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On Sun, 13 Jul 2025 10:32:16 -0700,  Bud Dickmann says...  

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> On 7/13/2025 6:12 AM, NoBody wrote:
> > On Sat, 12 Jul 2025 23:33:09 -0500, AlleyCat <katt@gmail.com> wrote:
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> >> On Fri, 11 Jul 2025 21:20:17 -0400,  Governor Swill says...
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> >>> Demanding low prices is not a partisan activity.  That's a universal
> >>> goal that crosses party lines.
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> >> BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
> >>
> >> Show us all the posts from the left that complained about Biden's near-double-digit inflation and gas prices going sky-high.
> >>
> > 
> > When it was Biden, they
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> Kremlin Girl / Bit of Nothingness sucks off her fellow right-wingnut Nazi again 
> <yawn>

I can see why you yawn, runt.

You watch gay sex so much... it no longer has an effect on you. Call Lee Lee... he can help.  ;-)

The Democrat Party: BLM/Drag Queen/Gay/Socialist/Antifa Fascist/Marxist/Communist/Racist/Insurrectionist/Liberals

The best of the worst about America.

Democrats have ruined America.

MAGA!

Poor Rudy... gay, lonely, INvalidated, undeserved of the title narcissist... AND jealous.

Lock your doors, people... we have a psychotic trans-lover on the loose and we all know THEIR proclivity for violence.

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Attention Trap Part 1: Narcissism, Validation and Self-Worth

Picture yourself in a newsgroup. What do you do? Do you scan the group looking for someone to fuck with? If no one fucks with you, 
do you feel less validated? Do you feel best when fucking with a person whom you know is smarter, taller, athletic and better 
looking? 

If you've answered yes to any of these questions, you may have fallen into what I call an Attention Trap.

As humans, once our basic needs are met, much of our conscious and unconscious behaviors are meant to make us feel respected and 
validated. But this attention and validation can come from external or internal sources.

Internally, the source of attention and validation is self-esteem. And externally, this attention and validation tends to take one 
of two forms - either the long-term reinforcement of the self that comes from friends, family, or a committed relationship, or the 
short-term benefits of narcissistic behaviors in which we seek attention, admiration or adoration. One is a cure, the other is a 
Band-Aid.

If enough of your external validation comes from attention, it can become an addiction - a dependence on the affirmations of others 
in order to feel a sense of worth.

And believe it or not, you can even see this attention addiction in our online behaviors.

NOOOOO!

In 2011, researchers from the University of Kentucky published this article describing how narcissists and non-narcissists 
represent themselves in internet profiles and communications. Of course, narcissists displayed intentional self-promoting photos on 
their Facebook profile pages, but they were especially likely to use fake photos when they had promoted themselves less in the rest 
of their profile. If they didn't cry for attention with their words, they were even more likely to cry for attention with their 
pictures!

(he's not that tall... lol)

Further research shows the effects of this narcissistic, attention-seeking form of band-aiding the self in comparison with the 
internal experience of self-esteem. Basically, narcissists felt as if they alone were awesome, whereas people with high self-esteem 
felt like both they and their romantic partners were awesome. Self-esteem builds community, whereas narcissistic attention-seeking 
rips it down.

What it comes down to is this: Only through the internal experience of self-esteem can you ensure that your external validation 
takes the form of a constructive relationship instead of serial attention-seeking. Remember, the answer is never outside of 
yourself. It is always inside.