an epiphany that will turn around your Usenet relationship, don't. 

Their brokenness is not fixable. 

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Why Does Narcissistic Rudy Need So Much Attention 

Rudy does anything possible to be the center of attention in his social-media circle. Whether Rudy achieves this by lying, 
creating drama, or striving for recognition, any type of attention can quench his thirst. 

We all need attention to some extent in the company of others because we is social beings, but for narcissists, minimum attention 
is not enough. Rudy has a deeper hunger for it. Rudy feels satisfied only when Rudy is the center of attention. 

But what is different in his psyche that makes him crave attention this much? 

Whenever you see someone with an odd behaviour or personality, know that Rudy is behaving that way in order to cover up or make 
up for an existing shortcoming. 

Like his height? 

LOL 

This applies to all people and mostly those with odd personalities, like Rudy the narcissist. A lying person will try to look as 
innocent as possible. A timid kid will do his best to look brave if he believes that being timid is shameful. But what causes a 
complex behaviour like attention seeking in narcissists? 

1. Rudy Believes That He Deserves It 

Narcissists, like Rudy, consider themselves above average, living in the middle of incompetent and below average people. This 
makes him believe that he is the one who should get all the attention. 

Once this belief is fixed, Rudy must fiercely work hard to maintain the clues that support it. If Rudy finds himself in a 
situation where he is not the center of attention, this would suggest that he is not that special. This can badly hurt his 
fragile ego. 

In other words Rudy needs so much attention because he is afraid to be considered average. 

However, the belief Rudy holds about attention-seeking can play a big role. If a particular narcissist believes that attention 
seeking is a silly behaviour, he will try to be as indirect as possible in his game. GIVING UP ATTENTION IS NOT AN OPTION. 

2. It Is A Source of Narcissistic Supply 

Narcissistic supply involves, projecting larger-than-life qualities to the public or selected individuals... 

"Professor Rudy" 

"Superior Rudy" 

... in order to get positive feedback. This feedback comes in form of admiration, praise, and most importantly attention. 

(Only to HIMSELF!) 

Note that negative attention is also appreciated to some extent. 

He would rather get negative attention that zero attention. 

(BINGO!) 

This narcissistic supply is the oxygen he breathes. Without it, he would sink into depression and bad moods. 

3. To Cover Up Inferiority Feelings. (LOL) 

The popular definition of narcissism says that, "behind the mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem (inferiority)." 
And that is completely true. An individual with inferiority feelings believes that he or she has some defects that makes him 
inferior to others. These defects can be real or imagined. 

(Oh, they're real, all right. Dwarfism?) 

Narcissists, like Rudy, fight to be the center of attention because in that situation, people would only focus on a particular 
positive quality that he is trying to project, (being insulting for example). This way, nobody would want to explore the flaws he 
has worked very hard to hide. 

Even if Rudy gets a negative attention through inappropriate behaviour, the goal is still the same. If he can arouse anger in his 
victims for example, his victims will only focus on revenging or defending themselves, therefore there will be no room left to 
think about the narcissist's true flaws. 

4. He Feels Ignored. (ding ding ding ding... we have a winner!) 

Feeling invisible is one of Rudy's worst fears. 

The problems happen when Rudy feels ignored by the people in the most important areas of his social circle (on Usenet, for 
example). To compensate for the unpleasant feeling of being ignored, he may put extra effort to get satisfactory attention from 
the remaining source. 

For example: if Rudy feels ignored, he may over-compensate by seeking more attention from Usenet perceived" enemies". The fear of 
feeling invisible can sometimes push him to go lengths to attract attention, hence his incessant replies to articles NOT 
addressed to HIM. 

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Rudy's Denial of Reality 

Many people, like Rudy deny truths even when presented with irrefutable evidence. 

There's an old (and corny) joke, which goes: 

What is "denial?" 

It's a river in Egypt." 

There's another meaning of "denial" in psychoanalytic theory: A psychological defense we all use at times to reduce our anxiety 
when something feels particularly disturbing. 

