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In article <MPG.42d4d9d22ffa3cb598bc46@news.eternal-september.org>,
AlleyCat  <katt@gmail.com> wrote:
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>There Are Several Theories For Why Rudy Can't Stop Lying
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>Rudy's An Undeserved Narcissist
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>Narcisists are often pathological liars, because they simply don't care about 
>the truth.
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>They prefer to tell lies and gain control over people than be honest.
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>Sometimes, compulsive liars are highly impulsive people who struggle to take 
>the time to think things through and tell the truth.
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>Lying doesn't necessarily make you a bad person, but it could be a sign of 
>something more sinister.
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>By the age of three or four, we all start to lie. At this point in our brain's 
>development, we learn that we have an incredibly versatile and powerful tool at 
>our disposal - our language - and we can use it to actually play with reality 
>and affect the outcome of what's happening.
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>Sooner or later we learn that lying is "bad," and we shouldn't really do it. 
>But if Jim Carey's "Liar Liar" taught us anything, it's that this just isn't 
>feasible. We all have to lie sometimes.
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>But some people are pathological liars, meaning they can't stop spreading 
>misinformation about themselves and others. The psychological reasons for why 
>some people are this way is a bit of a mystery, but in the third edition of the 
>Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, pathological lying is a 
>disorder in its own right, as well as a symptom of personality disorders like 
>psychopathy and narcissism.
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>"I think it comes from a defect in the neurological wiring in terms of what 
>causes us to have compassion and empathy," psychiatrist Judith Orloff, author 
>of "The Empath's Survival Guide," told Business Insider. "Because narcissists, 
>sociopaths, and psychopaths have what's called empathy deficient disorder, 
>meaning they don't feel empathy in the way we would."
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>The Truth Doesn't Matter to Narcissists
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>When you don't care about other people, lies don't seem to matter. A lack of 
>empathy essentially means a lack of conscience, which is a hard concept to 
>grasp for a lot of people.
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>"When they lie it doesn't hurt them in the same way it would hurt us," Orloff 
>said. "So many people get into relationships with pathological liars, or just 
>can't understand why they're lying, because they're trying to fit these people 
>into the ordinary standards of what it means to be empathetic."
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>But they don't fit. In fact, they may not even realize they are lying half the 
>time, because they're not conscious of it. Orloff said they actually believe 
>they are telling the truth a lot of the time. It's not so much about the fact 
>itself, she said, as it is about wanting to have power over somebody.
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>This is extremely dangerous for highly sensitive people, because they attract 
>narcissists. Then when they see someone is lying, they try and figure it out, 
>or blame themselves. Once the lies start, it can end with the victim being 
>gaslighted, which is essentially when they are told over and over again that 
>their version of reality is incorrect, and they begin to believe the warped 
>truth of the abuser.
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>"The great power of relationships is when you can tell the truth to one 
>another, and trust each other, and be authentic - and with pathological liars 
>you can't trust them," Orloff said. "You can't base your life around them. It's 
>like a moral deficit, and there's no accountability. Someone who is a 
>pathological liar will not say I'm sorry for doing it. They will say it's your 
>fault."
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>The only way to escape the clutches of a pathological liar is to be strong 
>enough to say "no this is not my fault, this is not ringing true to me, so I 
>can't really trust you," she said.
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>Unfortunately, people tend to doubt themselves, because the lies can escalate 
>subtly. It may start with a small white lie, and a few months later the 
>victim's life with be a mess of confusion because of the web of tall tales that 
>has been woven.
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>"If somebody lies, don't try and make an excuse about it," Orloff said. "A lie 
>is a lie. And if you bring it up to the person and they say it's your fault, or 
>no it didn't happen, just know there's something very wrong going on."
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>Psychologist Linda Blair, an author of many psychology books, told Business 
>Insider some compulsive liars are simply too impulsive to tell the truth. The 
>impulsive-reflective scale is ingrained in our genes, and it's very hard for 
>someone highly impulsive to take the time to think things through, just as it 
>is a challenge for a reflective person to jump into something head first.
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>"If you're an impulsive person, it's really hard to break the habit, because 
>you have this terrible feeling inside you that you have to sort things out 
>right now," Blair said. "So when it comes to your head, you just say it. That 
>doesn't mean you necessarily lie, but it's a little harder for you to stop from 
>lying, more than it is for someone who's more reflective."
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>Pathological lying and narcissism aren't synonymous, they just sometimes go 
>hand in hand. In other cases, compulsive liars just might not have the capacity 
>to stop themselves blurting things out. And Blair said they just need to learn 
>to control their urges and compulsions. Their lies don't necessarily come from 
>a bad place.
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>"I don't think it's something they know how to deal with," she said. "We think 
>probably it has something to do with actual brain function and the way some 
>people's brains work, which makes it much harder for them to understand the 
>effect it will have on other people...  We think, but we just don't know yet 
>for sure."
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