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In <MPG.434c8d62409e8e8098c241@news.eternal-september.org> AlleyCat wrote:
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> Poor Baby Child Rudy - So Lonely... So In Need Of Attention - Begs: Pwease Pway Wif Me!
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> Why ELSE would he be posting about others, harping on their personal traits?

He thinks he's a smart feller, but he's really just a fart smeller.

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> Why Does Narcissistic Rudy Need So Much Attention
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> Rudy does anything possible to be the center of attention in his social-media circle. Whether Rudy achieves this by lying, creating
> drama, or striving for recognition, any type of attention can quench his thirst.
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> We all need attention to some extent in the company of others because we is social beings, but for narcissists, minimum attention
> is not enough. Rudy has a deeper hunger for it. Rudy feels satisfied only when Rudy is the center of attention.
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> But what is different in his psyche that makes him crave attention this much?
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> Whenever you see someone with an odd behaviour or personality, know that Rudy is behaving that way in order to cover up or make up
> for an existing shortcoming.
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> Like his height?
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> LOL
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> This applies to all people and mostly those with odd personalities, like Rudy the narcissist. A lying person will try to look as
> innocent as possible. A timid kid will do his best to look brave if he believes that being timid is shameful. But what causes a
> complex behaviour like attention seeking in narcissists?
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> 1. Rudy Believes That He Deserves It
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> Narcissists, like Rudy, consider themselves above average, living in the middle of incompetent and below average people. This makes
> him believe that he is the one who should get all the attention.
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> Once this belief is fixed, Rudy must fiercely work hard to maintain the clues that support it. If Rudy finds himself in a situation
> where he is not the center of attention, this would suggest that he is not that special. This can badly hurt his fragile ego.
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> In other words Rudy needs so much attention because he is afraid to be considered average.
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> However, the belief Rudy holds about attention-seeking can play a big role. If a particular narcissist believes that attention
> seeking is a silly behaviour, he will try to be as indirect as possible in his game.
> GIVING UP ATTENTION IS NOT AN OPTION.
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> 2. It Is A Source of Narcissistic Supply
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> Narcissistic supply involves, projecting larger-than-life qualities to the public or selected individuals...
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> "Professor Rudy"
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> "Superior Rudy"
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> ... in order to get positive feedback. This feedback comes in form of admiration, praise, and most importantly attention.
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> (Only to HIMSELF!)
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> Note that negative attention is also appreciated to some extent.
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> He would rather get negative attention that zero attention.
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> (BINGO!)
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> This narcissistic supply is the oxygen he breathes. Without it, he would sink into depression and bad moods.
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> 3. To Cover Up Inferiority Feelings. (LOL)
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> The popular definition of narcissism says that, "behind the mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem (inferiority)." And
> that is completely true. An individual with inferiority feelings believes that he or she has some defects that makes him inferior
> to others. These defects can be real or imagined.
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> (Oh, they're real, all right. Dwarfism?)
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> Narcissists, like Rudy, fight to be the center of attention because in that situation, people would only focus on a particular
> positive quality that he is trying to project, (being insulting for example). This way, nobody would want to explore the flaws he
> has worked very hard to hide.
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> Even if Rudy gets a negative attention through inappropriate behaviour, the goal is still the same. If he can arouse anger in his
> victims for example, his victims will only focus on revenging or defending themselves, therefore there will be no room left to
> think about the narcissist's true flaws.
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> 4. He Feels Ignored. (ding ding ding ding... we have a winner!)
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> Feeling invisible is one of Rudy's worst fears.
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> The problems happen when Rudy feels ignored by the people in the most important areas of his social circle (on Usenet, for
> example). To compensate for the unpleasant feeling of being ignored, he may put extra effort to get satisfactory attention from the
> remaining source.
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> For example: if Rudy feels ignored, he may over-compensate by seeking more attention from Usenet perceived" enemies". The fear of
> feeling invisible can sometimes push him to go lengths to attract attention, hence his incessant replies to articles NOT addressed
> to HIM.