Finally, there is a particular type of "denial" we are witnessing nowadays: 

When seemingly intelligent and sane adults vehemently deny truths despite a body of irrefutable data. 

(THAT'S our Rudy!) 

This type of denial is akin to Stephen Colbert's "truthiness" in that these deniers adamantly refuse to accept verified facts 
because they get in the way of their own rigid ideas. 

In psychiatry, the word "delusion" means a firm belief in some idea which is known to be false, and it can be a symptom of 
paranoia or psychosis. While the believers in untruths are mentally ill, they do strongly adhere to their false credos in spite 
of clear evidence to the contrary which is presented to them, especially if based on scientific findings. 

These deniers are indeed "true believers" for whom there is only One Absolute Truth. 

The writings of their texts are taken literally or reinterpreted to suit their prejudice and hate. 

This kind of closed-mindedness is prevalent in every country of the world. Call it zealotry, bigotry or fanaticism, these ultra-
controlling beliefs are dangerous to our civic morale. Worse, they give a quasi-intellectual rationale for a momentum towards 
control, misanthropy, and hate. 

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When The Narcissist Fails 

A Cautionary Examination of How Narcissists React To Failure 

Key points 

Any public embarrassment of a narcissist can cause them to unleash further anger, rage, attacks, unethical comportment, and 
incivility. 

Even in light of factual evidence to the contrary, a narcissist who fails will lie more profusely and adamantly. 

As a narcissist faces failure, arrest, indictment, or dismissal, they will endlessly air their grievances. 

Not without cause, malignant narcissism is one of the most searched-for topics on the internet in part because seemingly there 
are so many people that appear to have those toxic traits that negatively impact us. These individuals are notorious because they 
destabilize our lives, make us feel insecure, undervalued, disparaged, or inconsequential, and as I noted in my book, Dangerous 
Personalities, they can victimize us emotionally, physically, and even financially. They come into our lives as 
family members, friends, lovers, spouses, colleagues at work, bosses, or worst as national leaders. Once they enter our orbit, no 
matter how distant, toxicity is what they have in common and they always leave a debris field of human suffering behind them. 

By now, we recognize how dangerous these individuals are, precisely because their pathology drives so much of their sordid 
behavior, especially toward others. Their common traits such as a hyper-inflated sense of entitlement, grandiose feelings of 
superiority or uniqueness, delusions of infallibility, incessant disregard for the truth, perennial conniving and scheming to 
take advantage of others, feeling that rules and laws don't apply to them, and of course the need to debase others, coupled 
with callousness, not only wears on us, it can have devastating consequences. 

The one area that is rarely talked about when it comes to malignant narcissists is what happens when they fail. Failure in 
private, at work, or as leaders for the narcissist can be quite disquieting if not traumatic for the rest of us. As Stuart 
Yudofsky notes in Fatal Flaws, these individuals are so severely "flawed of character," that they handle failure much differently 
than you and I because they are not introspective or capable of reform, and are lacking in empathy for others. 

We often see narcissists in glowing terms as successful leaders of industry, or as heads of state, and yet, more often than not, 
their malignancy will likely, in time, ensure their own downfall, failure, or even arrest. Be it because they cheat on taxes, 
because they embezzle money, they circumvent rules and laws, they cheat business partners, they devalue and torment their family 
or domestic partner to the point of divorce, or in the case of cults (thinking of Jim Jones and Charles Manson here) 
or as national leaders, they can lead their followers or their nation into actions that are destructive. And so, when calamity 
strikes or failure of some sort is inevitable, how the narcissist reacts and what we, as potential victims of their actions can 
expect to see, is what this article is about. 

As with many personality disorders, those who are severely flawed of character, but especially the narcissist, when they face 
public disgrace, when they are outed as criminals or for their misbehavior, or when they fail in a very public way-that is when 
they become metastable, placing us as family, friends, co-workers, corporations, the public, or a nation in greatest danger. When 
things begin to sour for the narcissist, here is what we can expect: 

They will falsely claim that everything is fine and that there is nothing wrong. They will try to first misdirect us or claim 
there is nothing to the allegations or circumstances. 

