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On Sat, 27 Apr 2024 14:07:02 -0700, Mr. B1ack says... 

> > Shut it, pussy
> 
> Fuck off, you squat-to-piss do-nothing lifelong failure. You're the only one 
> play "semantic games."
> 
> Facts:
> 
>* you didn't "report" me to DHS

Keep thinking that, psycho.

>* they would tell you to fuck off even if you had

Really? Homeland Security tells people to fuck off?

Prove it. YOU made the claim, and your butt-buddy Ski bunny says those who make 
claims have to prove them true. Have at it.

>* but you didn't
 
Keep thinking that, psycho.

I'm sure the dossier getting thicker as I type. [giggle]

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AlleyCat is one of the several people who dominate Rudy on a daily basis, 
keeping their bootheels on his little pencil neck to the amusement of all.

Narcissistic Rudy's Sociopathic Alternate Reality

The Narcissist's Reality - How It's SO Different From Yours

Wouldn't it be nice to live in the narcissist's reality? You're always right. 
You're the best at everything. You're an expert at all things you do or haven't 
even tried.

As Dr. Les Carter says, there's an alternate reality and always an agenda when 
it comes to the narcissist. I thought it would be interesting to break down the 
top six ways the narcissist lives in a different reality and how it's not 
healthy for you and me.

1) The narcissist is always the victim.

The narcissist has a lot of pain from the past and is skilled at projecting 
that pain on everyone else. If you call the narcissist out on a cruel or 
inappropriate action or response, and he or she feels violated, criticized, 
demeaned. The narcissist will become the victim because that keeps the 
narcissist from having to look within. This is referred to as a narcissistic 
injury. And the narcissist can play a very good victim. It takes the focus off 
what the narcissist did wrong, and it puts you on the defensive as the 
perpetrator.

For example, I remember catching a narcissist in my life stealing. I asked him 
why. The response was, "I didn't grow up with a silver spook in my mouth like 
you did, Laura." His reply hurt for two reasons: one, I grew up in a middle-
class family in Arkansas, and secondly, stealing is wrong. No matter how you 
look at it, it's against the law.

2) It's always your fault.

If anything goes wrong it's your fault, no matter the offender. Remember, 
narcissists believe they are perfect and everyone else is not. How could it be 
his or her fault?

My ex-husband and I were driving south on Interstate 35 one Thanksgiving 
morning. A car hit us from behind. He was driving. But guess who got blamed for 
the accident? Me, even though I was sitting in the passenger seat. You got it. 
It was my fault. 

When we got into an argument one day, he called me white trash. It wasn't about 
anything significant of course, but whatever it was turned out to be MY fault. 
The narcissist is never to blame.

3) You walk on eggshells because the punishment doesn't fit the crime.

With the narcissist, the punishment never fits the crime. Usually there's not 
even a crime to begin with.The narcissist may dole out harsh criticism, the 
silent treatment or a combination of both to "punish" you and have you begging 
for forgiveness. Remember, the narcissist is great at being the injured party, 
even when the narcissist is actually the perpetrator.

There's no proportion. The drama doesn't end, no matter how much you tiptoe 
around your home.

4) The narcissist is the greatest at everything

I remember being in church with the narcissist and listening to the criticism 
fly. We were listening to a Doctor of Theology preach. But guess who knew more 
than the pastor? You got it. The narcissist said he knew more. He also knew how 
to dress better than the pastor, he said. It was difficult to focus on the 
sermon and worshiping due to the barrage of criticism. 

Narcissists also believe they are so good at life, that they shouldn't surround 
themselves with anyone "less than" them. (If you'll notice they have few is any 
good friends.) That's why the narcissist doesn't engage with anyone he feels 
inferior or that can't do something for the narcissist. 

5) The narcissist always has an agenda.

The narcissist almost does something with the end in mind. The narcissist must 
get something from a situation or person, or the narcissist won't take part. 
The narcissist looks at life like a Monopoly game. There's a strategy or 
manipulative tactic put in place in order to gain money, people, and things, 
regardless if it hurts the other person financially or emotionally. I've known 
narcissists who leave an ex-wife and children homeless, while the narcissists 
walk away free of guilt and trauma. If it works for the narcissist, then that's 
how the narcissist believes the game should be played. 

6) There is no peace with a narcissist.

The narcissist takes pride and pleasure in disrupting your world. Seeing you in 
emotional pain is something the narcissist relishes. Why? The more pain you 
carry, the easier it is for the narcissist to control you and those around you. 
The narcissist also understands that if you are isolated due to your pain or 
his control, then that's even better. He has you at his disposal, broken down, 
ready to please. 

Also, the narcissist likes for your home life, social life and professional 
life to revolve around him or her. The narcissist does it by causing 
disruption, then often fixing the problem he caused. For example, I can recall 
numerous arguments the narcissist provoked, only to come back and give an empty 
apology such as, "I'm sorry, but you push my buttons. Can you calm down and we 
talk about this rationally?" The narcissist looks like the hero, and you're 
left wondering what just happened.

Life with a narcissist is a rollercoaster. There are so many ups and downs, all 
orchestrated to have high control. But there are ways to get off the roller 
coaster. First of all, don't get on board in the first place. Focus on your 
truth. Don't let the narcissist sway your beliefs of what you know to be true. 
Journal or keep a notebook of incidents you know occurred. 

Secondly, find some peace every day. Take the dog for a walk. Phone a trusted 
friend. Get grounded in reality. There are good people out there who want you 
to be healthy emotionally and physically. 

Finally, live your best life. Avoid toxic people. If you can't avoid the 
narcissist, put strong boundaries in place. The narcissist won't like it, but 
you will become stronger. Time away from toxic people helps you heal and see 
things clearly. You can more easily live your life. That's the best karma out 
there. And you accelerate that karma by taking care of you.