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On Thu, 23 Oct 2025 15:26:51 -0700, The Undeserved narcissist Rudy 
Canoza says... 

Woe, is me. I can never live up to what other people have done. I'm just 
a creepy IT guy who has *NEVER* been a 3 sport letterman, *NEVER* been a 
bouncer, *NEVER* been an assistant golf pro, *NEVER* been a lifeguard, 
*NEVER* dunked a basketball, because of his puny stature, *NEVER* been a 
college baseball AND basketball player, and *NEVER* dated the captain of 
the cheer-leading squad as a SOPHOMORE in high school. 

LOL 

On Wed, 22 Oct 2025 10:00:05 -0700, the undeserved narcissist Rudy Canoza 
says... 

> > > > > Fuck off and die 

Show us how, pussy. 

> > > > you cocksucking squat-to-piss do-nothing zero-achieving faggot.
 
> > > Only a small child would say that... while looking in the mirror. 

> You lose again, AlleyPussyBitch. 

Oh yeah, short-shrift? How? By you snipping all what someone else wrote and 
declaring yourself everything that you are not? 

LOL... no... in the eyes of Usenet, writing the way you do and snipping 
things that make you look like a low-class liberal... 

... YOU are the loser. 

You also lose, because you're too stupid to offer any refutations... 
simply snipping what's posted and declaring yourself the winner and 
calling yourself names and giving yourself titles you can never live UP 
to, mainly because you're too short to be anything other than be a court 
jester and an IT's cable runner, because your small enough to go where 
normal-sized people can't. 

LOL 

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AlleyCat is one of the several people who dominate Rudy on a daily basis, 
keeping their bootheels on his little pencil neck to the amusement of all.

Psychologist Stephen Johnson writes that a narcissist is someone who has 
"buried his true self-expression in response to EARLY INJURIES and replaced it 
with a highly developed, compensatory FALSE SELF."

This alternate personna often comes across as grandiose, "above others," self-
absorbed, and highly conceited.

[giggle]

Gaslighting is a form of persistent manipulation and brainwashing that causes 
the victim to doubt her or himself, and to ultimately lose one's own sense of 
perception, identity, and self-worth. A gaslighter's statements and 
accusations are often based on deliberate falsehoods and calculated 
marginalization. The term gaslighting is derived from the 1944 film Gaslight, 
where a husband tries to convince his wife that she's insane by causing her to 
question herself and her reality.

Multiple studies and writings have been done on the impact of narcissism and 
gaslighting on relationships(1)(2)(3)(4)(5)(6). While each of these often 
destructive pathologies is unique, there are certain behavioral overlaps. 
Following are six common traits, with references from my books: "How to 
Successfully Handle Narcissists" and "How to Successfully Handle Gaslighters & 
Stop Psychological Bullying". Not all narcissists and gaslighters possess 
every characteristic identified below. However, chronic narcissists and 
gaslighters are likely to exhibit at least several of the following on a 
regular basis.

1. Frequent Lies and Exaggerations

Both narcissists and gaslighters are prone to frequent lies and exaggerations 
(about themselves and others), and have the tendency of lifting themselves up 
by putting others down. While narcissists often strive to make themselves seem 
superior and "special" by showing off, bragging, taking undeserved credit, and 
other forms of self-aggrandizement, gaslighters tend to concentrate on making 
you feel inferior through false accusations, constant criticism, and 
psychological intimidation. Both narcissists and gaslighters can be adept at 
distortion of facts, deliberate falsehoods, character assassinations, and 
negative coercions. One key difference is that while the narcissist lies and 
exaggerates to boost their fragile self-worth, the gaslighter does so to 
augment their domination and control.

2. Rarely Admit Flaws and Are Highly Aggressive When Criticized

Many narcissists and gaslighters have thin skin and can react poorly when 
called to account for their negative behavior. When challenged, the narcissist 
is likely to either fight (e.g., temper tantrum, excuse-making, denial, blame, 
hypersensitivity, etc.) or take flight (bolt out the door, avoidance, silent 
treatment, sulking resentment, or other forms of passive-aggression). The 
gaslighter nearly always resorts to escalation by doubling or tripling down on 
their false accusations or coercions, to intimidate or oppress their opponent. 
Many gaslighters view relationships as inherently competitive rather than 
collaborative; a zero-sum game where one is either a winner or a loser, on top 
or at the bottom. "Offense is the best defense" is a mantra for many 
gaslighters, which also represents their aggressive method of relating to 
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3. False Image Projection

"My husband always wants people to see him as successful, powerful, and envy-
worthy, no matter how shaky his real life actually is." -Anonymous partner of 
narcissist

Both narcissists and gaslighters tend to project false, idealized images of 
themselves to the world, in order to hide their inner insecurities. Many 
narcissists like to impress others by making themselves look good externally. 
This "trophy complex" can exhibit itself physically, romantically, sexually, 
socially, religiously, financially, materially, professionally, academically, 
or culturally. The underlying message of this display is: "I'm better than 
you!" or "Look at how special I am - I'm worthy of everyone's love, 
admiration, and acceptance!"