If evidence is presented, they will seek to have it invalidated or claim that it is false, fake, or a product of vague 
conspiracies, but most certainly not true. 

Any evidence presented, and those that present it will be attacked aggressively and vindictively. The better the evidence, the 
more aggressive the attack. Individuals who are doing the right thing by reporting criminal acts, unethical behavior, or failings 
are to be discredited, humiliated, hounded, and bullied- not even their families are to be spared if need be. The narcissist will 
engage supporters or enablers to simultaneously attack those who offer proof or evidence, even if it 
embarrassingly exposes their poodle-like behavior as that of spineless sycophants. 

Foolproof evidence will be portrayed as false and the result of pettiness, jealousies, bad actors, malicious individuals, 
negativity, haters, enemies, losers, conspirators, opposition, gain seekers, the faithless (usually seen in religious groups or 
cults), or as we are seeing now in American politics, "fake news" or "deep state" actors. There is always a large constellation 
of people to blame, the narcissist casts wide to see which vacuous claim resonates, especially with their supporters. 

As they lash out with vindictiveness, the malignant narcissist will continue to talk about themselves in glowing terms; 
irrespective of their actual situation, as they are incapable of introspection, much less contriteness. They will trumpet their 
greatness, their achievements (real or imagined), their faux infallibility, and even portray themselves as worthy of being 
revered rather than reviled. 

They will seek to find someone to blame for their troubles or downfall, preferably someone that cannot defend themselves. A 
scapegoat is always useful and when there is not a real one, one will be invented. If they are not promoted or fired, it is 
because a cabal at work was against them. If they cheat their business partners, it was because they deserved it. If the wife 
gets the kids in a divorce settlement, it is because of her dastardly attorney, not his abominable behavior. If they lose an 
election it is because of campaign managers, unappreciative voters, trickery, fraud, or some other kind of malfeasance on the 
part of a conspiracy (conspiracies are useful to the narcissist because they conveniently require no evidence). As they are not 
married to the truth, they will prattle countless baseless reasons that all point away, never at themselves. 

As circumstances become dire, the narcissist will not take any responsibility- ever. Anything that has gone wrong is the 
responsibility of others. They will blame spouses as undeserving of their greatness, ignorant colleagues who just don't measure 
up, the disloyal (Oh, they love to blame the disloyal), those who abide by rules and laws because ironically, they abide by rules 
and laws, or those that just clearly did not understand the very specialness of the narcissist. Everyone, and I mean 
everyone from people long gone, to the peripherally connected, to the earthly departed will be blamed for the failure or downfall 
of the narcissist. Once more it is never their fault. 

In the process of casting blame, even the most loyal and stalwart will be discarded and denigrated if needed with reptilian 
indifference. For the malignant narcissist, there is only the "good" - those that provide blind, unwavering loyalty and who are 
useful, and everyone else who is an enemy, useless, and thus "bad." Whether you are in or out, good or bad, is not determined by 
history, by friendship, sacrifices, or how well you have performed in the past-it is determined by the capricious and 
selfish needs of the narcissist, and that can change in a moment. 

Expect lies to increase and to be repeated exponentially. They will, even in light of factual evidence to the contrary, lie more 
profusely and adamantly. Lies are and always will be the number one tool of the malignant narcissist. The only difference now is 
that in facing failure or public ridicule, the lies must increase in frequency and audacity to the point of incredulity. The 
narcissist will expect supporters, the unethical, and enablers to lie for them or even create plausible alibis. That 
they imperil others by compelling them to lie is the collateral damage the malignant narcissist does as they thrash in despair 
when they are failing or caught. 

