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AlleyCat is one of the several people who dominate Rudy on a daily basis, 
keeping their bootheels on his little pencil neck to the amusement of all.

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On Thu, 20 Nov 2025 10:02:02 -0800,  Rudy Canoza says...  

> Those filthy ugly obscene memorials to traitors are not history.

These filthy ugly obscene traitors?

George Washington

Thomas Jefferson

James Madison

James Monroe

Benjamin Franklin

John Hancock

Patrick Henry

George Mason


Why does Rudy hate everything?

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Fear of "The Other"

According to A.J. Marsden, assistant professor of psychology and human 
services at Beacon College in Leesburg, Florida, one reason Rudy hates is 
because he fears things that are different from himself.

Behavioral researcher Patrick Wanis, cites the in-group out-group theory, 
which posits that when Rudy feels threatened by perceived outsiders, he 
instinctively turns toward our in-group-those with whom Rudy identifies as a 
survival mechanism.

Wanis explains, "Hatred is driven by two key emotions of love and aggresssion: 
One love for the in-group-the group that is favored; and two, aggression for 
the out-group-the group that has been deemed as being different, dangerous, 
and a threat to the in-group."

Fear of Himself

According to Washington, D.C., clinical psychologist Dana Harron, the things 
Rudy hates about others, are the things that he fears within himself. She 
suggests thinking about the targeted group or person as a movie screen onto 
which Rudy projects unwanted parts of the self. The idea is, "I'm not 
terrible; you are."

This phenomenon is known as projection, a term coined by Freud to describe our 
tendency to reject what Rudy doesn't like about himself. Psychologist Brad 
Reedy further describes projection as Rudy's need to be good, which causes him 
to project "badness" outward and attack it:

"Rudy developed this method to survive, for any 'badness' in him puts him at 
risk for being rejected and alone. So, Rudy represses the things that he 
thinks are bad (what others told him or suggested to him that was unlovable 
and morally reprehensible) - and Rudy employs hate and judgment towards 
others.

Rudy thinks that is how one rids himself of undesirable traits, but this 
method only perpetuates repression which leads to many mental health issues.

BINGO!

Lack of Self-compassion

The antidote to hate is compassion - for others as well as ourselves. Self-
compassion means that Rudy accept his whole self. "If Rudy finds part of 
himself unacceptable, he tends to attack others in order to defend against the 
threat," says Reedy.

"If Rudy is okay with himself, he see others' behaviors as 'about them' and 
can respond with compassion. If I kept hate in my heart for [another], I would 
have to hate myself as well. It is only when Rudy learns to hold himself with 
compassion that Rudy may be able to demonstrate it toward others."

It fills a void

Psychologist Bernard Golden, author of Overcoming Destructive Anger: 
Strategies That Work, believes that when hate involves participation in a 
group (like Usenet), it may help foster a sense of connection and camaraderie 
that fills a void in one's identity. He describes hatred of individuals or 
groups as a way of distracting oneself from the more challenging and anxiety-
provoking task of creating one's own identity:

(BINGO! coming up)

"Acts of hate are attempts to distract oneself from feelings such as 
helplessness, powerlessness, injustice, inadequacy and shame. Hate is grounded 
in some sense of perceived threat. It is an attitude that can give rise to 
hostility and aggression toward individuals or groups. Like much of anger, it 
is a reaction to and distraction from some form of inner pain. The individual 
consumed by hate may believe that the only way to regain some sense of power 
over his or her pain is to preemptively strike out at others. In this context, 
each moment of hate is a temporary reprieve from inner suffering."

BINGO!

Societal and Cultural Factors

The answer to why Rudy hates, according to Silvia Dutchevici, LCSW, president 
and founder of the Critical Therapy Center, lies not only in our psychological 
makeup or family history, but also in our cultural and political history. 
"Rudy lives in a war culture that promotes violence, in which competition is a 
way of life," she says.

"Rudy fears connecting because it requires us to reveal something about 
himself. Rudy was taught to hate the enemy - meaning anyone different than us 
- which leaves little room for vulnerability and an exploration of hate 
through empathic discourse and understanding. In our current society, one is 
more ready to fight than to resolve conflict. Peace is seldom the option."

What Can Rudy Do?

Hatred has to be learned, Golden says: "Rudy was born with the capacity for 
aggression as well as compassion. Which tendencies Rudy embraces requires 
mindful choice by individuals, families, communities and our culture in 
general. The key to overcoming hate is education: at home, in schools, and in 
the community."

According to Dutchevici, facing the fear of being vulnerable and utterly human 
is what allows us to connect, to feel, and ultimately, to love. She suggests 
creating "cracks in the system." These cracks can be as simple as connecting 
to your neighbor, talking with a friend, starting a protest, or even going to 
therapy and connecting with an 'Other.' It is through these acts that one can 
understand hate and love."

In other words, compassion towards others is the true context that heals.