Gaslighters, on the other hand, often create an idealized self-image of being 
the dominant, suppressive alpha male or female in personal relationships, at 
the workplace, or in high-profile positions of society (such as politics and 
media). Many gaslighters like to view themselves falsely as all-powerful and 
strong, capable of dishing out judgments and penalties at will. Pathological 
gaslighters often take pride and boost themselves up by marginalizing those 
whom they perceive as weaker, believing that the meek deserve their 
downtrodden fate. They attack their victims with direct or subtle cruelty and 
contempt, gaining sadistic pleasure from these offenses, and betraying a lack 
of empathy and humanity.

In essence, narcissists want others to worship them, while gaslighters want 
others to submit to them. In a big way, these external facades become pivotal 
parts of their false identities, replacing the real and insecure self.

4. Rule Breaking and Boundary Violation

Many narcissists and gaslighters enjoy getting away with violating rules and 
social norms. Examples of narcissistic trespass include cutting in line, 
chronic under-tipping, personal space intrusion, borrowing items without 
returning, using other's properties without asking, disobeying traffic laws, 
breaking appointments, and negating promises. Examples of gaslighting trespass 
include direct or subtle marginalizing remarks, public or private shaming and 
humiliation, sardonic humor and sarcastic comments, internet trolling, angry 
and hateful speech, and virulent attacks on undesirable individuals and 
groups.
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Both narcissist and gaslighter boundary violations presume entitlement, with a 
narrow, egocentric orientation that oppresses and de-humanizes their victims. 
In severe cases, this boundary violation pathology may result in illicit and 
underhanded dealings, financial abuse, sexual harassment, date rape, domestic 
abuse, hate crimes, human rights violations, and other forms of criminality. 
Many narcissists and gaslighters take pride in their destructive behaviors, as 
their machinations provide them with a hollow (and desperate) sense of 
superiority and privilege.

5. Emotional Invalidation and Coercion

Although narcissists and gaslighters can be (but are not always) physically 
abusive, for the majority of their victims, emotional suffering is where the 
damage is most painfully felt. Both narcissists and gaslighters enjoy 
spreading and arousing negative emotions in order to feel powerful, and keep 
you insecure and off-balance. They habitually invalidate others' thoughts, 
feelings, and priorities, showing little remorse for causing people in their 
lives pain. They often blame their victims for having caused their own 
victimization ("You wouldn't get yelled at if you weren't so stupid!").

In addition, many narcissists and gaslighters have unpredictable mood swings 
and are prone to emotional drama - you never know what might displease them 
and set them off. They become upset at any signs of independence and self-
affirmation ("Who do you think you are!?"). They turn agitated if you disagree 
with their views or fail to meet their expectations. As mentioned earlier, 
they are sensitive to criticism, but quick to judge others. By keeping you 
down and making you feel inferior, they boost their fragile ego, and feel more 
reassured about themselves.

6. Manipulation: The Use or Control of Others as an Extension of Oneself

Both narcissists and gaslighters have a tendency to make decisions for others 
to suit their own agenda. Narcissists may use their romantic partner, child, 
family, friend, or colleague to meet unreasonable self-serving needs, fulfill 
unrealized dreams, or cover-up weaknesses and shortcomings. Narcissists are 
also fond of using guilt, blame, and victim-hood as manipulative devices.
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Gaslighters conduct psychological manipulation toward individuals and groups 
through persistent distortion of the truth, with the intention of causing 
their victims to question themselves and feel less confident. In personal 
and/or professional environments, they manipulate by micromanaging 
(controlling) relationships, including telling others how they should think, 
feel, and behave under the gaslighter's unreasonable restrictions and 
scrutiny. They often become critical, angry, intimidating, and/or hostile 
toward those who fail to bow down to their directives. Gaslighter manipulation 
is often highly aggressive, with punitive measures (tangible or psychological) 
executed toward those who fail to recognize and obey their self-perceived 
authority.

Perhaps the biggest distinction between narcissists and gaslighters is that 
narcissists use and exploit, and gaslighters dominate and control. While the 
narcissist does so to compensate for a desperate sense of deficiency (of being 
unloved as the real self), the gaslighter does so to hide their ever-present 
insecurity (of being powerless and losing control). Both of these pathological 
types betray an inability and/or unwillingness to relate to people genuinely 
and equitably as human beings. They become "special" and "superior" by being 
less human and by de-humanizing others.

In the worst-case scenario, some individuals possess traits of both narcissism 
and gaslighting. This is a highly toxic and destructive combination of vanity, 
manipulation, bullying, and abuse - all unleashed in order to compensate for 
the perpetrator's deep-seated sense of inadequacy and fear.