And while lies will increase, so too will be the need to devalue others in order to further value themselves. They will attack 
everyone and anyone in the most vicious and vindictive ways. This is when we see their rage come through. Not just anger, but 
unbridled rage. They will say things that shock the conscience and they expect everyone to swallow what they say, much as their 
enablers do. The most decent of persons will be attacked, mocked, ridiculed, and turned into a human chew-toy as the 
narcissist unleashes untethered rage and hatred. They will dip down into a bottomless cauldron of antipathy and like an arterial 
spurt, will spew this toxic brew far and wide with metronomic regularity. 

The malignant narcissist, lacking guilt or a conscience, is only concerned with respect and not being publicly shamed. Any kind 
of public embarrassment will cause them further anger, further rage, further attacks, further unethical comportment, and 
unprecedented incivility. 

If the narcissist is going to be brought down, they will also seek to bring everyone else around them down to vindictively make 
them suffer. How the narcissist vilifies, lashes out, or destroys others (spouse, friends, business partners, workmates, the 
general public) is up to the morbid creativity and depravity of the malignant narcissist, the viable tools they have available, 
and of course how dire or desperate the situation. The internet and social media are certainly useful as lives can be 
ruined with a single tweet. But so are guns and rifles, poison, and even assassins for hire. And if they command a country, they 
can put the security organs or the military to work on their behalf. 

In certain situations, as the end nears, the suffering of others is paramount to the malignant narcissist. It is their way of 
elevating themselves-sick as that sounds-by malevolently paying back society with even more suffering. As they lash out, they 
will show no concern or empathy because they have none. If others are suffering because of their actions, the narcissist simply 
does not care. Lacking a conscience or any kind of remorse, much like Robert Hare's psychopath, they sleep very well at 
night while everyone else is anxious, worried, stressed, physically or psychologically traumatizes all the while nervously and 
justifiably pondering what further malevolence will take place. 

As they face failure, arrest, indictment, or dismissal, they will endlessly air their grievances. Narcissists are natural wound 
collectors and as such, they have been collecting and nurturing social slights and perceived wrongs just for this occasion. They 
will wallow in victimhood claiming they have been relentlessly and needlessly persecuted. They, of course, expect their 
attorneys, followers, or enablers to subserviently echo their flatulent claims. 

So, what happens in the end? Difficult to predict. Each circumstance is different. Some will kick and flail and disappear for a 
while, intentionally or thanks to incarceration-biding their time until they can do it all over again. Others regroup, plan, 
scheme, and prepare another triumphant entry into the lives of the unsuspecting to victimize them when the opportunity arises. 
Others, unfortunately, will seek to do harm as they face a breakup, a divorce, are fired from a job, are outed for their 
crimes, or are removed from office. Others will hound, stalk, or just make life intolerable for those they deem responsible. 
Their past can often give us insight as to what they might do, but one can never be sure-humans are terribly complex and as with 
many afflicted with a personality disorder, sensitive to the smallest of unrecognized but catalytic triggers. 

In the case of narcissistic cult leaders, the cult members often pay with their lives as they did in Jonestown Guyana when Jim 
Jones came under investigation. In interpersonal relationships, violence is always something to be concerned about as J. Reid 
Meloy reminds us in his book, Violent Attachments. 

And of course, in politics, much harm can be done when power can be wielded-but the worst comes when a malignantly narcissistic 
leader or head of state, severely flawed of character, claims that only they can fix things, that only they can shape the future, 
that only they have the answers, and that only they have a grand vision for the future and so out of necessity they must stay on 
to save us. 

When you hear that, it should give you pause. That is when we have to worry the most. If you don't believe me, let me tell you 
about one malignant narcissist of note. You may have heard of him-he was an Austrian corporal who painted postcards for a living. 
Full of himself and with no shortage of grandiose ideas, he decided on his own to run for office with one goal among various, 
which was to "Deutschland wieder großartig machen" - to make Germany great again. 

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Rudy, the Compulsive Liar 

A compulsive liar excessively lies to fabricate reality. Compulsive liars are those who lie over and over again. The dishonest 
behavior is second nature to them, and they may not even realize they're lying half the time (despite displaying the classic 
signs of a liar). While compulsively lying isn't classified as a disorder, it can be a sign of other mental health disorders, 
such as antisocial personality disorder. 

