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On Fri, 26 Apr 2024 10:58:26 -0700,  Rudy Canoza says...  

> You lose again, pussy. You *always* lose.

Naaah... you ALWAYS lose... loser.

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AlleyCat is one of the several people who dominate Rudy on a daily basis, 
keeping their bootheels on his little pencil neck to the amusement of all.

There Are Several Theories For Why Rudy Can't Stop Lying

Rudy's An Undeserved Narcissist

Narcisists are often pathological liars, because they simply don't care about 
the truth.

They prefer to tell lies and gain control over people than be honest.

Sometimes, compulsive liars are highly impulsive people who struggle to take 
the time to think things through and tell the truth.

Lying doesn't necessarily make you a bad person, but it could be a sign of 
something more sinister.

By the age of three or four, we all start to lie. At this point in our brain's 
development, we learn that we have an incredibly versatile and powerful tool at 
our disposal - our language - and we can use it to actually play with reality 
and affect the outcome of what's happening.

Sooner or later we learn that lying is "bad," and we shouldn't really do it. 
But if Jim Carey's "Liar Liar" taught us anything, it's that this just isn't 
feasible. We all have to lie sometimes.

But some people are pathological liars, meaning they can't stop spreading 
misinformation about themselves and others. The psychological reasons for why 
some people are this way is a bit of a mystery, but in the third edition of the 
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, pathological lying is a 
disorder in its own right, as well as a symptom of personality disorders like 
psychopathy and narcissism.

"I think it comes from a defect in the neurological wiring in terms of what 
causes us to have compassion and empathy," psychiatrist Judith Orloff, author 
of "The Empath's Survival Guide," told Business Insider. "Because narcissists, 
sociopaths, and psychopaths have what's called empathy deficient disorder, 
meaning they don't feel empathy in the way we would."

The Truth Doesn't Matter to Narcissists

When you don't care about other people, lies don't seem to matter. A lack of 
empathy essentially means a lack of conscience, which is a hard concept to 
grasp for a lot of people.

"When they lie it doesn't hurt them in the same way it would hurt us," Orloff 
said. "So many people get into relationships with pathological liars, or just 
can't understand why they're lying, because they're trying to fit these people 
into the ordinary standards of what it means to be empathetic."

But they don't fit. In fact, they may not even realize they are lying half the 
time, because they're not conscious of it. Orloff said they actually believe 
they are telling the truth a lot of the time. It's not so much about the fact 
itself, she said, as it is about wanting to have power over somebody.

This is extremely dangerous for highly sensitive people, because they attract 
narcissists. Then when they see someone is lying, they try and figure it out, 
or blame themselves. Once the lies start, it can end with the victim being 
gaslighted, which is essentially when they are told over and over again that 
their version of reality is incorrect, and they begin to believe the warped 
truth of the abuser.

"The great power of relationships is when you can tell the truth to one 
another, and trust each other, and be authentic - and with pathological liars 
you can't trust them," Orloff said. "You can't base your life around them. It's 
like a moral deficit, and there's no accountability. Someone who is a 
pathological liar will not say I'm sorry for doing it. They will say it's your 
fault."

The only way to escape the clutches of a pathological liar is to be strong 
enough to say "no this is not my fault, this is not ringing true to me, so I 
can't really trust you," she said.

Unfortunately, people tend to doubt themselves, because the lies can escalate 
subtly. It may start with a small white lie, and a few months later the 
victim's life with be a mess of confusion because of the web of tall tales that 
has been woven.

"If somebody lies, don't try and make an excuse about it," Orloff said. "A lie 
is a lie. And if you bring it up to the person and they say it's your fault, or 
no it didn't happen, just know there's something very wrong going on."

Psychologist Linda Blair, an author of many psychology books, told Business 
Insider some compulsive liars are simply too impulsive to tell the truth. The 
impulsive-reflective scale is ingrained in our genes, and it's very hard for 
someone highly impulsive to take the time to think things through, just as it 
is a challenge for a reflective person to jump into something head first.

"If you're an impulsive person, it's really hard to break the habit, because 
you have this terrible feeling inside you that you have to sort things out 
right now," Blair said. "So when it comes to your head, you just say it. That 
doesn't mean you necessarily lie, but it's a little harder for you to stop from 
lying, more than it is for someone who's more reflective."

Pathological lying and narcissism aren't synonymous, they just sometimes go 
hand in hand. In other cases, compulsive liars just might not have the capacity 
to stop themselves blurting things out. And Blair said they just need to learn 
to control their urges and compulsions. Their lies don't necessarily come from 
a bad place.

"I don't think it's something they know how to deal with," she said. "We think 
probably it has something to do with actual brain function and the way some 
people's brains work, which makes it much harder for them to understand the 
effect it will have on other people...  We think, but we just don't know yet 
for sure."