Reasoning: Compulsive liars often make up stories and white lies because they fear criticism. For them, lying is a defense 
mechanism to protect them from reality. 

How to Deal: Don't engage in a compulsive liar's lies. Instead, state simply, "That's not true," and walk away. The terms 
"compulsive" and "habitual" are often used interchangeably. 

Rudy, the Pathological Liar 

A pathological liar is persistently dishonest for no reason. These liars tell small lies compulsively and habitually-it comes 
naturally to them. More often than not, their reality becomes tangled with their lies, mixing fact and fiction. Perhaps they 
exaggerate a story or don't tell the truth about what they had for breakfast. A pathological liar can have such a strong belief 
in their lies that they believe them to be true. 

Reasoning: Pathological liars tend to have low self-esteem and will often lie to boost their ego, seek sympathy, or cure boredom. 

How to Deal: Stop engaging in the conversation if you notice that they're lying. Pathological liars want you to believe what they 
believe, and if you don't indulge in the lie, they'll likely move on. 

Like compulsive liars, pathological lying may be a sign of a personality or mental-health disorder; however, it's more difficult 
to spot a pathological liar. 

Rudy, the Sociopathic Liar 

A sociopathic liar lies on a routine basis to cause chaos. Their lying doesn't start or end on occasion; it's constant. Unlike 
other types of liars, a sociopath lies simply because they want to. There's no rhyme or reason to it, and they rarely feel 
remorse for their actions. 

Reasoning: Sociopathic liars lie to gratify their own needs. They want what they want and won't hesitate to burn a few bridges to 
get it. 

How to Deal: Be honest with a sociopathic liar to derail their schemes. Call out their blatant lie with facts you know to be true 
with something like, "Really? See, I heard something different." 

Sociopathic and psychopathic lying are generally the same thing, with the only difference being the personality disorder 
associated with their dishonesty. 

Rudy, the Narcissistic Liar 

A narcissistic liar seeks attention but denies responsibility. These types of liars use gaslighting to fuel their lies. They may 
appear to be a "people person," but their social connections often stem from exaggerations and lies. A narcissist's lies may seem 
childish, as their lies are a people-pleasing game. 

Reasoning: Narcissistic liars twist the truth to hide themselves. Deep down, they're insecure and will do whatever it takes not 
to be vulnerable. 

How to Deal: Don't engage in a narcissistic liar's drama. Instead, take what they say with a grain of salt and analyze the facts. 
If what they say contradicts what you know, it's probably a lie. Narcissistic liars are a type of compulsive liar; however, they 
appear to be a hero or victim when fabricating their reality. 

Rudy, the Intentional Liar 

An intentional liar lies for enjoyment. These types of liars love the drama lying creates. They think lying is fun-an 
entertaining game they can play whenever they like. More often than not, their white lies, fibs, and exaggerations are mean-
spirited and intended to stir the pot or push someone's buttons. Reasoning: Intentional liars are deceptive for attention. 
They're likely insecure and lie to boost their ego and appear powerful. 

How to Deal: Avoid engaging in lies and gossip with an intentional liar. The more you react to their lies, the more lies they'll 
create. 

Unlike pathological liars, intentional liars are fully aware of the dishonest web they weave. 

Rudy, the Careless Liar 

A careless liar doesn't care about the implications of lying. This type of liar is often sloppy or careless when it comes to 
bending the truth. They likely won't try to hide it or put much thought into forming the "perfect lie." Instead, they'll spew 
whatever comes to mind, often leading to further lies or conversational hiccups. 

Reasoning: Careless liars typically lie on the spot to cover up a mistake, fear, or insecurity. The lie hastily comes out to 
protect themselves from facing the truth. 

How to Deal: Call a careless liar out on their lie to halt them in their tracks. They know they're lying, and confronting them 
and genuinely asking how they're doing may help them admit it. A careless liar's lies are usually easy to spot because they don't 
formulate a clever story or tale beforehand. 

Rudy, the Impressive Liar 

An impressive liar aims to be the best. This type of liar wants to be the most impressive of the group. They'll exaggerate 
stories and tell white lies to look like the hero. For instance, the classic "I caught a fish this big" tale is often told by an 
impressive liar. 

Reasoning: Impressive liars want to feel self-assured and liked by others and often lie to hide insecurities or embarrassment. 

How to Deal: Let an impressive liar's lie roll off you. If something sounds too good to be true, say, "Yeah, sure," and walk away 
or change the topic. 

An impressive liar doesn't lie to be malicious or mean-spirited. They lie to fabricate the truth to match their wild version of 
reality. 

Rudy, the Encouraging Liar 

An Encouraging liar lies to welcome conflict. Encouraging liars lie to scheme, manipulate, or intentionally harm; they lie to 
keep the argument going. Conflict is their best case scenario, and these liars often dance around the truth to court 
confrontation. 

Reasoning: Encouraging liars are likely dishonest to further confrontation. 

How to Deal: Don't let an Encouraging liar drag you away from an important conversation. 

Encouraging liars usually lie every day; however, the more they lie, the easier it'll become and the more often they'll do it. 

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AlleyCat is one of the several people who dominate Rudy on a daily basis, keeping their bootheels on his little pencil neck to 
the amusement of all. 

THIS is why Rudy is Rudy: 

When Dad Isn't There 

Research has found that when a father is not present it is likely: 

The infant was born pre-term or low birth weight or with dwarfism. 

Many of these families will be low-income households. 

Children may struggle with regulating emotions which can lead to an increase in aggressive behavior and difficulty with social 
skills. Ding! Ding! Ding! Ding! Ding! 

A child will become involved in risky behavior. 

Sons have the potential to struggle with gender identity and role confusion. 

Even if the biological father role is filled by another, some of these figures become temporary or have the potential of being 
abusive. 

Children will be left with feelings of blame or emptiness as to why their father left. 

Where Did He Go? 

What is the reason these fathers are not staying around? Though simply having children can suggest being a father, for many men 
there is more a father wants to provide for their family. Unemployment and lack of education can be contributing factors as to 
why fathers leave.5 When men feel they are not meeting the social demands that define fathers, the idea of achieving other 
fatherly roles decreases and it may seem easier to leave. Other reasons for father absence can include imprisonment, 
infidelity, and abuse. 

How to Help Children of Absent Fathers 

Though the negative consequences of father absence can be disheartening, there is still hope for these children. 

Include positive extended male family figures in the child's life. Children can form strong relationships as they have a safe, 
stable male figure to rely upon as they grow up. This could come from a grandparent, uncle, or another positive male family 
member. When these men are present for monumental moments in life, as well as day-to-day interactions, a void can be filled, and 
the child's confidence can grow.4 Including extended family can also provide another resource for the mother to help 
reduce stress overload and feelings of loneliness. 

If there is no male family member available or near to help, try finding a mentor in the community. When a child is able to spend 
time with a successful individual in their community, different doors of potential are opened to them to see ways that they can 
become successful.8 Examples of mentors could be coaches, teachers, after school staff, ecclesiastical leaders, etc. 

Find support groups in the local area. Just like children can find mentors, single mothers can find others working through these 
difficulties. There truly is strength in numbers. Brainstorm, network, and help each other. Though the past may not change, the 
future trajectory can be a positive one. Make time for you. 

Growing up without a father brings risks, but that does not determine you or your child's future. Fatherless families can become 
resilient in their circumstance. Let those who your child will be interacting with know of their struggles. Teachers, caretakers, 
and other community figures can help alleviate the difficulties your child may face. But they cannot help if they are not aware. 
Remember, there is hope for brighter tomorrows. There are fathers who chose to stay in their child's life after 
growing up without their father. You do not have to let the absentee determine what your family will become. For stories of hope 
please visit the references below.